2006-07-19 10:54:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK are you ready? My husband and I just had this talk. We both knew it was coming and neither wanted to say it. We've been married 22 years. I finally sat him down and said I love him more than anyone and I don't want anyone else. I don't want to leave or for him to leave. I can't imagine being without him, he's been my best friend for too many years. I don't want a divorce, I just don't want to be married anymore. Sounds stupid, I know, but that's how I feel. He said he felt pretty much the same way. We had a long talk and set up a bedroom for me. We are going to continue living like this until one of us finds someone else or just wants more privacy or whatever. We took off our wedding rings and put them away for our daughter. Since that day, the entire house has been much happier. We get along better than we have in years now that the tension is gone. As I say, we both knew it was over years ago, but neither wanted to actually leave the other. It isn't that we didn't like each other as people, or we had a fight, hardly ever, we just lost the feeling of intimate love for each other. We both love and care for the other, just as you said, not in "that" way.
Our friends think we're nuts, but it works for now. Maybe forever, who knows?
Good luck in however you decide to do it.
2006-07-19 12:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by josie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You either love her or not. In that way? When you love someone, you take chances to do whatever makes the relationship work as long as there's not danger or life threatening situations involved. So, what if it's not your thing now, you may grow to love it too, as time pass if given the chance. If it was a young w---- outside wanting to get the works, you wouldn't hesitate to build your ego. So, why not try to keep your spouse happy before she's forced to try getting things resolved elsewhere.
2006-07-19 18:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you love her as a friend...a forever friend who has a deep deep place in your heart. You're just not "in-love" with her and it's unfair to her and to yourself to go on pretending that you do. It will not be easy to say but in the long run, you'll both be better off. Pray over this answer before you make the desicion to tell her, so you might receive guidance from God.
2006-07-19 18:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by TCPBCP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you love her or you don't. What in the world is not in that way.
2006-07-19 17:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont love her in that way... maybe you can love me in that way! A/S/L
2006-07-20 21:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by CHIKITA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what way is "that" way? and if you don't love her in "that" way, why the HELL did you marry her??? Isn't that what marriage is all about?
2006-07-19 17:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anal.
2006-07-20 03:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by bigdykeyloser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋