So if a girl is........?

Question

So if a girl is NOT FAT, but not a stick either are there any guys out there that would be intersted. I always feel like I am REALLY UGLY. And i know all girls say that but with me its a really big problem. I'm not fat, just not a stick. I never take my coat off even in 100 degree weather, I hate myself. I really hate it because I am not a couch patatoe I am REALLY REALLY active, plus i eat super healthy. Is there any chance that a guy will ever like me in life, i mean beyond my teens years aswell???

Answer 1

A person once told me, for anyone ever to love another person that person must genuinly love themselves.

Sweetheart I have been there. I am 5'8 and 168 pounds. but I also have a 28inch waist and very very muscular legs and a big back and great arms. Hey I am a big girl. I deal with it. My height and my stregnth and space i have taken up has help greatly in basketball...and other sports I am a spectactular dancer becuz I carry myself/

now i dont mean to turn things on myself and away from you but I am just telling you. MY ENTIRE LIFE my parents have been on me, Eden your heavy, eden you will always be a big girl, Eden I weighed 120 pounds in high school. well Heres what i have to say... believe it or not

our society today is a BIG SOCIETY. go shopping. I gaurantee it if you look for pants and dresses in 8-12 you will not find many at all where as yo uwill find unlimited amounds of 2-6. To mwe it sounds like you need to let go of worrying about any assholes... becuz huny you gotto wake up and look in the mirror and say DAMN GOD DIDNT DO ME ANY WRONG.

becuz he didnt. if you love life, and live it to your fullest he DIDNT do you any wrong. Maybe instead of worrying about looks? Give yourself a spiritual makeover

Go volunteer at a homless shelter or work at your church or soemthing. At those places you meet genuine guys who arent looking for *** and who are going to look at you say your beautiful but also tell you.... You got a mind too and you can get anywhere with a positive and genuine guy.

So i beg of you sweetheart theres a million precent chance taht a guy will love you with everything he has and shower you with presents and be your"savior" but till that time comes, make you a better you and learn to say dammnit i am amazing. I got IT ALLL GOING ON.

and besides spiritually? if you want too, get a new hair cut? new hair color? try some new makeup... pamper yourself. Your worth it.

Answer 2

Oh honey, yes of course. But until you learn to love yourself you will never find a guy that will love you that way that you deserve!! Confidence is very alluring. Different men like differ net types. I have been on both sides. From a size 4 to a size 18, and I've never had any problems getting a guy! You are young right now, and you need to concentrate on working on your self image-how you view yourself! You may also be weight loss resistant, as i am, if you diet and exercises and stay away form the junk food and still can't loose, then talk to your doctor or your mom about it, that is one of the reasons why they are there, for advice. good luck and don't be so hard on yourself!

Answer 3

Oh, honey, you're not alone. I'm on a darn diet and people say I'm just fine. But I'm not happy with myself. I'm not overweight I'm like 116/117 pounds and I'm 5'2 1/2". I'm not a stick but I do wish I could lose some weight. I feel like I'm ugly too. It's like a natural instinct for women I guess.

Skinny and anoxeric girls = not good.
Every girl needs some meat on their bones (not like 1000 pounds of meat, but just some meat)
If a guy doesn't like you for how you look and how your body is, then he's not the right guy for you. Guys will love you for who you are on the inside. So don't sweat it =] You'll find somebody where you don't need to change a bit.

Answer 4

Sweetie,
You don't need to be a stick to be attractive.
This thing about not taking off your coat.......just take it off. People wont even notice it's off and if they do they'll think how cute you look without it.
Guys are over rated in teen years. They really aren't worth the sweat or tears. Study hard, get good grades, become something (Dr., lawyer, nurse, teacher) guys will be knocking down your door to get a date.
You are beautiful!

Answer 5

Yes there is a chance. After you are over with teen years, you might find that personality is more inportant than looks. You said you are not fat, so I'm sure you are pretty attractive, throw in some out-goingness, humor, and a big smile, and you can catch any guys attention. Just be confident.

Answer 6

of course, look around and look at all the chicks in the world, most of them are not as skinny as a stick but not fat either. That's a normal weight. A good guy doesn't base a relationship on just looks.

Answer 7

yes honey, I'm sure that there are guys out there that already do find you as attractive. But it sounds like your having some self-esteem problems right now, which is usually a turn off, except to guys that you really wouldn't want to be with. Keep your head up and don't woory so much about guys, the right one(s) will find you if you let them.

Answer 8

Yes there are probably plenty of guys that would be interested if you'd take that jacket off. People might think you're a little strange with it on in 100 degree weather. Take it off and fix yourself up.

Answer 9

Honey there is no one out there that can change the image you have of yourself. I will share with you something I learned the hard way in life. Neither you or guy can truly love one another if you do not love yourself. Your negative self image could potentially drive away a guy who does love you and sees absolute beauty inside and out when he is with you. You are stuck with you, no one has to live with you forever but you. I learned that I had to rely on me for true self love, that alone taught me all I needed to know. Now I am happily engaged......I feel beautiful because I am beautiful.....I am loved by others because I love me most.....I learned to love me and now I can love him. Good luck

Answer 10

in 4th grade I never took my sweater off. I don't know why. At the end of the year I took it off and wore tank tops and totally opposite stuff. I think after you get used to not wearing a sweater it's way better. I don't think you actually ARE ugly. Maybe you should ask your friends. And of course y\someone will like you. Someone probally likes you now but you just don't know it.