Do you support the idea of another person like a teacher or daycare working disciplining your child ?

Question

Do you support babysitters, daycare workers or teachers disciplining your child for misbehaviour ? Do you have any examples you can share of this happening ?

Answer 1

I worked in a daycare for infants, toddlers and preschoolers for many years and I can say that I absolutely support it! Children need to learn to respect other adults. Unless you as the parent are going to be the ONLY other adult in your child's life for the rest of their existence, it is important that they learn to obey others. As for spanking, I can honestly say that it is absolutely unnecessary in this type of setting! I do not believe that spanking is wrong, but it is inappropriate (and usually illegal!) in daycares.

If you are not just asking hypothetically and have an actual concern with your child's daycare and the discipline given to your child, and I can say this: it is actually rather easy to discipline children in a daycare setting. The key is structure, consistency, a good variety of activities that are age-appropriate, a proper classroom environment, and well trained staff. If the teacher is on her toes with her class and preventing discipline problems before they happen, it's much easier to deal with. I'm not making out like daycare is easy, b/c it's not. But it shouldn't be out of control either.

If you have a concern w/ your child's daycare center, I would suggest you inquire as to their methods of discipline. I can also say from a daycare employees' perspective AND from a parent who had children enrolled in daycare that it is difficult when problems arise like this b/c these are your children and it becomes an emotional issue. I suggest you first calm down and look at the facts (if you are upset), and then sit down and discuss the matter in a factual and detail way. Good luck.

Answer 2

Absolutly I support it. If I didn't agree with my daughters daycare lady's parenting or disapplining techniques she wouldn't be there. I also learn a lot from her as well. For example since my daughter was 11 months old she knows what time out it and where to go. She also has learned from the daycare provider that no one wants to hear her crying, whining or throwing fits and that when she does she is to go to the other room until she is done. I fallow threw with what my daycare provider does. As for the rest it is mostly relatives at this point who disappline her and as far as I am concerned she needs to learn to respect her elders and do what they say. As long as they are not physically or mentally abusing her they have full charge. I do know that I don't want my child in an un-disciplined situation where children are running wild, jumping on furniture, putting thier feet on tables etc. That will never happen her teachers and I will be on the same page when that day arises.

Answer 3

It depends. I don't agree with anyone other than my husband and I physically disciplining our boys, but I think teachers and daycares have to have some options to control behavior. Unfortunatly more and more they do not. My son was temporaraly (thank goodness) in an elementary school in Mississippi where they had paddling as a discipline option. It was very controlled, only after so many offenses, only the principal or vice principal, and only with the parents consent at the time of the incident (they called). I have to admit, that just my son knowing that it was an option straightened him right up. He behaved better in that four months than he ever has in school. He didn't know that I would never have let it happen.

Answer 4

Any day care provider with degrees in Child Development know that they should not punish or hit children. The best discipline is a short time out or redirection. These are not cruel, and do help the child learn in the most positive way.

At the same time, I strongly believe in NO day care before 3 years old. This is the time when YOU need to be shaping your kid's life and personality...NOT other people. What's the point in having kids if you're just going to let someone else raise them?

Answer 5

As long as the discipline methods were discussed and agreed on and followed, this should not be a problem. When rules, rewards, and penalties for disobedience are clearly pre-decided and publicly stated, this is the fairest way for all parties involved. When I was a child (long, long ago) kids listened to all adults because parents understood the value of community parenting. Kids today believe they have the upper hand on adults due to a shift from parental responsibility to protectionism in our all too litigious society and the good old-fashioned paddling that so many children desperately deserve has been condemned as abuse.

Answer 6

I don't think that it's anybody's business except the child's parent to discipline the child physically. I believe that some people may get carried away including the parent. But if a child is out of control, I would not hesitate to raise my voice. Even if it is a child and it may embarass or scare them, tough, even at a young age they need to be put in their place. Children today aren't disciplined enough and are frankly, just assholes.

Answer 7

Take her to court docket and get custody of the toddler! If he became into the harmless spouce, you reported SHE left him for yet another guy, then possibly he has a brilliant gamble of gaining custody. the factor is, is he waiting to assist the toddler on his very own? the way the courts seem at this sort of a concern, presumedly, the mummy is in many circumstances the known care giver on an identical time as the husband is going out to artwork! If i became into him, i could be looking into the fashion of place she and the toddler stay in. Does the different guy have a criminal checklist? Is he taking benefit to a father's visitation rights? Has any of this been dropped on the attention of the Courts?

Answer 8

Teachers definitely need to be supported by parents in disciplining. However my wife takes care of our kids so there is no babysitter

Answer 9

I think they have to. How else could they actually teach our children?

The teachers at my daughter's preschool, last year, and she's returning this year as well...are very low key when it comes to this. They only involve the parents when necessary. I feel relieved that somebody out there might be helping me teach my daughter how to behave. They actually told me they didn't have too many problems with my daughter, the normal things...like fighting over a toy. And what they do is put the toy in time out. Usually just suggesting this makes them want to share.

Other than that...I think it's ok...as long as you know how they disipline. And your child isn't getting hurt in anyway.

Answer 10

i do support teachers or daycare workers disciplining my children...you can discipline with out hitting them...i don't send my kids to daycare, but they do go to school and if they misbehave i expect them to be disaplined (i.e. not going out for recess, going to the principals office, etc.) a teacher is a person of authority and they should respect him/her...if they don't they need to know that there are concequences....