How do I get along with people?

Question

Most of the time, I get disappointed, hurt, angered, offended, or insulted, you name it, by them.

Answer 1

Smile.
People do suck but you cannot take them too seriously. But most importantly do not take yourself too seriously.
The day I stopped doing that to myself was the day my whole life changed.

Answer 2

Well it sounds like you care a great deal about what others think so the verbal and physical feedback you get from them affect you alot. The best thing you can do is be yourself and try your best to be polite and treat others how you want to be treated but have a backbone at the same time. If you give everyone that same treatment you will be surprised how much respect you'll receive in return and if they don't respect you and your still getting a "I don't like you vibe" or their just plain rude then try and talk it out with them if they still don't budge from their selfish ways then they are just a miserable person and most likely jealous of you because they want to bring you down to the same low level that they are on. If you do your best to get along with everyone and they aren't kind to you in return after all this then you'll know you did everything you could and that will show that they are just rude uncaring people that you don't want to spend your time with. Im sure from your question that you can't be a bad person at all because you have the desire to befriend others and get along with people so I say keep being yourself and you'll attract the kind of friends that are attracted to your personality because if your not yourself then the friends you draw won't know the real you therefore creating more conflict. I hope I was of help and good luck!

Answer 3

I used to have this problem. The problem is that your expectations are too high and that you are too critical of your friends. The first step is to realize this and try to notice the situations when you are getting upset. Looking back on these times, do you think you reacted too quickly? Did your friend mean to upset you or was it simply a misunderstanding? By doing this, it will help you to stay calm in new situations that present themselves instead of responding irrationally.
If you are still hurt or upset by something, that's okay, but the secret to keeping your friends is to communicate. If you are hurt or upset, you need to tell your friend calmly and not in an attacking way. Say something like "I am upset because I didn't like it when you said [blah]". If it is a friend worth keeping they will acknowledge your feelings and you two can work through the conflict.
Just remember that developing healthy, fulfilling relationships with others is something that you will be working on for your entire life. You have behavioral patterns and reactions that have been ingrained into you since you were very young. Your social life will not change right away- rather it willl be in baby steps. But every step you take will bring you one step closer to your ideal you.
good luck

Answer 4

Well, having a relation is always "dangerous" but you have to risk yourself. The only advise I can give you is that you don't expect too much from the people so that they can never disappoint you... And remember you're valuable just because of being you, so don't let people make you feel less that you really are

Answer 5

One must have patience and understanding to get along with just about anyone...not just the difficult ones...If you have something to say you must return the courtesy and listen also...not everything we hear we like or agree with..be understanding that we all are different and will have different views about many things...they may see it one way and you another without open communication there can not be understanding of one another.

Answer 6

First you have to be open minded and not be so picky, just chill and want to get along. If everytime someone says something you get offended then you need to chill and not let it bother you.

Answer 7

be as nice as you can-friendly-don't be pushy-give others their space-be honest-don"t be rude-those people that only want to offend you- just to get a kick out of it are called an enemy! Don't tell others about your troubles all the time-be optimistic!

Answer 8

the reason is u r not happy with urself. U don't love urself , change that and every thing else will go in accordance. U need to cut out off all insecurities and need to earn respect urself and love urself

Answer 9

You need to believe more in yourself. Don't take somuch to heart. The world is full of people out to hurt others. most important relax and be yourself.

Answer 10

Always have low expectations of the other person..That way you are never disappointed in them