the good guy is everything i could ever want but the bad guy is the love of my life. i known the bad guy for 7 yrs and we have been through a lot so i dont want to loose everything we have worked on. he dosent realize what he has yet...i know one day he will see but i know my worth and i know i deserve better. the good guy wants to give me the world but i want to give the bad guy the world. the bad boy isnt bad he just isnt good. my mind says the good guy but my heart says the bad guy. do i follow my heart or listen to my mind. please help me...xoxo
2006-07-19 07:49:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Maybe you need to find a brand new guy who will be both good and bad. Someone who you know in your mind that you could be with and that your heart draws you to. Good luck!
2006-07-19 08:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 8⤊ 5⤋
If you want you children to be raised by a bad guy in and out of jail, and can't get a decent job then go with him. If you want a man that will love and cherish you pick the good guys. You can have fun with anyone, that is what you make of it. Find a guy that has a good sense of humor though, it will help a lot when times are really hard to bear.
The bad guy thing is appealing, but you will be lonely or alone if you have a family. Drugs are more than likely involved so if you have this question you must have doubts.
2006-07-19 15:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a link for a Dear Margo question that fits your situation.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/dear_margo/20060713/en_dm/margo_howard20060713;_ylt=AoUQrI7lT.278Xl50k3vb.T9mc0F;_ylu=X3oDMTA5aHJvMDdwBHNlYwN5bmNhdA--
I have always been the good guy so obviously I am pulling for him. But, someone willing to give you the world only means so much if you don't love him. Love/Marriage is a two way street and it takes BOTH people feeling the same way. It looks like you are in a predicament here. Yes you have a long history with the bay boy so just the element of time surely plays into your decision. What do you friends and family think about each one? I found that usually they can view people with an unbiased opinion and can give you good advice. Just remember that love is a two way street and you can only bend so much before you break...they have to be willing to meet you in the middle. Good luck!!
2006-07-19 14:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by hotsauceg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boo the bad boy, trust me on this. if u stay with the bad boy all ur in for is hurt. i had plenty of bad boys and now i have a good guy and i wouldnt trade him for all the bad boys in the world. so unless u want to be a crazy old lady with a house full of cats i suggest u dump the bad boy. its been 7 yrs if he hasnt seen ur worth yet he never will and hes just using u as a back up plan.
2006-07-19 14:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by shadowpaws2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know what you should be doing, but are trying to talk yourself into something that you feel you should do. If you love the bad boy, but realize there isn't a future there, then it's time to move on. If the good guy is someone you are settling for, it's not fair to him or you, because it won't work out.
2006-07-19 14:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you said the bad guy doesn't realize what he has yet. And the good guy wants to give you the world. After 7 years he still doesn't get it, I would definitly go with the good guy. You have to look out for you. Choose the guy that is choosing you back.
2006-07-19 14:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by Brit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is wear u truly need to sit down and make yourself a list of the good and bad of each guy. You need to figure out where u want your life to go. This bad boy could and probably is just a fantasy tyopwe guy and its probably lust not love. The nice guy is willing to anything for u! Thats a guy who is unselfish-caring-generouse and kind! Take the good guy and give him a chance to win your love!
2006-07-19 16:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you watch the movie Bridget Jone's Diary. Similar scenario with the good boy/ bad boy. Maybe if you go through that journey with Bridget, you'll see some parallels in your own life that will help you make the right decision.
2006-07-19 14:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by brighteyes1701 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mind has better sense BUT you heart will make you happy.
Go w/ ur heart or you will regret it and the relationship w/ the good guy will not be a good 1!
2006-07-19 14:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in alot of cases u should listen to ur heart but in this case listen to ur mind 'cause it really depends on how bad the bad boy really is!
2006-07-19 14:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by changler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember this, if you wait for someone to change or try to change them, you will always be disappointed. If a person doesn't see you for what you are worth, then more than likely they never will. It sucks if you love that person, but if they can't respect you now, they never will.
2006-07-19 14:53:21 · answer #11 · answered by secret_squirrel_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋