(scenario) the male keeps on accusing the girl of cheating although she has been nothing but loyal, he is never around she has a young child with him. All he seems to do is go out he is never there to help to pay for any thing and has left her broke by not returning money borrowed, he works shes on uni loan. He does not help with any expenses at all even for their child and really stresses the girl out. He is a little older then her she is really young, and she had a troubled upbringing with her own parents (been through care and that) He is so good at making her look like the bad person, he is hipocritcal in every single way, never looks at him self. the girl recently experianced some problems recently , she had nothing to do with what happened but her man is blaming her, he just uses hershe knows that and when she leaves him he becomes abusive and sceary. what is the best way to break away from this abusive, mean, hipocritical man. (due to low money moving away is hard , he stalks)
2006-07-19 08:12:56 · 20 answers · asked by sweetlikehoney_73 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wonder if you are really serious after reading your other question. If you are just taking a survey you need to say so....if not then
You need to call a woman's shelter and ask for advice.....TODAY
Good luck!
G.G.
2006-07-19 08:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start out by changing the way you act. Don't be real mean, but show him he doesn't own you!(if he thinks so: you own him too) Ya'll are suppose to support each other.(let him know that) Ask him would he abuse his mother or his child. If he says NO then tell him he has no right to abuse you. Then, if he don't like the way you are treating him now, tell him to look in the mirror. .(tell him all the stuff your child needs)Then, start leaving your wallet laying out because if he stalks then, he sure will snoop and he will notice the money shortage. Then, he will notice he needs to put some money in somewhere... Finally, if he don't come through. Leave his sorry butt. If he starts to stalk thats what the LAW for.....
2006-07-19 15:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you two arent were you want to be and that you love him but just dont think things are working out. Make sure you tell him in public and not alone if he is abusive. He treats her like this b/c he has nothing and she has all the power and he doesnt feel like a man but the thing is he could there is something holding him back and him being abusive is him feeling like he is in power. She is the one in power she needs to get away and take care of her son and herself. Hope all goes the way it should. Good luck and God bless
2006-07-19 15:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There have been so many songs over the years talking about leaving your man or woman. My favorite was "Fifty Ways To Leave Your Lover." I don't remember all the words, but some of it went like this.
Just walk out the back jack
Make a new plan Stan...
Hop on the bus Gus
Don't need to discuss much..
Drop off the key Lee....
Just get yourself free
Then there was "Just Walk Away Renee' "
2006-07-19 15:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by C R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, if you can say all this, why are you still in the relationship? with any dignity you have left, leave him! you can do so much better. don't look back, don't regret. is your one second of happiness worth all this pain he's causing you? just leave. you don't need to say anything and you don't need to explain. he obviously has some issues and if he's accusing you of cheating, let him. a man's insecurities only reflect his infidelity. go live with your parents and get the cops involved. this man doesn't love you, he just wants to control you so that he can have a sense of power. inside, he's nothing but a small insecure baby.
2006-07-19 15:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by bcbebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step one.. look in your phone book for a womens shelter.. They will meet you somewhere and take you to there safe house. Next they will walk you through getting a restraining order. If he has used physical violence in anyway in the last 30 days you can get one. Next, they will help you get state assistance. The state has programs for housing, food, daycare. They will even help you get a job. Then go to their meetings learn something. Become stronger so in your next relationship you won't get abused... I went through this and I am so much stronger now.. So come on do it.. step one.. phone book make the call... we're all here for you
2006-07-19 15:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not worth staying together for the sake of it. The kid will suffer the most. If she are going to leave,she should just do it. If he doesn't get the picture she can always get help, like the police or a restraining order.
2006-07-19 15:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by lu_sprit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guilty person will always blame the other person,tell him now then never.He is doing the wrong things and blaming it on you,because he has a guilty conscious.It sounds like you are a trustworthy person.You are beautiful and kind and he does not respect that.Lose the loser.
2006-07-19 15:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by redfoxs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. The relationship will never get better, and haven't you heard of the old saying....The accuser is the doer. Maybe that's why he's not around.
2006-07-19 15:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the police and get a restraining order against him
2006-07-19 15:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by miracle man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋