I need a gay friend to talk to because all of my family and friends are straight and i dont know if they would want to talk to me when they find out who i really am.
2006-07-19 09:28:26 · 21 answers · asked by Damon01 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First, try to believe that while they may be hurt, confused, even angry, your parents probably won't hate you. That thought doesn't make your present problem much easier.
I suggest you survey the entire situation, and delay telling them if you are dependent upon them for food and shelter. But don't delay to the point that they find out from someone else.
Do you have somebody easier to come out to first, a brother or sister, favorite aunt or uncle? Somebody who can be supportive, maybe even be THERE when you tell mom and dad? Start with somebody easy to tell before the big one.
You might find some resources about coming out on the web. May I suggest you start with the Human Rights Campaign coming out project? See the link below.
2006-07-19 09:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took pity on you becoming a new gay.Being a gay is abnor mal.So certainly your parents will hate you because all parents want their children in normal condition.I think you are better if you talk with someone who has succesful to cure his gay.You should know how to overcome you abnomarlity.Please go and ask for consultation to a pshycoterapist as soon as possible.You must come back to your own religion life what ever your religion is I think all good religion do not allow a man becomes a gay.God very hates a man who become a gay.Man and woman are created by God as to be a spouse in a formal and legal marriage contract.Man is not created for man.You should know that homosexuality is against with our religion and our law and also it may give you a hiv disease which hard to be cured.You must talk it honestly and frankly with your parents in order to know why it is sufferred and how to overcome it.You can not keep it by youself.You do not search a gay friend.It is dangerous.You should seek also consultation with your religion teacher.
2006-07-26 18:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
D. hello and I have read all the answers and for the most part they are on target, it just depends on when and what your parents will say. Hate is a strong word. I have a aunt that would say things about gay and lesbians and that she was tired of the gay stuff on tv. I thought for sure she would not love me any more and we would not be close any more. Well I was blessed that she LOVES me for ME. and not who I make love with. My Dad the other hand cast me aside, but my mother, brother, and sister love me for me. and that is the key to me, Because should not have conditions on it. but sadly to say that they sometimes do. You say you are "new at being gay" is this a choice you choose or is it who you THINK are Know YOU ARE. People sometimes think that they are and turn out that it was just a moment thing, Either way you are young but love or lust knows no age.
D. you also said "when they find out who i reall am" so are you someone different for this moment to the next. NO You are YOU and you will continue to be you...... The same young man that they raised and cared for and the whole ten yards of you will be the same the only difference is that THEY WILL KNOW . who you choose to love and make love to and with. That does not define WHO you are. it just puts your personal love life in to veiw of others. Now with all that said, Tell them when you are ready to tell them, when you are ready to display you love life. Other wise it is really not anyones business but yours the person you love and GOD. Yes I said God. for those who think lesbians (or gays for that fact) dont believe in God and his word be it wrong God in a big part of my and my Girls Life he is my all and all and without him I am nothing and with Him I am Me. so find the path that you need to take and let people know that the moment that you say you have found love in the same sex, that you did not cease to be you it is that they know more about you and in the sence more reason to love you. if you want to chat send me a message and I wil gladly try to help you . SatinVKissess@sbcglobal.net
By the way I have a 15 yr old daughter and a neice in law that may be lesbian, I will not love or like her any less if she is but I don't want my daugter to take that path just because the Neice is. So make the choice because that is who you are and what is in your heart, not for anyones else reasons.
2006-07-19 10:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by midget_1woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to lessen the things that your family will say when you come out, but when you come out you should remind your family that you are still the same person they raised and grew up with, and that being gay shouldn't make them look at you differently. But if you need a friend I'm here you can e-mail me at surfstud@sbcglobal.net if you ever wanna talk.
2006-07-19 09:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damon, at 14, you don't really know who you are. I am afraid that just "any" gay person would not be able to help. Do you have a school counselor or trusted teacher, any trusted adult you could talk to? Could you tell your parents that you are having teenage issues and would like to see a family counselor? I am not judging you because we are who we are. I just don't want you to get taken advantage of at your young age or to get bad advice either way. I am praying for your best possible future.
2006-07-19 09:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.bibble.org/gay/stories/comingout.html
Gay Coming Out Stories
2006-07-24 07:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by The Greek Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you now must face what all gays and lesbians have faced before you. But do not despair, the truth may hurt, but if you are true to yourself you may be surprised how supportive some may be. Also, you might be surprised to know that most parents usually have an idea before they're told. Ultimately, you need to weigh your options and decide if the time is right, you don't need to rush, you'll know when you're ready to tell them.
2006-07-19 09:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) is a great organization which helps gay kids and their families understand exactly what's going on. There are chapters everywhere. Check their main website for the one nearest you http://pflag.org/
2006-07-24 13:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Drewe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to go to a local GLBTQ youth group so you have somebody to talk to in a safe area. You could look at the web-site for the Human Rights Campaign for "coming out" ideas, or PFLAG for family information.
PFLAG link: http://www.pflag.org/Getting_Support-Coming_Out.coming_out.0.html
2006-07-19 09:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you do not come out till you know you have a support network in place. If the worst happens and you get thrown out you need to have somewhere lined up that you can go to stay till you can get into the child protective services system.
2006-07-19 09:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋