I AM GOING OUT WITH A BOY THAT MY BEST FRIEND LIKES BUT SHE SAID THAT SHE KNEW HIM FIRST AND WANTS TO GO OUT WITH HIM. WHEN I ASKED HIM IF HE LIKED HER HE SAID KIND OF.NOW MY FRIEND WILL DO ANYTHING IN HER POWER TO BREAK US UP. WHAT DO I DO?
2006-07-19 07:23:55 · 28 answers · asked by BEAUTIFUL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If your friend really cared about you, she'd let you two have your relationship and would get out of the way. She shouldnt complain to you or try to break you guys up either. If she really wants to go out with him, she can just wait till you guys are over and then hook up with him.
2006-07-19 07:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good addition would be, how old are you...I'm thinkin between middle/high school. So i say.... men will come and go and never be over zealous about any of them(atleast until you meet the one). Treat them all as best friends and learn from how they treat women. It will give you a broader spectrum of noticing and picking up on lame "game". So when you wanna choose a man, you get your best pick. Surround yourself with good guys and maybe a player here and there as friends and it will be all good. So if another guy "kind of" likes your friend...i say leave him and let them go at it. But don't stay in the relationship just cuz.....have a reason. And if your reason isnt the same as his....you might have more of a reason to leave.
2006-07-19 14:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really pretty simple: Your friend or your boy friend.
These are the sort of things that cause enemies and, though
there are some things you can try that might help, they probably
won't.
First off, is this boy worth losing your friendship over?
Realize that in all probability, you will *NOT* end up with him.
That is, it takes a while in the dating world for most people
to figure out what/who they want - and it seems unlikely
that you have that experience yet.
So, is a few dates with him worth losing your friendship with her
over?
On the other hand, think of the power you gain if you
gallantly step asside and have HER decide after awhile that
she isn't interested in him. Than you can have him (for as
long as you want him) *AND* you get to keep her as a friend.
If all goes well, you'll date a lot of boys before (if) you settle
down. I know plenty of people who still have their friends
from kindergarten!
2006-07-19 14:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon what you value more, your friendship or a potential relationship with this guy. But, if your friend is the type to try to break you two up, then I would ask myself the question what kind of friend is she really. I had a similar situation during my freshman year in college, and the guy she chose I thought to be a complete asshole. But, when I saw she was happy with him, I came to the conclusion that her happiness meant more to me then my own selfish desire, because I genuinely cared for her.
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2006-07-19 14:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you're gonna have to let your friend go, or you're gonna have to let both of them go. If your friend is vindictive enough to break up your relationship because "she knew him first and likes him," then there's no telling how far she would go when it comes to other areas of life, i.e. marriage. A friend would not do that to a friend.
On top of that if you do let go of your friend, she will really try to come between the both of you. But your trust will have to lie with the boyfriend.
Good luck
2006-07-19 14:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's really your best friend .. ur relationship with ur friend should be more important than what u want to have with this dude more yet since you just started seeing him. i think u should sit with ur friend and ask what the problem is..? if she dont want u dating this guy, be the mature one and let her have him... if she dont come around with some kinda apology over her actions u might wanna start looking for a new bestfriend..
2006-07-19 14:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by yung_cash83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It highly depends on the friend. If she is a close friend and is special to you then you should keep her friendship. A guy is not worth it. Although if he is a special guy and she is not a close friend then you can risk losing her friendship. Now if she is going to do "anything in her power to break you guys up" then I doubt she is such a good friend.
2006-07-19 14:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Vane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if this girl is really your friend or not. Whether she liked him first or not doesn't matter, you are the one going out with him so she needs to back off. If she truely is your friend then I would suggest that you talk to her about it and dump him because good friends are harder to find than boyfriends are, plus they last longer. And if he said that he kind of likes her then your relationship with him is in jeopardy anyway.
2006-07-19 14:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the guy is worth it. I would break up with him and move on. As for your friend acting that way, I would talk to her about it and find out what's up with her. She may not be a very good friend, and not worth your time.
2006-07-19 14:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Foo Foo Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never trust a girl when you go out with a man! Ever!,, She was phony form the very beginning and you trusted her....If he likes her you don't have much to do...try to keep his attention as much as you can on YOU , and I hope you know how, but just don't act or look desperate because it's not wothing.... Good luck!
2006-07-19 14:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋