He reccently told me he doesnt know if he loves me anymore and also mentioned how he ran into an old friend and how they communicate on a yearly basis but I found email from her very personal.
2006-07-19 08:46:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all hon, a man that says he doesnt know if he loves you anymore needs to make a decision and so do you. NO relationship is worth not getting what you give! You two need to sit down and talk about what is wrong in your relationship and maybe try counseling...maybe just talking will show you something that is lacking that is fixable in the relationship.
Otherwise...move on hon! There's too many fish in the sea to be treated like seaweed!!!
2006-07-19 08:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Nefertiti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he cheating? Yes....you knew the answer to that. He might be giving you a little truth/little lie...he met an old friend and they communicate on a yearly basis? Well, he may have met an old friend but they are communicating more often than that. Don't lower yourself to go through his email. Just tell him its time to end things. Usually when someone says that they don't know IF they love someone it means that they DON'T love someone...its just hard to tell someone straight out.
2006-07-19 08:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you need to have a long talk. Find out how he feels about you relationship overall. Maybe theres something that hes needing that maybe you arent understanding. A lot of marriages and relationships fail because neither one knows how to communicate effectively. You need to get to the bottom of this and him writing personal emails to some "old friend" is not going to make anything any better. It wont solve any issues or fix any problems it will make it worse. He needs to talk to you and be honest with you. If you both feel that theres nothing left to salvage after long consideration, Id say you both need to end it before you both go on hurting each other. But if there are things that you can salvage and you both are willing to try, do whatever you can!
Sometimes you can talk it out and find out what you both need and make a plan from there. There are many options out there for troubled marriages but my first suggestion is to sit down and talk without interruption.
2006-07-19 08:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by niteangel2283 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The personal email definitely would set off an alarm in my head, but I wouldn't jump to conclusions and point any fingers just yet. He may have emotionally cheated on you already, but I think you are more concerned with the fact that he may have sexually cheated on you. It wouldn't be fair to blame him yet with such little proof. However, if you find more convincing and incriminating evidence, by all means take action. Remember though that you may be over exxagerating, and the problem could have developed because you are too busy or unconcerned with your husbands needs. I would suggest a heart-to-heart with each other and decide the best solution together.
2006-07-19 08:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mike F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say from personal expierance is watch for changes in his route and actions. For example my husband after 12 years all the sudden became concerned with his chest hair and waxed it off. He also started trying to work out and tan. Very Very weird for him he hardly gets off the couch to get a beer and doesn't give a hoot if he wears shorts to a formal affair. Then all the sudden he started doing that. Also he started being supper supper nice all concerned with what I was doing and that was so that he knew where I was so he wouldn't get caught. One last thing start writing things down like what he wore to work, things that seem weird and last of all your gut feeling. Then you can go back an read them see if things fall into place. You really should fallow your gut feelings as they usually are right I didn't and then I caught my husband!
2006-07-19 08:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Knock Knock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, in case you imagine someone is deceptive on you - commonly they're. habit in a cheater variations dramatically - being very closed/guarded, no longer wanting to sleep with you anymore, leaving at strange hours, replacing schedules, no longer being the position they stated that they'd be, the list is going on. in case your spouse became affectionate before and isn't any longer now, properly, it truly is a foul signal honey. Hiring a PI received't do you any good in spite of the indisputable fact that, she'll likely nevertheless take you to the cleaners contained in the divorce no remember what, esp. once you've youthful toddlers.
2016-12-01 22:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-19 08:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by hauntedheart25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe he is cheating, keep your mouth shut and your eyes open. I was married far too long to a cheating husband. If he's cheating, he's lieing about his activities and that will be what truly sinks him. When you catch him in a lie, don't let him get by with it.
2006-07-19 08:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be forthcoming and outright and ask him if he has been cheating. If he says "yes" then you need to determine what you are to do next. And if he says "no" ask him about the emails and always listen to your intuition.
2006-07-19 08:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says he doesnt know if he love you anymore mostly likely hes cheating or trying to cheat on you, i would just walk away, and give him what he deserves.
2006-07-19 08:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋