I'm having my third baby and I'm not sure if another shower should be done. I had one with the first, a girl. Then another for the second, a boy. I'm having another girl and there is a few things that I need, but I'm not sure if another shower is appropriate. I would like to have a get together with all our family and friends to welcome the new baby, but not sure if it should be considered a "shower". I was wondering if a themed party after the birth would be a better thing to do. I was also wondering if anyone had any ideas for a theme. Like a diaper party or hand me down party. That way people done't have to shop for new items for a baby that is already getting a lot of hand me down stuff. Help.
2006-07-19 08:57:21 · 15 answers · asked by Amanda S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wow, I wasn't expecting the answers I'm getting. I guess I did word the question correctly. It's not that I want to host my own baby shower, I was just wondering what to do if someone wants to do one for me. Should I let them do it or talk them into doing something for after the baby is born. Or tell them to come up with a theme party that doesn't fall into the normal "shower" parties. Even though I do need some things for the baby, I don't want to ask for them. However I will welcome any and all gifts. Every baby is a blessing and it would be nice to have something done to welcome the baby to the world. I'm just not sure how to handle the situation should it come up.
2006-07-19 10:09:42 · update #1
I TOTALLY disagree with people that say you should only have ONE baby shower no matter what! That is stupid! With every baby comes new needs!! Not necessarily for big ticket items like cribs, or toys, etc...but new parents are ALWAYS in need of new onesies, diapers, and essentials like that! I think you should definitly have a baby shower with each new baby. What makes the first baby so special as to get a shower while the rest of them dont?!? I think having a "shower" get-together after the baby is born is a good idea for subsequent showers after the first. That way everyone gets to marvel at your new little treasure and you get lots of people that want to see the new baby out of the way in one day!! You cant beat that!! If you dont feel comfortable recieving gifts this time around, on the invitations just say that there is no need to bring presents, and that it is a get together to celebrate the new baby.
Good Luck, and Congrats!!
2006-07-19 11:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was wondering the same thing myself, I am also having a 3rd baby. Honestly if the family and friends throw it or want too, then we should. I think that each baby should have its own anyways. I know for me I have 2 girls and hoping for this one to be a boy. My kids are 6 and 8 so I really dont have any baby stuff now, plus if it is a boy look at what I will need. If Not a baby shower, if yours is not going to be in the midst of winter like mine I would say have like a cook out or gathering and if they want to bring gifts then let them!
2006-07-19 16:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by navigator_girl_1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bump tradition and etiquette, have a "welcome to the family" party for your new addition to your family when the baby is about four weeks old. Throw it yourself or have a family member or your husband/significant other do the planning. Let the invitation express that a gift is not necessary and hand me downs would be graciously accepted if offered. Some people will give a gift anyway. That's fine and you need not feel odd about it. Each child is a blessing and a joy and those that share your joy will be glad to celebrate the birth of your little one. Those that are trying to be politically correct can opt not to attend. Congratulations!
2006-07-19 16:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is a 10 year or more time interval between babies, it's considered tacky and in poor form to have more than one shower. Period.
Baby showers are "asking for gifts parties" intended for young couples just starting out, not established couples.
It is extremely tacky for the mother-to-be to "have" a shower for herself. That is the role of sisters, cousins and friends to "throw" a shower for you without any involvement on your part.
Of course, you do what you want when you want. Personal, family and local preferences rule over any perceived "proper" etiquette.
2006-07-19 16:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that you should only have had one baby shower..that any other should be a welcome baby party(after the birth). if you already have just about all of the important things a baby needs then a shower is wrong. (unless it has been many years in-between pregnancies and most item are out dated or re-called)..your friends and family may find it hard to swallow having another shower and may not feel happy to attend.
2006-07-19 16:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by dizzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't. It's bad ettiquette. You shouldn't have really had the second shower either. It's very inappropriate because by the third baby you should be able to get what you need for it and not rely on a baby shower to provide you with the things you need. It will look bad if you have one for the third baby.
2006-07-19 16:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no a third is so out of the question, my suggestion is to have a get together like a BBQ or something after the baby is born to have everyone meet her, asking for gifts for a third baby is not really a good Idea. especially since you said you only need a few things
2006-07-19 17:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Heather H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't feel guilty about having a shower. but SOME PEOPLE think it's "begging" (small minded people). shower's for subsequent children are more of a social gathering. have some fancy invites printed and include in the print "please do not bring gifts or money, cards of congratulations only." they you don't feel guilty and your great aunt LuLu doesn't get upset about you having another shower. just have punch and cake... have a good time. having a baby is a time of celebration and parties are nice so you can remember how much emotional support you have backing you! CONGRATS!
2006-07-19 16:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a no-no as far as etiquette and also you should never throw a party for yourself. More and more people are having family members have one, which is technically a no-no too. Showers are for your friends to have for you. I would think people would grumble under their breath to come to a shower for a third child. You'd never know what people are thinking, as they won't tell you. We will though :) hehe Seriously, though, not trying for this to sound rude, but it is technically not the proper thing to do.
2006-07-19 16:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kristi62870 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your actually suppose to only have one...but I see no reason not to. Having a baby is expensive and a baby shower helps out alot. I had one with all 3 of my kids. It all about what you want to do....ask your friends and see how they feel
2006-07-19 16:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋