does he notice my imperfections like stretch marks or cellulite, or does he just focus on the sex and forget about everything else. Do you notice when you do it ?
2006-07-19 09:54:48 · 24 answers · asked by spoiled_angel80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont notice imperfections on him, all i focus on is making love.
2006-07-19 10:00:02 · update #1
Men are visually oriented. But not the way you think. Our "image" of a woman is colored by our emotions, our memories and our attitudes toward them. Love, joy, etc. paint you in warmer colors. Anger, hurt, etc. harshen the edges. As time goes on we "color" our image of you with layer after layer of shared emotions, shared memories, all things good and bad. Over time, our image of you has very little to do with what you see in the mirror. This is why an old man can look at an old woman and think she is the most beautiful woman in the world. He's not being kind, or blind. He literally, physically sees her that way.
So, if he loves you, he doesn't notice your imperfections. Certainly, CERTAINLY not as much as you do. I doubt he even knows they're there.
2006-07-19 11:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by antirion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what my imperfections are. He knows what I think they are. My husband does not care about my physical imperfections. they are NOT that to him. Trust me when I say that your imperfections do NOT matter. If they did, you would not be having sex at all. Good men who truely love their partners just do not think in such vain terms. They think about the fact that they are enjoying that bonding time with the person they love and about what is going on at the time. They are NOT thinking about how many moles you have and where they are or about how many stretch marks you have or how ugly they are. Good men just do not care about that stuff. It's all you honey! let it go and accept what he is communicating to you. If he does not seem to care...he really does not.
2006-07-19 10:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short answer, yes. But most guys won't mind if they know about it in advance or if its a trifle thing. Guys are very visual, especially when it comes to sex. We notice the cruve of your back, each hair on your head and the way your chest moves when you breath. To us, it's all part of the experience.
But, I don't tell you that to make you self-conscious. Chances are, if you don't make a big deal of it, neither will he. If he does, wear a corset and I guarantee that he'll notice and like it.
2006-07-19 10:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by TheAdviceGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I sure hope he does......I've always been facinated with all the marks, bruises, scrapes, scratches, and other so called inperfections on my girlfriends body. If she had perfect skin...I think it would get boring, like the desert.
I've always felt that those marks are the road map of your life. I'm just glad that I was there to make the journey with her.
2006-07-19 10:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
John S. is the voice of truth!!!
Some men will care but other will not. Leave the lights on and do not cover up. I think he will enjoy looking at your body. I am 100% sure they love your body more than you do!!
2006-07-19 10:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by violet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
believe me i'm a man and stretch marks and cellulite are the last thing on my mind! i'm too busy thinking about tractors and trains to avoid coming too quick!! lol
2006-07-19 10:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by john s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your married,he loves you for a reason...Not because of your flaws or imperfections...Enjoy the moment and let go..
2006-07-19 10:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by blueboyswoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has any sense, he focuses on the sex, just like you do.
As for stretch marks, they're badges of honor: you got those bearing his children, right?
2006-07-19 10:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by Roger D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question...i'm a girl so i can't answer for the men...but do you notice imperfections when your having sex with men?
2006-07-19 09:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by jolie t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have gotten to that point with him I'd be pretty sure he isn't as concerned with what you preceive as "imperfections" as you are. If he was he would have never gone there with you. Quit over analyzing it and just have fun. ;-)
2006-07-19 10:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋