2006-07-19 10:47:47 · 35 answers · asked by ~@@~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel like he is using me for sex since the girl he is seeing he wont ask her for sex. what should I do...I love him.
2006-07-19 10:48:48 · update #1
Really? This is what you call love? I think you need to rework your definition a little bit. He is using you for sex and if thats good enough for you keep it up, if it isn't stop putting up with it. Not to mention that the fact that he is putting on this nice, sweet, undemanding guy routine for the other girl and coming to you because that isn't true lets you know exactly the character of the person you are dealing with and what exactly do you find so 'loveable' about that? once someone shows you their true character you have to believe it, not make excuses for them and force yourself to see them as something they are not. talk is cheap and he's only saying what he's saying because he thinks he has to in order to get laid, his actions are ABSOLUTE PROOF that the words are nothing but lies. more often than not it is the idea of the relationship and not the reality of it that people in bad situations love. make a list on paper of what you believe love should look like and feel like, i'd be willing to be that another gf and breaking up with you are NOT on it, now measure the reality of what you have with this guy against that. they aren't even close are they? that way you know its just the idea that you like. stop trying to make this guy fit in to your definition of love because he just doesn't, find someone that does. if you know someones true character and continue to delude yourself about it then you are solely responsible for any hurt you endure in the future with this guy.
2006-07-19 10:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Wait that is what everybody has already told you. You need some help from the Zeus of Yahoo Answers, which would be I, Leo, the slayer of Kings and conqueror of Liberia. Now, the question stems from the fact that you have not moved on, but he has. Therefore, the joke is on you, you are a joke, and I hope there is some more icing and chocolate little thing's on a piece of your pie because that would sure taste good, especially servied warm with a scoop or two of vanilla ice cream. I really like those restaurants where they serve you two scoops of ice cream if you ask them for it, and they don't charge you for it. I used to be a waiter, and I would order the birthday sundaes all of the time because it rang up as a no charge, and then I would go in the back and eat it. I would also eat the peperonnin in the cooler too. I like pepperoni.
2006-07-19 10:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men are pigs....and once they realize they can't have something anymore, it makes them want it even more. Sometimes its a matter of not realizing what they had until its gone. Or maybe he really does love you..... but my guess is if he's with this other person and TRULY loves you then he would dump her immediately and get back with you, but why would you want to get back with him anyway?? He broke your heart once and he'll do it again because he knows that he can.
My advice is to ignore this guy (phone calls, emails, etc) and move on, because if you get involved with him again....guess what??? Statistically he will be 2 timing you with this new girl. You will have and even bigger problem on your hands and your heart will be in the grinder again.....so move along and find someone worth your time. I know it will be hard as any break up is. But you've got to think about what is important.....YOU and your heart. You dont deserve a guy who will play games and treat you like that.
2006-07-19 10:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have actually been in the situation 2 times with the same guy( my first love).I didnt think anything of it bc i still felt like he was still mine although he was with somebody else.BUt in all reality he doesnt care about you or the other girl,it took me a while to face that.Dont let it hurt you that he is with somebody else bc like i said he doesnt care about her or else he wouldnt be doing anything sexually with you.Also,he is probably not telling you the truth about have sex with the other girl.Stand strong and dont give in,hes getting way too much pleasure.
2006-07-19 10:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by lizeeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG can't you see he is using you, sorry to say this but it seems that you don't find yourself very attractive because anyone else would have not even gave a s*** about what he says, either way screw him leave him because you don't deserve someone like that, those types of men are the worst
2006-07-19 10:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he desires your for sex and you're giving it to him... now you wonder why?!?! STOP! If you don't give into him you won't be oh a leash that he can grab and pull when he wants. If you're not giving it up to him tell him you've moved on and that you are only friends and not the kind w/benefits... set strong boundaries!!!
2006-07-19 10:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the one who has asked him to take a walk, then that means he still cares for you and its hard for him to forget you. Otherwise it just means that he wants your body ...especially when he is not too sure about the new girl so early in the relationship.
2006-07-19 10:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by sans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the million time i say this word .. honey u don't love him ! u just get used to him .. he fill a space in ur life that once he gone u feel empty ! NOT becouse u miss him ,,NO ..becouse u don't know what to do & how to fill his space .. nothing more
u love the mood of being in love & being loved ,, u love being belong to someone ,, u love the love itself ...
so get over him .... clear ur mind of him ,,forget him ,, it'll be hard in the begining but u can do it ,,many of us did it befor u and no longer even remmber our ex's look ;)))
there's someone out there in his way to u ,, just wait
goodluck honey ;)
2006-07-19 10:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Nicholet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right .. he just used you for sex ...until the other girl give in and having it with him..that when he will totally dump you. Just get out as soon as you can..believe it will get easier after you cut him lose..
2006-07-19 10:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a guy who did the exact same thing to me...stick with your intuition, it's there for a reason. Turn and walk away now save yourself any further heartache and pain. Wish you the best.
2006-07-19 10:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋