When is too young to get engaged?

Question

I'm 18 years old an i feel that all of the human race above 40 years of age criticize me for wanting to get engaged...but anyone else would be happy. why does it seem that people(including my mother) disagree with me being engaged when i know i dont want to get married until i'm out of college and i'll be in college for 4 to 5 years. so what's the big deal?

Answer 1

If you have to ask: you're too young. If you were older, you'd know the answer or at least be mature and confidant enough to go ahead and follow your heart :-)

Answer 2

I got engaged at 19 and married at 22. He proposed my sophomore year of college and we got married the year I graduated. My Mom didn't like it too much and my friends thought I was too young as well. Well, my husband and I have been together for 6 years total. Being engaged is a big step from dating, but just think, you don't have any major commitments until you actually tie the knot. If you feel like you truely love this guy and he feels the same way, get engaged and stay engaged at least 2 years to see if you can make it thorugh.

Answer 3

I am 25 years old and I don't feel like people that are 40 or older seem to be against young people getting married. You are not too young to get married at 18 years old because after all you are of legal age, however at 18 you are just getting your life started and please believe me when I tell you this. At 18 I felt that I was an adult and I was very sure of myself and my life, but I wasn't . You learn so much as the years go by. I don't care how grown up you already are at that age, when you look back years down the road you will say to yourself, WOW!!! I did need to just live life. Getting married even in another 5 years is ok, but make sure you don't have any regrets. Some people get married young and things work out just fine, but a lot of people regret being tied down so young. Your mother and everyone else wants to see you enjoy life first and have the most fun you can have without being tied down to somebody. My mother always told me to travel and see the world first, do the things you want to do because as easy as it sounds, marriage is totally different once your in it, there is so much responsiblity with marriage. We are all different, and we all have to make choices for ourselves in the end. I have learned that everything my mother, and my grandmother and every other older person who has given me advice has been right in the end. Trust me they know what their talking about because they have gone through life a lot longer than you have. They just want the best for you. Like I said i'm 25, but I am enjoying life right now. I do plan to get married but maybe in about 2 years. Remember it's your life and no matter what,do what makes you happy in the end. I wish you the best of luck in life!!!

Answer 4

the big deal is you will be 25 with a divorce on your back and your mom knows thats.teenager love never last, trust me on this one. it is just fun love and it wears out. when you are an adult you make different decisions from when you are a teenager. you wont like the same things and youwill want something better and will know you deserve better when you are an adult. when you are a teen you wil just settle for whatever and not think that you can better. you dont thin the same way as you will in a couple of years from now. you dont like the same guy you liked in grade school,or in high school freshman year. you change, times change , people change, everyone around your age thinks it is cute to be engaged at your age because they are your age and dont know betterof course they are going to think it is a good idea because they are just like you, young and niaeve. ithink you should wait to become engaged and married for a long time, wait until you are done with college and then see where the relationship is at that time.

Answer 5

Number one, a 4-5 year engagement will NOT work! Number two, they only want what is best for you. When you are in college you should have fun, experience many things and not tie youreself down. Give it a couple of years and then get engaged if you still love the guy. There is no reason to rush it is there? You pregnant?

Answer 6

Its just a ring. It gives you time to think and makes you feel secure in your relationship. I got engaged at 19, graduated from college, and then realized he wasn't right for me. Was I happy being engaged? Yes. Were we happy in college? Yes. Don't used being engaged as an excuse to alleviate any guilt for premarital sex though. But being engaged is no big deal, and I think you are wise to put your college before your marriage.

Answer 7

Trust me when I tell you this. You are not too young to get engaged, that's the easy part. What you fail to realize is that you have a lot of time to make that decision. If your love is true and you can continue on in your relationship the way you are going then you will be able to get engaged and get married later. By getting engaged you will add undue pressure to yourself while you are in school. Trust me, I did it and I regret it. (and i'm the GIRL!)

Answer 8

I am currently in graduate school for Marriage & Family Therapy and let me tell you it is definitely a person to person thing. There is no one answer for everyone. But one interesting statistic I learned last year was that people who get married at 23 years old or after have a higher probability of staying married than those younger than 23 when they got married. Good luck with everything.

Answer 9

While there is nothing wrong with a 4-5 year engagement, why not exchange promise rings instead?

An engagement is really for that time while you are planning the wedding and your life together. You haven't quite reached that point yet.

Here's the wiki definition of a promise ring...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Promise_ring

Good luck to you!

Answer 10

Yes you are idiotic for wanting to get engaged at 18. You're a little kid and don't even know yourself, let alone someone you'd like to spend your life with. Go to school, get a degree. Do something important with your life instead of getting pregnant at 18. Sheesh!

Answer 11

your parents have to worry about you...i'm now a mother of 3 and i'm only 20. the thing is...i'm married and i'm very mature for my age. the big thing here is maturity. it all depends on how you and your partner act, and what you two both want. i think it's great that you'll stay in college and wait to get married...it's just that now that i'm a parent, i now know why my parents worried about me getting married so young and starting a family. everything has worked out now and it's so wonderful! best of luck, darlin!!!