he said we can get married in a church later....and we need to be married if we are living together....I agree but I want to wait until we can afford a small wedding which could be awhile...should i just go ahead at the jp and do the wedding later....or should i wait until we are financially ready. he also said if i loved him i would marry him anywhere....and as soon as possible....
2006-07-19 09:34:35 · 10 answers · asked by jolie t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well meet in the middle maybe have a pastor do it in an outside setting in a park near a lake. Something like that. You will never be able to afford it (I don't mean that meanly) something will always come up. I kept saying that about having our daughter then before you knew it I was 30 and said the time will never be right I am doing it. He is right that if you loved him you would get married anywhere and timing wouldn't matter but that goes both ways. He should be willing to do the same. Just have an outside wedding with a pastor have the reception be a really nice bbq and get on with the honeymoon!
2006-07-19 11:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by Knock Knock 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would wait to get married in a church - I see it happen all the time people say we are going to have the real wedding later but it never happens. If you are willing to take that chance then by all means go to the JP first. As far as the money aspect if you cant afford the wedding don't go into debt to pay for it. Or you could get married at a JP then go on a great honeymoon with the money you were going to use on the wedding. There is nothing wrong with a JP wedding if you invite Friends and family - you can still have a reception and all that stuff after. Maybe you can both discuss all the options and come up with a good one. Compromise is the foundation to any good marriage - why not make this one the one to base your marriage upon. Congratulations to both of you on your marriage no matter when or where it takes place.
2006-07-19 10:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS my wife said 15 yrs ago if it's going to be a wedding it should be done right in a church. And we did, it was small but we had fun to. A wedding is a special time more for the woman than the man, She has the right to have that day to, But it takes two to make the chioce, Yes you should be married if your living together. But being married only comes once to ,when you do it the first time. If he loves you enough I thing he could wait. I would have for my wife and i would do it again.
2006-07-19 09:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl please,wait you already living together..... and if you want a church wedding you should have one... you guys knew you werent married before you started to live together is not a big deal... that is old fashion that marriage before living together myth now and days is better to live together before you get married that way when you do there is nothing you already dont know about that person.. so i say wait and save your money and then have your dream little wedding... tell your boyfriend you are not going to give up on that if you get married then others things are going to always be on the way of your wedding bills and stuff and then your never going to have your wedding.. good luck.
2006-07-19 09:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a church that you go to regularly, sit down and talk with the pastor about this. He can guide you and your boyfriend. Pastors nowadays are much more laid back regarding the whole "living together" issue, so, don't be afraid. If a church wedding is important to you, and the wedding is mostly about the bride - then, stick to your guns and do what is right for you and have the small wedding. After all, your soon to be hubby shouldn't disappoint you, and he should be willing to go small.
2006-07-19 09:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by ncstacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is what is important, not the wedding. But the experience is very valuable and it's very important to you. It sounds like he doesn't understand how important it is to you, so try to discuss it again and communicate to him that you need to feel the lasting experience of larger scale wedding.
I'd advise against allowing an external factor to pressure your marriage timescale. And that works both ways here. You're trying to make it happen sooner so you guys can live together, and you're needing to delay it to afford to do it properly.
Try to plan out the wedding for when you're ready, and choose the option that suits your lifestyle at the time. But if it's going to bother you in the future - you're better delaying it a few more months.
2006-07-19 09:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancel the wedding
2006-07-19 09:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u agree to his way but u will wait for that first after marraige sex until there is a church marriage, in that way it will make u get a feeling of a special day. If he loves u , he will agree.Just tell him to wait and do so for u.By the r u inviting me
2006-07-19 09:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Vio Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the rush? Do what you want now. It may never happen later. It doesn't have to be huge, but it should be in a church.
2006-07-19 09:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what the man says men are always rite
2006-07-19 09:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by RC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋