how bad is labor ? please be honest this is my first child and im kinda scared?

Answer 1

its okay to be scared when you go into labor it is like having cramps and then they get stronger towards the end also see about taking a lamas class to help you breath for the cramps they can explain more. and each person is different okay.

Answer 2

I had my child naturally with no drugs. I was a little scared of labor because my whole life my mom told me how horrible it was. To be honest, it wasn't the worst pain in the world. I hurt my knee at work the summer before my daughter was born and that was far worse. You get breaks in between the contractions. The worst part was when I was almost fully dilated and had the urge to push. My doctor wouldn't let me push until I was FULLY dilated. Pushing wasn't bad at all. I felt a mild burning sensation when she was coming out.

Not everyone feels this way though. Some labors hurt worse than others. Women who have inductions with pitocin or have back labor have more pain than usual. So women who say that their pain was excruciating are telling the truth. It really was for them.

There are ways that you can minimize your pain beforehand without drugs.
~Take a good empowering childbirth class. Not one that tells you how to be a good girl and do what you're told, but one that gives you good information. The Bradley Method and Hypnobirthing are good for this.
~Hire a doula. Having a professional birth assistant there is worth her weight in gold. She can help you get the kind of birth you want and make giving birth easier with a calm presence to communicate your wishes to your birth providers.
~Use water for your birth. Not necessarily giving birth in water, but at least laboring in warm water really feels good. They call it the "midwives epidural" and it has no druggy side effects
~Find a health care provider that listens to your concerns and will honor your wishes. If you have a doctor that brushes aside your concerns, this is the time to find a new one.

Answer 3

The intensity of the pain varies with every childbirth, but it generally hurts more the first time. There are things you can do to help, like an epidural. I think there are even pain killers that can be used now that won't hurt the baby. My youngest granddaughter is 19 months old. She was a first born, and aside from the process taking a long time, my daughter had a pretty easy time where the pain was concerned after they gave her the epidural. One thing about the epidural is that it tends to slow down the process, so take the labor pains as long as you can.

Even though it can hurt really bad, as soon as you are holding that precious little bundle in your arms, the memory of it will start to fade.

Answer 4

I had my daughter 18 months ago. She is my first child. I had to be induced because i went a week over my due date. The doc told me that being induced would make the labor hurt more. I was so scared. For me it was not as bad as i thought it would be.And i did not get any drugs intil 10 mins before time to push. (I was in labor for 20 hours) What labor felt like to me was, I had eaten something that upset my stomach and i was trying to go to the bathroom but couldnt. This pain over time became longer harder and sharper. A few hours before time to push my back started hurting very bad. Each time i felt the pain come on I would sit up in bed and have my husband rub my back for me. I was moaning but not screaming like you see in movies. Im sure you will be ok. Just remember you have nurses and doctors helping you. They are there for you.

Answer 5

For me, labor wasn't all that bad...I had back labor which I'm told is supposed to be worse than regular. However everyone is different. My suggestion is not to ask how bad it is, there could be someone who had a really bad labor and had complications and such. Remember, women have been having babies forever..even before epidurals. The more bad stories you hear the more terrified you will become, and you need to relax

Answer 6

Not easy, but obviously do-able! Honey, by the time you go into labor you will be so happy to get it over with you won't have time to think about it. By then it is too late, can't put baby back now!!!You will be taken care of, and so happy when you hold your baby in your arms. My holding my son for the first time is the most amazing memory of my life, he is 19 now and still just as amazing. Good luck to you, I will pray all goes well. There is nothing like the smell of your newborn baby.

Answer 7

Honestly, it varies from person to person and even in the same person from one pregnancy to another. It can range from painless (yes, been there done that and had a baby on my floor at home...no pain just squeezing feeling and pushing sensation which feels like needing to go to bathroom) to very painful in some women. I had a best friend who was in lots of agony. She had to be induced and the epidural she had was not completely effective. On the average it feels like bad period cramps but they only last for a few hours or a day or two and they end in the greatest miracle of all!
There are ways to cope if it gets too painful for you. Many women swear by epidurals. In most they give great, even complete pain relief.
I will hope you will have an experience kind of like me but with time to get to hospital.Surprise home birth can be very scary!
Good luck with the new baby!

Answer 8

I have given birth four times and each time was different, I did not have any epidural or pain medications for any of them. The pain is not too bad until your water breaks. It is a severe pain but I agree with the others here, once you see your baby you forget completely about the pain. Pretty much once the baby is out there isn't any more pain. Good luck to you, and God bless.

Answer 9

I had my son 10 months ago but it just seems like yesturday. First the best advice I have is to enroll in a birthing class...I was terrified of labor! I would cry when i watched all those videos but it really helped me.The breathing techniques helped me too. Contractions are very painful..just think of your worst cramps but 20 times worse! After 7 hours of contractions I made the 2nd best decision in my life..to have an epidural! (The 1st being having my son) It was great till i had to push. I think pushing was the hardest. and when your baby comes out it burns...alot...
Though the best feeling ever is when he/she comes out..that felt so good!
You totally forget all the pain you just went through when you have your baby in your arms!!! Good luck and just breathe!!

Answer 10

Labor is different with everyone women...I work in a maternity ward and you can never predict what is going to happen with each women...With me i was in labor with my daughter for 32 hours....i had 2 epidurals and she was 5 weeks early...to me it felt like your really badly consitpated and have alot of pressure in your stomach...but some women have back labor also(where they have bad pains in their back) If your not good with pain then i suggest that you ask for an epidural..but you get good pain relievers afterwards

Answer 11

Get an epidural. When my contractions started getting intense, they gave me one, and I didn't feel ANY pain. You can still feel the pressure when the baby's about to come out, enough so you can push, but my labor was great. I didn't feel a single contraction until I was almost fully dilated.

It won't hurt if they give the epidural correctly.