My good friend's daughter died yesterday. Can anyone give me advise on what to say/do to try and help? I can only imagine that after hearing "i'm so sorry" repeatedly you'd just want to hit someone. But its the first thing that comes out.... Anyone?
2006-07-19 07:12:08 · 8 answers · asked by Amy W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just let her know that you are here for her if she needs to talk and you care about her. Maybe send her a nice card. You can also recommend a support group for parents who have lost their children. You can call 1-800-273-TALK to find groups in your area. You could also recommend a therapist.
2006-07-19 07:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by tahoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry for their loss. just say whatever is in your heart and the best thing you can do is be there for them sometimes you don't have to say anything, they might just need a hug or a sounding board. the worst things you can say is i know how you feel (unless you have lost a child you don't know), you can have other children (another child will never replace what was lost), and this is god's will (yes it is but that is not what they are thinking right now).
2006-07-19 07:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by evilprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have kids my self , i would want to hear "I'm Sorry" I think i would get mad..... either way the best thing to do is let her know that r there for her and that for some reason god needed his angel back in heaven with him..... just make sure u give her space after something like that iw ould want to be left alone for a lil bit...... just so i scream and cry and scream some more..... Good Luck
2006-07-19 07:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a awful thing I send my condolences but I think she might like you to just simply ask what you can do for her and if she says no then wait she has alot of people around her right now but they will eventually go to work then you really need to be right there keep her company and help with her depression
2006-07-19 07:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lost 3 of my children to death and it is an excusiating time but i know that those who offered to listen to me and sit with me when i was not well helped also there are no words that can be said that helps we as parents dont understand and may never understand why we have out lived our babies it is a hard topic but my advice is be willing to be there for them emotionally and ask if there is anything you can do to help ie take care of the other kids so they can plan the funneral have time to them selves to morn help with house chores cooking and such
2006-07-19 07:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by DUCKYJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you'll be there to listen should she need a shoulder to cry on...I'm sorry is just not what someone wants to hear when they lose a child.
2006-07-19 07:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by Uh-May-Zing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she isn't dead...only her body.... so her body died not her spirit...got me? tell her that..she still sees her mom..tell her talk to her...it will give her Little comfort not allot..but some is better then none...mean while let her mourn for her child...time will heal...there really isn't much you can say....just be there okay...god has plan for us all..before our mom met our dad...before we were born...law of nature...i have a fifteen years old son...no one would or could tell me anything to make me feel good about my son dieing....the truth..
2006-07-19 07:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by cheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about the only thing you can do is just tell your good friend that if she/he needs anything to let you know and if they ever want to talk about it your there for him or her. just really get across to them that you really mean it
2006-07-19 07:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by RC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋