Clearly I should ask this question again and be more specific.?

Question

I hav eworked for my boss for over 4 years (I am an executive Assistant) I have a daughter who si 8 month sold and I am now 8 weeks pregnant (and not feeling well) My boss knows I am pregnant btw. He is abusive and rude and always has been and I usually put up with it cause I am being paid well. But now that I feel so terrible I really don't have it in me to deal with his crap. Especially since he was so mean to me last time I was pregnant. All of my reviews say nothing but stellar things about me and my past work is 100% perfect! So Can I get fired for being out of it and grumpy and not wanting to take his **** anymore?

Answer 1

SORRY THIS IS SO F-ING LONG ...

Have you taken the professional route yet and complained to his Supervisor? Does he have one or more of them?

I would document document document what has happened and what is currently happening as it regards his behavior.

Often the best thing that can happen to an employee who's mistreated is their boss firing them. Why? Because your state Unemployment office will mitigate your complaints of an unfair firing. You just file a complaint, which is easy. It won't cost you a penny and many people win Unemployment benefits based on heresay alone. You would have a phone interview and a chance to read off your documentation on his crappy actions. This would likely give you $$ enough to hold you until you're on your feet again and job hunting.

This happened to me once. My employer at the time was quite verbally abusive and arbitrary in his discipline of employees. Everyone feared him. It was a mess. One day he turned on me (first time) and when I fell silent he demanded I look him in the eye when he's talking to me (he was yelling). I refused and he said, "Ok, well guess what, you're not wearing a smock today, so you can leave and don't worry about coming in tomorrow."

The man caught me for the first time in a year not wearing my smock, for just a minute, when no one was around. Knowing he hadn't given me any prior verbal or written warnings, or any prior sit-downs in his office (I hadn't done anything), I could tell his goal was to get me to say "I quit". You see, the worst thing you can do in such a case, is say you quit, if you can help it.

So I pointedly asked, "So are you firing me?" And he said "You don't have to come back in to work." (avoiding the q). And he promptly left, heading to his office. I followed him to his office and asked him 2 more times if he was firing me. He got more and more angry (it was working) until at last he said, "Ok, you're fired" and then I refused to sign something stating I was insubordinate and out of dress code. So I thanked him, reminding him he failed to go through the standard disciplinary procedures with me (He never issued a verbal warning, etc.). I filed for and easily got unemployment benefits following a simple phone interview, as it was determined that I was wrongfully fired.

So I would first contact your Human Resources Department and find out what the standard procedure is for employee discipline. That way, if you stick up for yourself and he fires you, you'll know if it's premature and he should have taken the proper steps first.

If I had it to do all over again though, I wouldn't have talked to my raging supervisor after he said "You're fired". I'd jhave left then. There's no point in aggravating a guy who already has an anger management problem.

Answer 2

Ditch your job. Since you have a baby and one on the way, it's time to start being a full-time mother and forget about this office job.

Try working out of your home. See if your boss is agreeable to this. If not, then find some other work to do from home, even if that means watching other people's kids. You'll likely take a pay cut, but what is more important to you - money and being able to afford luxuries or being there for your children whenever they need you, especially during these early years which fly by so quickly?

You decided to have these babies, now it's up to YOU to be their mother and raise them.

As much of a jerk as your boss is, maybe he's a little miffed that you're pregnant again and trying to "do it all." Employers want workers who can be depended upon. And here you are pregnant, not feeling good, trying to be a part-time mother to an infant AND trying to stay on top of your job. Your boss knows that in the coming months there will be requests for sick leave, prenatal appointments and then the inevitable maternity leave which women want to be paid for! I sympathize with the employer.

You're spread too thin and you'll soon be wanting time off because of the pregnancy and the new baby. And you're expecting your boss to be really happy about all this! It's an inconvenience to him and it costs him money.

Your children need you more than corporate America does....

Answer 3

yeah. most places will find any excuse to fire someone so long as they have "evidence" of it. being in poor spirits is usually not a good reason but they can work it to sound like you're dragging down the office moral or some crap like that. if he's rude, then either bite the bullet or look elsewhere. you can always collect unempployment. but your peace of mind over a paycheck is the hard part to overcome here. especially with a kid now and another one on the way. don;t you have some kind of maternity leave thing at your work where you could get away from him for a while?

Answer 4

You can be fired for any reason if you are not in a contract that specifically says you are working for X amount of day to X amount of day. And really why would you want to continually put up with verbal abuse especially during your pregnancy. Hold your tongue and do your job while looking for another job. It may be difficult to find a new job while you are pregnant. So why not work there until you go on maternity leave, take an extended maternity leave and after you have the baby put your heart and soul in to applying for different positions and sending out resumes. Your boss does not deserve your efforts if you are not appreciated.

Answer 5

If you live in an at-will state, either you or your employer can terminate your employment at any time for any reason. He can't, however, fire you because of your pregnancy specifically because you do have that protection under the law (it would be considered discrimination.) This really doesn't sound like someone you want to work for! If you're good at what you do, why not look for similar employment elsewhere? Even if he doesn't fire you it sounds like he makes your life miserable and when you have the added stress of pregnancy, who needs a miserable boss? Keep copies of your stellar reviews, ask clients and/or coworkers for references, update your resume and move on!

Answer 6

So much of this depends on the nature of your employment. Most jobs are "at-will" situations, meaning that either party (employer, employee) can choose to end the employment at any time. There are some protections against discrimination, but if you are at work with a sour attitude, not doing your job, then yes indeed you can be fired. If you are union, or have a contract, you have some additional protections against job termination. You cannot be fired for simply being pregnant unless it prevents you from doing your job, if that is what you really want to know.

Answer 7

You shouldn't be treated that way at all... I've been working at my job for a little over a year as an administrative assistant.... it started off alright, ya know.. but I didn't complain about stuff, now my boss hates me and I can tell. She's so rude and I've been having problems. If your not wanting to go to work and deal with his crap shouldn't you have like sick and personal time? I know I have both sick, personal, and then vacation time to use up. You shouldn't be fired or anything... expecially since you sound like a great worker! But if he is really doing all that to you, try bringing it to higher ground ya know? You just have to be careful about that.... but your pregnant, and he knows that, and he shouldn't be treating you badly. But you def. shouldn't be fired for that!

Answer 8

You might if you lash out. You're better off going to your human resources department and explaining his abusive behavior. Perhaps they can move you to another boss or area.
If it's a small company, you need to sit down with him and discuss his behavior BEFORE he irritates you! Being calm and rational will only help you.
Technically, I don't think he can fire you for not taking his crap, but I don't know if you work for a small or large company, etc. You're better off just being on the safe side.

Answer 9

Your boss can only fire you if you violate one of the policies. Depending on the policy he would have to have written notices of you getting reprimanded for the offense. Some offenses are grounds for immediate termination.

Now your boss does not have the right to treat you any way you see fit. You need to start documenting what he says to you and how he treats you and than go above his head and report it to his boss.

Answer 10

l would just find a new job. Sounds like you're pretty good at what you do. Dont put up with crap. He sounds like an a$$ to me. I dont know if you can get fired for being grumpy. I wouldnt put it past him.