the good guy is everything i could ever want but the bad guy is the love of my life. i known the bad guy for 7 yrs and we have been through a lot so i dont want to loose everything we have worked on. he dosent realize what he has yet...i know one day he will see but i know my worth and i know i deserve better. the good guy wants to give me the world but i want to give the bad guy the world. the bad boy isnt bad he just isnt good. my mind says the good guy but my heart says the bad guy. do i follow my heart or listen to my mind. please help me...xoxo
2006-07-19 07:47:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Makeup
men suck... the dont understand very much they are not very compassionate they piss you off their stupid they dont think very much and they should all die....become a lesbian you'll feel better and you wont be in this situation ever again...good luck
2006-07-19 08:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by E 4 · 4⤊ 6⤋
Think about the future. How will you feel about the "bad boy" when he's 65? When everything he was when he was younger has changed. When responsibility starts building up. Think about how he is now?
Is he just into lots of flirting (or more)? Is he a "ladies man"? Does he drink? do drugs? How does he treat you?
There is a saying about in marriage to "not be unequally yolked".
For those of us who do not know what a yolk is, it was a tool used to link to animals (oxes, horses, mules, etc.) . It makes the work they have to do much easier because they have common goals.
It basically means don't be with someone who isn't going the same way as you. The bad boy may be appealing, but he may not be your best option. I ended a relationship of almost 5 years because I was being treated poorly. After months of trying to fix it I called it quits. A few months later, I met my wife.
The goodboy is possibly a good choice... but it doesn't mean he's the ONE either. The best advice is just to not RUSH into anything. Consider the future, consider how you are being treated now.
As far as the giving of the world. I believe you said you would give it to the bad boy and the good boy would give it to you. My advice in that case is to find the man to whom YOU would give the world and who would give YOU the world. If you're in it together... you might just get it.
2006-07-19 15:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Peter M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must simply follow your gut. Your heart isn't thinking and your head isn't feeling. Be with the one that knows your worth and the one that is willing to put anything on the line to prove it. Be with the one that makes you laugh, the one you can bring home to the parents...the one that will pick you up when you fall, the one that knows you are a queen. Don't spend another 7 years of your life trying to prove to the bad guy that you are the one. He might figure it out later on down the line, and only then is the time you should consider your happiness with him...whatever you decide, good luck.
2006-07-19 14:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I whould say follow your heart that what I will do is i will follow my heart to the person who i like and mybe it will be the bad guy or the good guy.I wouldfollow my heart to the good guy. you think about who you really like the most and who your heart tells you to follow.i got a Question for you.does the bad guy loves you like the good guy?that is my queshion for .tell me when you want to
always com to me if you want something
2006-07-19 15:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by nona b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad Boy!
2006-07-19 14:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by malung786 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really cant say, because I have no idea what the situation is and what the consequences of choosing either would be.
ah what the hell go with the good guy
2006-07-19 14:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by dnesnwotnad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your heart , your mind is telling you what you think you want to hear but eventually your heart and mind wil say the same thing......
2006-07-19 14:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Shawnee_ Bonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad boy sounds like a better choice...i would say follow ur heart
2006-07-19 14:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the guy who you can't imagine your life without
Go with the guy who you think will make the best father
2006-07-19 14:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by Will the Thrill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really sad that you think that the "bad" guy is gonna change, and that you can change him....its gonna be even more sad when the good guy moves on...you will probabaly just continue on with this sad cycle untill you realise you have to change and then do something about it....
2006-07-19 14:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by stephaniech24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should listen 2 ur heart
2006-07-19 14:52:31 · answer #11 · answered by bbylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋