Am I wrong for being upset?

Question

My ex receives text message, phone calls from family and friends and there is nothing wrong with that I dont mind and I never say anything or complain because there is nothing wrong with it nor does it bother me but the instant that I get a text message its like um hmm who is texting you now and when my phone rings its whos calling you, for example my mom called me the other day and we were eating dinner I answered my cell and she tells me tell her your eating, and naturally I got upset because of that I looked at my ex and said its my mom and she said well your eating but it pissed me off because there are times when her mom calls when we are eating or about to eat and not once have I told her tell your mom your eating.

Answer 1

well Rose, no you are not wrong you are right, and i will just tell you dont let anybody to control you or you life , you are just your self and of nobody alls, and if your mom call you get answer and tell her avry thing what you meen and dont be afraid, you have all rights and you have right to live and to talk with your family. omg is your family, what is wrong with that woman???
Be strong woman and dont lett no1 to play with you, be strong and good and always tell what you think to person who is not play fer.
Rose i wish you all best and take care of your self and be happy happy happy and have fun and you just worry about your self and your family for now, and whan you will have new gf and she will love you for really and show you that and she talk with your family to and care for them, then you care for her to and worry and love,..
I think you know what i meen and just be strong.
all best
:)

Answer 2

Is the text messaging and phone calls at dinner all that's bothering you? For some reason I have a gut feeling that there are more issues in your marriage then just you getting pissed because she called you out on accepting phone calls at dinner. Take a step back and look at your relationship. It seems to me you two may need counseling. If not for more problems, then for the simple fact that she's controlling ***** and you need that out in the open or you're going to always be under her thumb.

Answer 3

Well is he asking you in an accusatory manner? Or is he just curious? Some people are jealous and petty...which is a lot different than him just being curious and making conversation.

I'm assuming he's being aggressive about it, or else you wouldn't have posted...in which case you end this now before it gets worse - and it will escalate if you let it.

Simply tell him you're allowed to talk and message people. You don't hide things, but you would appreciate him not asking you in such an accusatory manner.

If he still behaves that way, then the issue goes beyond phonecalls...and you need counseling.

Answer 4

So if she is an "ex" now then why are you worried? problems over!, she just wanted to be a part of yr life, she just wanted you to trust her, like, tell her who your friends are and what you did when you went there etc. so that she feels that you are so close that you can share anything and everything with her, she just wanted you to be like that naturally, but since you are not that kind of a person she started stressing out things which she wants you to share.
But this kind of attachment could be a pain. so its great that she is an ex now ... you will get friends who would respect your privacy and be great buddies too...cheer up :o)

Answer 5

Your ex? Why would either of you care who texts or calls? If it is an issue during meals then just put your phone to silent...and call the person back when you have the chance. Believe me, nothing is more annoying than to be talking or eating with someone and then be put on 'hold' for them to answer their phone. Its just bad manners. As for asking who it is...well, just tell the person who it is...and if its someone who they don't want you talking to...well, too bad. Better for them to deal with it rather than you be lying.

Answer 6

well i see someone has jealousy issues..and yes u should be upset, thats not fair in a relationship that one is being one way and the other acting another!! if she cant handle the fact that u have friends or relatives that text u or ur mom calls u while ur eating...then its time for u to get a new woman, cause it only gets worse...plus jealousy ***** up relationships!!

Answer 7

From looking at your answ it seems that you and your x; if I am correct are to involved. Any one would be upset because if that person is your x, who has the right to tell you what to say to your own mum? If you love this person stay together if not get completely rid of them. At the end of the day I would not allow any one to say when and what I should say to my mum on the phone . good luk stay strong mate

Answer 8

Yes you should. He has no right to tell you that. Who does he think he is? Im glad he's your Ex cause who to say how worse it could have gotten if you stayed with him. Sound like he is way to controlling. That's your mom!!! You can talk to her when ever you want . That's such BS. Dont let anyone tell you what to do!

Answer 9

Yes, you should be upset, there is no reason that she should be telling you to get off the phone with your mother, your mother comes before her, no matter what. Just talk to her about it and tell her that it bothers you when she's always assuming that you're on the phone with someone else and that you have the right to talk to your mother whenever you damn well please!

Answer 10

What the hell are you doing living and running around with your 'ex' for?
You both seem to be the problem...not the text messaging.

Answer 11

I agree you should be able to get texts and phone calls but it is rude to accept phone calls when your eating, thats a long standing rule. Let it goto vm and finish your meal.