My best freind and I used to hang out weekly or sometimes more than weekly. Sometimes twice a week. However, we rarely do this anymore because she has a boyfreind who she has been dating since November. Sundays, were our days to go out eat lunch and see a movie or something. Now, she spends that day with her boyfriend and I do not see her that often as I would like to. Also, she rarely intiates plans regarding getting together with me. She also rarely calls me anymore just to see how I'm doing. I do most of the calling in this relationship. I know how it is having a boyfriend I did that to a freind a couple of years ago and I lost the freindship because of my behavior. However, I'm just getting annoyed by her behavior. So, what should I do let her call me if she wants to talk or hang out? And, not call her anymore? Or, I'm I being too sensitive about this situation?
2006-07-19 09:05:44 · 8 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think you're being too sensitive. Friends like that used to make me nuts. And thwe worst part of it was when the relationship ended and having to deal with hours of having to console them and tell them (how many times?) that they are better off without the jerk.. lol fun fun fun.. anyway it is kinda selfish to dump your friends when you find a b/f... I think this is something that is part of maturing. When women are older they tend to put things in a more proper perspective. Things will get better, but she's a great example of how NOT to treat your friends. But ya know what? in retrospect, i did this myself... not so much because I didnt want to be with my friends but because I had an overposessive b/f who demanded all of my free time or there would be hell to pay. I lost a good friend because of this, and i always made sure to never let anyone control me like that again.
2006-07-19 09:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HER ACT TOGETHER!??
She has a boy friend and this is all natural for her to do things with HIM now.
Yes you are being to sensitive.
and too limited you only have ONE friend?
Make some more and you will not miss one that is hanging out with HER boyfriend.
Just be patient if she is a true friend she will come back watch and see...and she will be all
I AM SORRY ...yadda yadda!
Mean time get out and be yourself and maybe meet a guy...and then you both can double date!
Be supportive of her she will appreciate it when things crumble in the relationship, she and you sound young so this might be a first love for her...
you would want her to support you if You had a boyfriend.
It is life that is how it is.
2006-07-19 09:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by Samuella BurrowShire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being too sensitive about this situation.
You need to understand that she is with somebody that she loves to be around. Not that she doesn't love to be around you, but like most young people, once a love interest is returned the couple usually sticks to themselves, forsaking all others.
It is completely natural, however, you know this as you state in your question. When you had a boyfriend, if your best friend called you and told you that you were ignoring them to spend time with your bf, you would be like, yeah...he's my boyfriend, we like to spend alot of time together which doesn't leave much time for friends.
Just accept that she is in a new stage in her life, and if you wish to be remain friends, just support her, don't be needy, and occupy your Sunday's with a new interest or friend.
If you don't feel like calling her, don't, let her call you.
2006-07-19 09:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by magerious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends are always going to change the amount of time your friend spends with you, especially when you're still young. She hasn't realized what is more important to her yet. If they end up breaking up, she's going to regret leaving you hanging but you shouldn't be so sensitive. Still call her because she is your friend. Be the bigger person and still try to communicate with her. My best friend breaks dates too to hang out with her boyfriend but I'm used to it so it doesn't surprise me. Support her no matter what. If she comes to you with her boy problems, don't just push her away. Help her. She'll come to realize what a great friend you really are.
2006-07-19 09:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I went through that a month ago with my friend too..your best bet is to call her because if you really care for her you would call her. I mean you don't wanna mess up a friendship. I mean yea just tell her whats on your mind nicely. Cause honestly you'll lose her when honestly you don't wanna lose her and then it's gonna hurt because then yor going to miss her and wonder if she feels that same so just call her before it's to late
2006-07-19 09:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Charissa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call her and hang out, but while your hanging out tell her how you're feeling. I've had a problem similar to this, and after we talked things out, everything got better. Just give her a chance =)
2006-07-19 09:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by Amerzt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being so sensitive
2006-07-19 09:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by oddsend03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on.................get someone else to hang with. she'll call if she wants if not so be it
2006-07-19 09:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋