Approaching 40. Not interested in marriage or kids. Don't want to party like i'm 21 besides I would look strange. What do people who choose to live alone do productively with their time? Please no crude comments.
2006-07-19 08:27:59 · 26 answers · asked by godar1990 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you tried a hobby such as fishing, hiking, etc? Those will keep you active and you will not be lonely as you will have friends around.
2006-07-19 08:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really like to know why you feel that way. maybe thereis an underlying situation that causes u this reaction. On a more psycological level,im curious. Are you looking for a life partner though? You dont want a family to take cafe of you when you are no longer able? Or even just to care about you. Do you have a close personal relationship with God? That is definitely a must,unless you're not on that level. To want to be alone ,I think its a serious issue,or to you maybe not.But to answer your question, go on line get involved in some type of extra curricular activity in your community,sports,join a gym,do voulenteer work ,join a church group. you've got the internet RIGHT???
2006-07-19 15:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by Petunia247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you must have fulfilling relationships in your life if you are happy to remain single. It's great being married but there is heartache that comes with that, too. Everyone has their own pain in one way or another. Involve yourself with friends and family and try to be a blessing to them in any way that you can. It's hard to find the time for those kind of things when someone else is your priority. Take a mission trip or do something equally gratifying. Make plans for yourself so you keep busy and don't get lonely. Remember God did not give everyone the desire for marriage for this reason-so that you can be ultimately used by Him and so that your attention will not be divided. AVOID the bar scene! Pray that God can use you now-he has big plans for your life!!
2006-07-19 15:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Loo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few guy friends that are not married, and like you do not want to be, nor do they have children. Some have their girlfriends live with them, but are both understanding that there will be no wedding or kids. They stay close to their guy friends single & married, and never feel like the odd man out when invitied to parties of their married friends. You have the freedom to go wherever & whenever you want...that is the luxury of being single. Enjoy it, and live life today as if there would be no tomorrow. Live it richly, and fulfilled. You should never feel that you are missing out on something. Go fishing, buy a boat, go sailing, learn to sail, go skiing, or learn to ski....enjoy your life, and get off the computer so you can!!! You do not have to party like you are 21 to enjoy yourself. Now, get off the computer, and go start living!!!
2006-07-19 15:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by thedothanbelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to some old hobbies or learn some new ones.
I'd say make strong friendships, find that balance between spending time with friends and alone time.
Get a pet so you have something to take care of.
Exercise and get in shape.
Volunteer if nothing interests you.
2006-07-19 15:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always find yourself a good group of girlfriends. You don't have to go out and party all the time but a good girls night out never hurt anybody. I don't see why you have to live alone. Why not still date, but not get married? There are plenty of guys out there who also don't want to get married. The hard part is finding them. You could always volunteer or work 2 jobs.
2006-07-19 15:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attend Tearooms, Poetry Rooms, Comedy Clubs, go dance, join a dart club or just stay in your room and watch TV. The list can go on forever. You make it known to others that you're not dating if you go to these locations. You just be yourself. I'm over 40 and still party like I was 21 with no alcohol. I just go out and make the fun. I go date and have fun. Its really up to your own preference on what makes you happy and comfortable. Good Luck...
2006-07-19 15:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by smiles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are reaching 40, you may invest your precious time for the benefit of the peoples who are deprived of basic necessities. Probably may choose to associate yourself with an NGO or any such Non Profit Organisation. With this you get satisfied with the works you do.......
Think of some thing in this line for the betterment of, to save humanity. If you find one share with all of us....... So those who are thinking like you may join you.
2006-07-19 15:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Vijay123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with girl friends, or guy friends, gay guys are cool to hang out with. Chat on-line, ( sometimes that's boring). I would look back in your past , and try to remember all the times you were truly happy and content. Sounds to me like you haven't found who you are. That's why your asking other people to tell you, ---only you----, can truly answer this question. Because if you believe someone else, then you'll not be full filling your own happiness, but what someone else thinks.
2006-07-19 15:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Advise = ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up any crafts or hobbies that you may have an interest in!!! Get out a little it is not good to be by yourself all the time!! Do you work? That takes up a lot of time!!!
2006-07-19 15:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a community group, you can choose what interests you, meet cool people and have a great time. The choices are endless! I personaly am part of a hiking/camping/biking group and i love it! The folks there are soo nice.
Good luck and have fun!
2006-07-19 15:31:08 · answer #11 · answered by dapperflapper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋