Has anybody been in my shoes?

Question

Maybe I'm a jealous woman, I don't know. I live in a apartment building where unless your inside your own apartment privacy is something you can't have. The trouble I'm having is that a lady who lives down the hall from us is always around, mostly my husband. She asks him when he gets off at midnight to go for coffee, watch tv, stuff like that. Should I be worried? I trust my husband entirely but it's her I don't trust. My co-workers who I have shared my thoughts with think I should give her a verbal warning and then a physical one if that don't work. Any suggestions or thoughts?

Answer 1

Your co-workers are right. Fight for him or lose him. Tell her, and you can do it in a nice way, to stay away from your man. If she knows you object, then she may quit. If not then kick her ***.

Answer 2

I've been in a similar situation except the woman in question had a boyfriend. I know that my husband enjoyed the attention but I also know that it didn't go any further than that. One day when my husband was at work I got fed up with all the gossip I had heard around the apartments and went and knocked on her door. No answer. So I left a note addressed to her just saying that I knew what was going on and that it had better stop NOW! I figured that if her boyfriend saw the note it would ensure that she did stay away. It did. It also didn't hurt that most of the neighbors knew I was madder than they had ever seen me.

Answer 3

Absolutely, this woman is way off base. How does your husband react? He needs to shut her down immediately and permanently, something simple like i'm married so that won't be happening (whatever it is she is asking him to do). If you do it she will just conivnce herself that you are the evil woman who is interfering but that your husband really wants to, it may even cause her to step up her pursuit. She obviously has boundary issues so you can't approach her like you would a person with normal ideas about things. In order to make it clear to her it has to come from him, not that he should contact her just next time she invites him to do something he needs to put a stop to it then stop communicating with her at all. If your husband doesn't get it ask him how he would feel if it was a guy doing the same thing with you. There are some people you just can't be nice to and as a guy we both know he doesn't get the games that woman are capable of playing.

Answer 4

So your husband goes for coffee and to her apartment to watch tv when he gets home from work? If this is correct then I think it's his place to tell the woman NO! If he is not willing to do that then I think the warning should go to him! Even if it starts out harmless, it won't stay that way so you need to nip this in the bud immediately. If your husband isn't messing around with her, he should at least be sensitive enough to your feelings to tell the woman NO!

Answer 5

Well if you trust your husband and believe that he will not cheat with these other women than I wouldn't fret. But On the other hand I wouldn't want to watch another women try and put the moves on mine. You see, I'm a jealous person and If someone were to do the same thing to my husband/boyfriend I would warn her to stop and if that doesn't work I'll make something happen to her, but not hurting her but something that she would see and freak out and would stay away from my man.

Answer 6

oh my gosh the ***** is gona end up seducing him, look a man is as faithful as his options, you need to put a stop to her and tell her that she is disrespecting your family , if he wants to get cofee with a woman it will be with yu not her, and the only one concerned as to what time he gets off work is you and not her bussines.you should be defenitely worried even if you trust your husband, i have been through that and i never put a stop to it because i thought i wa being jealous yu have a right to bejealous to defend your family, talk to yur husband and let him know how much it bothers you , this is very serious , give her a verval warning and if she wont listen, tell him you dont wana be there because it can destroy your family, it is very dificult to get over an affair. and this seems like the very begining of one.

Answer 7

well first off I would tell your husband that it bothers you... THEN I would tell her to stay away from MY MAN and if she continues to do it tell your husband you would really appreciate it if he didnt spend time with her and if he continues to do it WHOOP his behind for disrespecting your wishes! I know its the woman you dont trust but your husband doesnt HAVE to spend time with her its his choice he can just tell her hes not interested and that should take care of it... If it doesnt I would say you need to find a new place to live I wouldnt like that I have to have privacy!

Answer 8

Does your husband actually GO have COFFEE with her at midnight? Or go watch tv? If so, then yea, you should be saying something...to HIM...If he makes her thinks this type of behaviour is okay and appropriate...that needs to stop.

If he isn't leading her on, then yes, by all means, put this woman in her place.

Answer 9

Yikes, sounds like shes definately interested in your hubby. Hows your husband feel about this. Does he go over there? Is he flattered? Tell your husband to tell her to back off that he is not interested and he is a happily married man. If he can do that she will stay away.. but is he flattered by it and wont tell her to leave him alone?? He definately needs to be the one telling her that... he also should totally ignore her..

Answer 10

So your man isn't being loyal to you --- that's why you all turned out by the situation ---- the woman ain't the problem - it's your husband who keeps taking the bait --- You should find out why your huband isn't respecting you and the marriage. ... time for a heart to heart talk with that man! Because when he respects you - he won't be having playdates with another woman --- he'd tell her no and that she should find someone who's available ---