2006-07-19 09:09:33 · 18 answers · asked by Damon01 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Nothing until your ready.
2006-07-20 16:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi D. again, I was a child and we would talk about marriage and kids and stuff I was about 8/9 yr old but I remember saying that I wanted a son and to be a nurse and to have a nice house with a guest house for my mom and to give my son everything he needed and most of what he wanted. However that is not what happened. I married and have 4 children, but I was lying to myself for a long time when I think back I now know why when I was 15 16, I was always looking at this one young girl and why I felt the way I did. I lived a life that was not the life I wanted and I thank God for my children but I wish I had Known what was going on with me back then. Because I live a long time in a life that I was not happy with or felt that it was supposed to be so different. So You Keep searching for your TRUE SELF in the Matter of who you love !!!! and want to make love with, they may very well be the one in the same or not. As many have said search yourself and know what is best for you and what you truly feel. This very well may be a passing thing. so don't rush things either......
2006-07-19 18:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by midget_1woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be alot of 14 y/o's asking questions on here. But basically, my answer is the same for the other two guys. Here it is:
1st, slow down and take a deep breath....
2nd, don't take advice from people who are looking to "save your soul"
3rd, understand that at 14 feelings can be confusing. It is natural.
4th, find someone who you can trust (such as a family member, a school counselor or a teacher) to talk about your feelings. If you don't have someone like that in your life, then
5th, find the number of a hotline that might help you find resources to talk. It's important to get your feelings out in the open.
There is a wonderful resource in Manhattan called the Hetrick Martin Institute. Look them up. They are excellent. Be well and remember to SLOW DOWN.
2006-07-19 16:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by guaposf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. You are asking questions.
Being gay is not wrong. To love another person, man or woman is blessed by God.
I do not know your religous background but I would suggest talking to and Episcopalian minister. Or one from a Unity Church. They might help you see the religous part of your fears.
I would also suggest talking to more gay men and finding out how they feel. Find a gay/straight alliance if your school or one near by has one. A pflagg organization might also be avaiable.
What ever you do continue to ask the questions. Don't let one person or your parents make up YOUR mind for you.
2006-07-19 16:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you are homosexual than it is right for you, Dont be ashamed of it. It probably doesn't feel right because of all that you hear. Maybe you should try and find another gay man and talk to him about. Maybe you have a gay friend. The best thing to do is talk to someone about it. Its not good to keep it all bottled up inside!
2006-07-26 03:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by kristina N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel it's right because of religion, then I would say you need to do some soul searching, if it's because you get told by others it's wrong then you need to question their motives, if finally, you don't think it's right because you don't like the idea of being gay but you know you are, well you have two choices, be honest with yourself or be a liar the rest of your life. Harsh words I know, but true.
2006-07-19 16:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with liking other guys, but you shouldn't feel wrong. You are not different and since your young. You might just be going through phase, but you should tell maybe a friend about how you feel. And if you wanna talk I'm here you can e-mail me at surfstud@sbcglobal.net
2006-07-19 16:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you not feel it is right? If you are worried about ht other people may think, do your best to ignore them. If you are gay, there's nothing you can do to change that or change the way you feel. You need to learn how to accept yourself,so you can start helping others accept you for who you are, not based on hat they want you to be.
2006-07-19 23:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At fourteen your hormones are playing havoc with your brain and other parts. Forget about it, you will be fancying women in their forties in the next few weeks, then eighteen year old girls with big breasts, then the ads in newspapers for bras etc. You honestly will not know whether you are coming or going over the next year or so. Don't worry, it is all part of life's tapestry and it goes away and leaves you knackered.....
2006-07-19 16:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to telll ya sweetie but we all are inside what we were born to be you should not be ashamed there are many examples in the bible of gay and lesbian love jonathan and david naomi and ruth i believe that love is universal and without restrictions let yourself love you and accept you and you love the person you love not based on someones belief but love simply because love is a beautiful thing and should never be feared don't be afraid come out and let the love begin you will be much happier once you let go.
2006-07-26 03:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by lady heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to check other guys out. And believe it or not experimentation is also normal. In the long run you will know what is right for you - you just can't force the issue
2006-07-27 08:59:20 · answer #11 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋