I dated a guy for 4 years...and we are broken up..I'm moved on..its been like 2 years since we;ve dated.
Well. He hasn't changed...he's still into drugs and all that jazz. Me being to type of person that I am, (too freakin nice) I listen to him when he needs to talk. He's a depressed person..and I feel like if he needs to vent I'll listen. He was my best friend...the only boyfriend that felt like a best friend. I feel like I need to be there for him. What do I say to him when he starts talking about how bad his life is..and how he can't get a girlfriend. I want to be like "its ok"...but I don't know how he feels. I know he's brought a lot on himself..but I still feel the need to be there for him. What do you say to someone like that? How do I handle being his friend..
I don't want to say.."You've brought this on yourself" He really doesn't need to hear that. Oh me...
2006-07-19 08:09:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
first off all it's good to see u care. U r doin the right thing by listening to him, but see that things don't cross the border. Also tell him that if he want's to change his life ., he must go to a drug rehab and take proffestional help or counselling for his mental turmoil, let his family know about his problems, and tell them to support him. He must be made to realize that he must commit to changing things, for a better life tommorow.All the best
2006-07-19 08:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by Vio Prince 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Although it will be hard you have to draw the line between helping him and helping you. It seems certain people(myself included) want to help the people they care about even when that person doesn't care about themselves. Has he tried to get off the drugs, that would be a start. Men/women do stupid things when they are high. Help him if you can and when you can't tell him you will always be his friend but you have to take care of yourself. Who knows maybe he will get things going then.
2006-07-19 15:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by confused/hurt/angry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell your friend that he could go and see a professional about his situation. I know that you want to be there for your friend but you don't need a friend who is depressing, bringing you down due to his problems, and getting involved with drugs. It is your decision to help him with his problem or move on with your life.
2006-07-19 15:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a real life and stay out of yours...he will drain you dry...emotionally, financially and socially....and you do not need to explain your feelings to him...he has not earned it...move on
2006-07-19 15:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that his problems are something you don't unfortanately know how to help him with and then suggest he get other help.
2006-07-19 15:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by cindyspiderucla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋