why dont i want to go to church regular????

Question

i believe in god and jesus.
i consider myself to be a christian., but most weeks i totally dont feel a strong desire to attend church.
some nites i read my bible..i think sunday i will go..when saturday gets here..ive changed my mind!!
today is wednesday..yesterday i planed to go..today..no desire.
as a believer in god/jesus..this doesnt seem natural !!! what do u feel is wrong?
only serious christian replys please. and yes i do pray.
i used to sing at church before my mom died of alsheimers..she was my support team.
my hubby want go to church..says he doesnt trust preachers..so many bad ones..chasing women etc.
ok help me out any ideas>???

Answer 1

I don't think your situation is unnatural at all. First of all, your mom was your biggest support - where did that support manifest itself most readily? It seems by the way you stated in your question - she supported you as a person and also your love for singing & worship. I don't think I'm going out on a limb by saying she probably encouraged you in that area and loved to hear you sing at church as well. Going to church without her there could be a real downer. Not that I don't think that you shouldn't try. I just want you to realize that there are probably many reasons that you might be feeling this way. Both I and my husband have been Christians for many years, but he often works late into the wee hours on Saturday and come Sunday morning, Jesus Himself would have to appear in our bedroom in order to get him out of bed and into church. When my husband doesn't go, I have difficulty getting myself out of bed to get me and the kids ready, fed and out the door. All that being said, it may not be easy, it may not be what you feel like doing, but it's probably what you ought to do. Sometimes you just need to get past the "I don't feel like it" phase and just do what you know you should be doing. Sometimes you need to ignore the initial emotion and just start walking. Once you get there, you know you are going to be blessed. The feeling of wanting to be there might just have to wait until after you get there. God bless you and just keep walking, sister! ~mattie~

Answer 2

Not every Christian goes to church and not everyone who goes to church is Christian. It does not you a Christian. What makes a person a Christian is what they believe. Which going to church can provide a spiritual community and a meeting place for Christians, there are lots of other ways to connect with God. There's prayer, bible study, reading other Christian works, doing good works, talking to people about your faith, etc.

I would also consider maybe looking at other churches. Sometimes one church can be spirited or inspiring than another. Good luck.

Answer 3

I feel the same way sometimes. I love to go to church. Once I'm there, I'm fine. It's the getting there thats hard. I also have a hard time reading my Bible and studying every day as I feel I should. As Christians, we know we are not perfect and we know how and to who we ask for help. Pray hard and keep the faith. It does feel wrong when I do feel this way. I'm hoping it will get better. Sorry, I don't have any grand answers for you. Email me and maybe we could work something out.

Answer 4

Some people go through phases. And you know what? It's good. Maybe you feel awkward because of the people there. Totally natural. As long as you believe in Jesus, you are a good Christian. Remember, He spent most of his time "in the field" helping others, not just at a place of worship.

Answer 5

Satan is after you. Even though church won't get you to heaven, it will help keep God in your everyday life. Reason being, when you go to church regularly, God stays on your mind more than when you do not go to church. Whether your hubby goes or not, you should not give up on church. Maybe you can show him through your actions when you go to church regularly, that not all preachers are bad news.

Answer 6

I'm in the same kind of situation as you were. I believe in the Holy Trinity, but I'm just hesistant to be around other church people. I've had some bad experiences with some people, and at this point , I need to pray to God which church he wants me to go to, but it's hard.

Answer 7

I believe that a real relationship with Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour that you would have a real desire to worship with fellow believers and help each other in their needs, Going to church does not save you, but accepting Christ is most important.

Answer 8

i totally understand... i grew up in church, and went to vacation bible school, yadayada. when i went to college, i had no desire to go to church... i was a little worse off than u, i questioned my faith, i wasn't really sure what i believed because i'm very logical person, and at the time, religion didn't really make sense to me. however, somewhere deep inside i always believed in God and Jesus..just didn't really understand WHY and therefore had a hard time relating it to my daily life.

i flittered in and out of church, but always finding it the same, old, tired thing. sure, sermons can be interesting...but all in all i felt like an outsider; everyone else *seemed* so into church, and i felt claustrophobic that they wanted me to be the way they were.

i'm going to try and condense this story..haha..but pretty much i asked a friend who i knew was going to a very small church, and i asked if he had a college/young adult group. he said, "we are planning to start one soon! what great timing!" so i started to attend....(so i made the decision to go back to church when i was ready.....no one was forcing me. but i KNEW that big churches that i was used to going were alwasy somehow so stagnant for me). at first i would go to bible study, and sunday service, and the pastor would ask me why i was continuing to come, and if i was learning anything. i used to say "i don't really know why i'm coming..but i'm coming".

then i starting having fellowship (ie hanging out a lot on sundays/wednesdays) with the bible study/church members at this very small church...and i started to open myself up and learn about the word. i can't put my finger on the exact moment where i changed, but somehow, from 10 months ago to now, i know i am different. when he asks me now why i come, i KNOW it's because I'm saved, and i want to LEARN and keep learning about the word, and talk about it, and live and breathe it. i never felt this way before!!!

i would say it takes time, and it takes work... you have to find positive, supportive, God loving and bible studying people who can help to open your eyes.. to realize that christianity is not Stagnant, it's not Judgemental, it's not Rules and Regulations.. it's about learning to live the path of righteousness because we are BLESSED. once u learn to WANT it, it will come. don't depend on pastors to achieve faith, because pastor's are human beings too (hence chasing women, etc). achieve continuous faith and understanding and love thru your own will to seek the knowledge. eventually you will hear the message and allow it to *Continue* filling your cup and not getting burnt out. if u have time, please read Romans 5-8. that says, stop Punishing yourself for "not being a "good" Christian"! once u accept Jesus' love, you are saved. there is no more punishment for sin, past present or future. be joyful and peaceful and FREE in knowing that you are free from the bondage of sin, and bad thoughts, etc. always be positive and continue to grow in God's love, and don't punish yourself for ur thoughts.... as long as u know u are a Christian, no one can judge you for not wanting to go to your church, reading the bible, etc. just do what u need to do, and work on receiving that desire to learn.. maybe u need to change churches..maybe u need to find more good friends that are Christians to talk about things....don't worry, pray, learn, and live, and peace, happiness, and contentment that u are God's child will come.

Answer 9

I had end going to church for a number of years because of the fact i replace into so bored to death with the consistent begging of money from the pastors. you understand it is ridiculous whilst with the aid of the time you depart church on a Sunday you may have been asked to furnish 4 distinctive cases!!! Anway, I did replace into convicted approximately no longer likely, ordinarily because of the fact the bible tells us to no longer forsake getting jointly (see hyperlink below). I prayed for a sparkling church domicile and located one! they do no longer harp on money, is somewhat friendly, giving of themselves, lively in various ministries and maximum critically, they coach the understand God o.k.! Church is significant because of the fact like the author of this publish pronounced, it is our "enhance!" there is potential in numbers, and whilst compatible human beings social gathering to proportion God's be conscious and prayers, it equips us extra desirable for dealing with the techniques of the international! (And sure, I do agree that tithing is precisely below the previous Covenant. New testomony Christians are actually not below the ten% tithing rule. We supply as we are able to!)

Answer 10

The church building is a place for beleivers to worship and be among their peers. There's nothing in the Bible that says you have to go. The closer you are to God the more your desire to go is there. God speaks to us in his word and we speak to him in prayer. Communication with him will help you.

Answer 11

as long as you believe in god and do things to improve your life then no problem! i don't go to church but i believe in god, others say this is not right i say believe how you will god is in each of us so he knows who does, even some of those church groupies just go so they can go out and do things and then ask for forgiveness, i think we believe in god more than they do!