A little update: a couple of days ago, I asked for help about my girlfriend being in her 12th week of pregnancy. As you know she left me. Well we talked yesterday, she doesn't deny that she loves me and this is hard on her, but she says I changed since we found out she was having our child. Everyone I know says, I have matured and have a different look on my face. Now we both quit smoking the day we found out and for the 1st week it was unpleasant. But It as been alot better. I just know if this is all hormones. What do I do? I just don't know, I miss her and I think about everything I will miss. Most people tell me to call her every couple of days and let her know that I love her and I'm here for her if she needs me, what do you think? Also, should I call her mom and dad? I only met them 1 time. We just went to their house on vacation 2 weeks ago. Please help!!!
2006-07-19 08:09:21 · 6 answers · asked by yarddoggeydawgs 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just let everyone know: I'm 37 and she is 27. I have a job: I own a business.
2006-07-19 08:26:11 · update #1
If you really loved her you would have waited until the two of you were married to get her pregnant. If you really loved her you wouldn't have slept with her and gotten her into this mess. If you really, truly loved her you would have commited to being with her the rest of your life before having a child with her. In other words, I don't blame her for how she feels.
2006-07-19 08:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is the girlfriend, if she is young then the parents might not be the ones to talk to. Try writing the parents and the girl a letter seperately, explain that you are there for her and want to support her.
Read books, get a job, study hard, do whatever it takes to become a stronger father.
Remind her with a letter/card or a call every week or so, try to find out when she has scans so that you can offer to be there for support.
Take it slowly and do the right things as well as say them.
Its hard work being a dad and you are great for trying so hard to become one when so many others just walk away.
Keep trying and good luck!
2006-07-19 08:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow yard dog, what a pickle. I don't know why your lady left you, so my answer is based on the information you have given. I suggest as long as she is willing to take your calls, then call her. Be supportive, but not overbearing. Her hormones are raging, she probably doesn't know what she wants most of the time, factor in being scared too!. It wouldn't hurt to call her mom and dad and let them know that you are trying to be supportive, however, that sounds a little young. I assume you are young. You don't want to come off like a stalker, but you want to be around enough for your child. When you call her next, tell her you want to do Lamaze classes with her (natural childbirth) Then follow through. Find out when they are and be at every one of the classes. This is your baby too! Be responsible and do the right thing. Support her. Buy things for the baby, crib; basinette; diapers; washcloths; and other necessities. Be a daddy. Good Luck. Nana
2006-07-19 08:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is that there's a child involved. It's not about you or her. Think about the child. Try to work things out. If you can't come to some kind of agreement.
Just make sure you're in child's life. No matter what -- you are still the Father. Act like it.
2006-07-19 08:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Q. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the tone of the letter u both love each other. My advice is call her and talk over these differences whatever the reason maybe why she walked out of the relationship.Try and talk it over for the baby, and if she is the only one for u and u the only one for her get marry she if comes back to u.And if she doesn't come back to u still be a good father to your child.
2006-07-19 08:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Shameka D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her time to think if she still loves you she will come back
but yes it is okay if you want to talk to her and when you talk to her if you want to tell her you love her still
just try to be her friend for now dont try to force her to take you back
and i think that if you talk to her parents that she moght get more mad at you
2006-07-19 08:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by so-lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋