What is the best way to concieve?

Answer 1

Of course, having sex helps - this would be of course sex without contraception, a man with a woman, penetrative penis to vagina sex with male ejaculation (orgasm from woman also helps!).

Getting a check up with your doctor is also a good first step to insure you are healthy and they can further advise you - however I cannot stress enough that many doctors are ignorant about issues such as this. It sounds crazy but if you remember that GP's have to learn a lot of information about a lot of different problems, also that they only have a limited time to keep themselves updated and only a limited time with you.
So if you are serious about becoming a parent it is important you look into these things yourself, as it is important to look into anything health-related yourself rather than depending on a GP to know what is best for you.

Now, for the top tip for pregnancy achievement;

Fertility Awareness Method
In very simple terms, use this.

It involves tracking your basal body temperature, cervical mucus and cervical position on a daily basis to determine your fertile days, it would also tell you if you have any fertility problems long before a load of invasive testing by your doctor could because it will show you exactly why you cannot get pregnant by showing where the problems in your cycles are.
It can be used to determine when you are pregnant so saving on home pregnancy tests.
It can even be used to help determine the sex of your child by coupling it with the Shettles method to up your chances of conceiving a boy or a girl. Here's how in basic terms: sperm carrying Y chromosome (boys) swim fast but do not live long, where as sperm carrying X chromosome (girls) are slower but last longer - closer to ovulation the more likely it is to have a boy as they are first to reach egg, further from ovulation cervical mucus will keep the sperm alive long enough for X sperm to reach egg, where as Y sperm will die.
Not only all that but also has life-long advantages of being used next time you wish to conceive (if you choose to again), use as birth control and use for general reproductive & vaginal health, putting your sexual health well into your own hands.

You are only fertile for 30% of your cycle, you will normally only produce one egg per cycle that lives for up to 48 hours, sperm will only live up to 5 days within fertile quality cervical mucus (only a few hours without cervical mucus as acidic environment in the vagina will kill sperm - mucus also needed to help sperm reach the egg).
So if you have sex at the wrong time of your cycle it is not going to achieve anything, apart from perhaps get you and your partner very frustrated and confused.

I would highly recommend getting a book called 'Taking Charge Of Your Fertility' by Toni Weschler, it will set you back around £12 from Amazon or can be picked up at most book stores, and it very much worth what you pay for it.

A lot of areas also have Fertility Awareness Method instructors that would be able to help you learn if need be, these are normally within the NHS and most do not charge, but may ask for a donation from yourself. These trainers can be found by doing a search through FertilityUK: http://www.fertilityuk.org

Sites on Fertility Awareness Method and Natural Family Planning [similar to FAM, however when used for birth control FAM uses barrier methods, FAM does not];
http://www.tcoyf.com – FAM.
http://www.28-days.com – FAM.
http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/fam.ht... - FAM FAQ.
http://www.geocities.com/heartland/meado... - NFP.
http://www.billings-centre.ab.ca – Billings Ovulation Method.
http://www.justisse.ca – Holistic and FAM methods.
http://www.sisterzeus.com – Herbs and FAM methods.
http://www.geocities.com/fertility_aware... - FAM charts.

On gender selection (if interested);
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/faqs/gend... - Shettles Method.
http://www.in-gender.com – Gender selection.


Other similar options would be to use CycleBeads that are beads that show your fertile and none fertile days, Boots also has an ovulation kit which consists of a little case with charts and a basal body thermometer for £12 that would be similar to FAM, NFP and other ovulation methods but without as much attention to detail – which you do not really need if planning on getting pregnant. You could also go the more hi-tech route by using computers such as Babycomp or Persona that will both tell you when you are ovulating – I do believe you can also get ovulation testing kits, however these are not as accurate at determining when you are fertile.

For more information;
http://www.cyclebeads.com – CycleBeads.
http://www.ladycomp.com – Ladycomp and Babycomp.
http://www.boots.com/shop/product_list_n... – Boots fertility products.

Another idea which would be simpler and cheaper, although not as effective, would be to use basic tracking methods and charting these in a calendar or online, there are a few web sites around, most will work on a method similar to the Rhythm Method where it determines fertile days in accordance to your cycle and previous cycles – i.e. your last period was on day x, your next period will be on day y, so your ovulation will be on day z. This is similar to saying that you ovulate on day 14 of your cycle, although in a regular typical cycle this would be correct (ovulation around day 12-16) if you have irregular cycles or simply your cycle is not set to this pattern this can do little for you and end up with you having sex on the wrong days, not falling pregnant and believing there is a fertility problem where there is none.

Basic charting sites;
http://www.fertilityfriend.com – Fertility Friend.
http://www.mymonthlycycles.com – My Monthly Cycles.
http://www.cyclespage.com – Cycles Page.

Then of course a small note is that general health will help, if you are sleep deprived then this can very well effect your chances of pregnancy, as will other factors like sleep, as your body is designed to try to avoid your getting pregnant and carrying to full-term when it is not able to keep you or the child healthy.

Improved diet and an up in vitamins and other dietary needs such as folic acid will help a lot, most people do not realise but your menstrual cycle has a big effect on your body and your general health can have a huge effect on your cycles, if you are in poor health this may prevent pregnancy, in fact a change in diet can fully regulate many women's cycles when they may have had problems for years.

There are also many other natural aids such as herbal or holistic methods that will help you too.

It is best to consult an expert when it comes to herbs, however you might want to consider more common herbal treatments that carry low risk such as Black Cohosh (oestrogenic stimulates ovaries), Evening Primrose Oil (regulates cycles), Vitex (regulate ovulation), Don Qui (regulates cycles & strengthens uterus), Red Clover (rich in coumestans and isoflavones – likened to progesterone).
Don Qui I believe is a bad idea if you have heart conditions, but all others I do believe are safe - things like Evening Primrose Oil are very safe and very common in use for menstrual cycle regulation that will help assist conception, you can actually usually pick this up at supermarkets or pharmacies.
If you go to a health store that sells herbal treatments they will be able to tell you how best to take them, probably in tea form a few times a day, and be able to tell you if there are any negative effects to taking them.

Of course in the end if none of these things work it would mean a trip to see your doctor to find out why, it is either a serious problem with your own reproductive system or a problem with your partner - again, if you use FAM you will know before reaching your doctor what the problem is and so how best to go about dealing with the problem, this will allow you a little more control over your treatment if it is needed.

Within a few months of using FAM you should either be pregnant or know why you are not pregnant.

Answer 2

Don't get stressed out about it - probably a bit late now - after all, if you'd got pregnant after the first time you'd hardly be posting here!

Do all the lying on your back with a pillow under your bottom and your legs in the air after sex stuff, temerature charting, taking folic acid etc but when it becomes a chore - stop, give yourselves a break and do something fun.

Don't put your entire life on hold until it happens - it's my theory that will delay things simply because of the stress! Get the sporty motor and don't worry about where the baby seat will go!

Find someone nice to talk to about it and put it into context - it's like meeting the right person - happens when you forget about how worried you were about it not happening!

Best of luck - from someone who totally understands what you're going through because it took me so long to concieve (eventually it happened just like everyone said it would!)

Answer 3

The best way to conceive is to find out when you ovulate. If you know that, then you can start planning. You should have sex every other day starting 1-2 days before you ovulate, and continuing until the day after you finish ovulating. You can buy an ovulation predicting kit at any drug store or Wal-Mart. You should also talk to your doctor, they can recommend some books for you read about this subject.

Answer 4

The *only* way to conceive is to have sex shortly before you ovulate. The surest way (short of repeated, long ultrasounds) to know when you are going to ovulate is to chart your fertility signs.

An online ovulation calendar will *not* help--it gives you *averages*, not something about you personally; if you want to get a mythical average woman pregnant, it may help, though. And don't bother with an ovulation predictor kit, either. Most of them are only good for a woman who has cycles of precisely the same length each time--which is extremely rare.

To learn how to chart your signs, read _Taking Charge of Your Fertility_ by Toni Weschler. It is very detailed and helpful.

Answer 5

I believe the best way to concieve is to have sex with a man who has a large penis. If you are in a relationship and want to have a child with that man, if he doesn't have a large penis, use a medicine that helps move sperm along faster.

Answer 6

To know your ovulation dates and to have sex every other day during that time. If you want a girl try having sex 2 days before your best day to conceive because the X last longer but swim slower. Try waiting until your best day to conceive if you would like a boy Y chromosome swim fast but don't last long.=)

Answer 7

Firstly you have to be sure and your partner are fit and well, both mentally and physically. Trying to conceive is the most natural thing, provided you and your partner are relaxed enough and not feeling stressed about how long it is taking, it will happen. I have heard of couples trying for almost a year with no result, but as soon as they stopped actually thinking about it, and just enjoyed practicing low and behold 9 months later they held their little bundle. Please dont fret, just let it happen naturally.

Answer 8

trust me you'll have a much better time of it if you don't worry about it! most couples conceive within 2 years so relax and when it happens you'll be even more prepared as you'll have waited long enough to be truly ready for the experience. it took my and my partner a year and a half and we now have a happy healthy baby boy!

Answer 9

my husband and I conceived whilst not talking to each other!!! The ovulation test was positive but we had a huge row about 3 hours before and still hadn't sorted it out, but it worked, my little boy was born in March!!

Answer 10

Have A LOT of sex...preferably with the man you want to conceive with.

Answer 11

umm, have sex with a person of the opposite sex during the days that you are ovulating which would be around day 14 in your cycle