Should I forgive or not?

Question

My fiance and I we have given us some space because of differences we had well mean while he has two jobs never haves time for me or a excused that he was tired or what ever, know a few days ago I had a feeling that something was wrong and that I had to go to his house and find out what it was that was eating me inside of me, so it comes to that I caught him with another girl there were not hugging or kissing or neither making love there ready to go out and after I punch him and slap a few times he did not had the pants to tell me what was going on or why he did it, the girl inside the truck will not confront me so I told her how long you being seeing each other and she said just a couples of weeks ago and he told me that same thing. I love this guy so much that I don't know what to do if let him go or forgive him? We were planning of getting marry I'm so confused.

Answer 1

nope

Answer 2

First of all he was using the fact that he's been working two jobs as an excuse to get away from u, so his other job must have been the other woman. Second if he can have you at home waiting on him and u except it, then he will do it again if u just let him get away with it. Cut your loses and find some one who can treat u the way u need to be treated. you shouldn't have to guess if u are loved or not!

Answer 3

Come on now, why would you even think about marrying a guy like this? He has shown you who he really is and if you choose to ignore that and marry him anyway because you want him to be something else then you deserve whatever hurt you get in the future from him. Don't be foolish here, you aren't even married yet and he is already cheating, what do you think the chances are that he will actually be faithful to you for the rest of your life? HINT....there is zero chance that will happen!

Answer 4

You should always forgive, because holding on to anger only hurts you. However, that doesn't mean you should still be with him. That's a decision that only you can make, but if he's seeing someone else, he's not ready for marriage and he's not as serious as you are, so if you do continue to see him, you should remember that he just isn't ready and you can't push him into being a good boyfirend or husband, only wait and see if he wants to be one. And if you expect immediate change, just move on.

Answer 5

He is not ready to get married, and neither are you, especially with each other. if you want to try to work thinkgs out with him after he CHEATED on you, that is up to you, but there are NO quick fixes, it will take time-lots of time. It will not be easy, and you will probably find out more things that you wont like, but that is the price you must pay to work it out.
Me-I'd dump him and start over. No matter how many times he said he was sorry, said it would never happen again, I would always wonder whenever he was not with me.

Answer 6

1. He is either definitely not the one, or
2. This is definitely not the time. If the answer is 1. You just need to move on, and the only way it could be #2. is if you guys are in serious counseling. It doesn't sound like he is ready for the same commitment you are, so don't hurt yourself any longer.

Answer 7

I think if you are already taking a break from each other...that it is probably not working out as planned anyways and honestly it is not a good way to start out a life together. I would step aside and go about your business...fine someone who does want to be with you.....there really is someone out there just for you.....you just found a guppy...now you need to find a shark....there is a big sea out there...don't be in a hurry to marry just any ol' fish. Good luck.

Answer 8

No please don't do it, this is the begining of the end. It will continue to be like this. Think of that pain and betrayal you are feeling and hold on to that keep next to your heart. Picture this, you are in the altar ready to say your vows. Can you stand there and look at him with out any recentment and believe he will only love you. For better or worse and forsaking all others. Forgive him and move on.

Answer 9

well it both of you want space and that how it happen you should be so happy that you didn't married him if you did and you need space adn you see him with other woman and then you would want divorced.

I thnk it time for you to move on.. I know you don't want to hear this but it is imporant that things don't work out and itt been couples of weeks and seem that they already starting having process of being in love. and no good for you to get him back in your life. and it gone. He has no feelings fo ryou and so that sad.

So you need really get yourself first before you do anything else... think about you and wha tyou need to do what you need to take care of. ok.

Answer 10

well if both of them said they were seeing each other for some weeks he was being dishonest and a marriage will never have any chance if you can't trust him you should let him go and get on with your life it's a man out there that's willing to give you the time and attention that you deserve leave him alone youre better off

Answer 11

well i would certainly dump him. if he doesnt apprectiate you enough for you to be his one and only, he is not meant you you. sorry girl. especially if they have been together for a couple weeks! and plus he kept a secret from you? i wouldnt ever be able to trust him again. but if you think you could trust him again then just have a real long deep talk with him and figure thigs out. in the end its all up to you. and plus he never has time for his future wife!? thats not good!

good luck!

p.s.
if you forgive him it just sends him the message that you will always forgive & forget so he might do it again!