I've hurt my girlfriend by the less serious LIES.(Little Lies)
And I've grown to become very straight forward, but I hurt her. What can I SAY or DO to get that plain of TRUST back into our relationship.
2006-07-19 06:56:42 · 21 answers · asked by itmmotif88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HUMMMMMMMM Lies, Lies. This is what us girls hate the most is a lair. To be honest with you, you can do any and every thing to try to make the situation work,but you have to give her time to decide on wether or not if she can build that trust back, and depending on how bad it was she may never trust you again;even though she may still be with you. It also shouldn't have to take you to do something wrong to try to make her happy and trust you. Trust should have been their from the beginning and should have never been challenge in any shape or form. If you knew that you weren't ready for the relationship you should have took some time out and put more thought in to it so you wouldn't be in this predicament. I'am not bashing you or anything of that kind,but it really sounds like you hurt her and i know being hurt is a very diff cult position. so just give her time to think and see what happens don't act different to gain her trust just be there when she needs you.
2006-07-19 08:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic spell that will bring her trust back. The only thing that will work is your unconditional love, your undying affection and your uncompromising HONESTY over time. Not today, not tomorrow and maybe not even next week. You've got to invest some serious healing to her injured psyche. And even after all that, she may never trust you again. The best thing you can do is tell her that you realize your dishonesty has hurt her and if you could turn back the hands of time, you would and that you would have never lied to her. Tell her that when you saw her hurt in her eyes, your heart stopped and for just a brief moment you felt like you could die. Ask her what you can do to unbreak her heart.
2006-07-19 07:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has repeatedly told me "little lies" such as how many beers he's had,what time he actually got out of work,his cell phone died and that's why he didn't call etc..These little lies are why I sometimes have a hard time trusting him now.Be straight with your girlfriend and tell her if she wants the truth, she better be prepared to not be happy all of the time with the outcome.I've learned to just let go of the little white lies even though I know when he's not being honest.But now I know,that I don't have to let him on every detail of my life either.I've learned, the less you trust someone,the less honest they will want to be with you.Good luck
2006-07-19 07:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by jayne s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue to be "OPEN" and "HONEST" with her. Lies crush the trust boundaries in a relationship. She can't heal over night. It will take time. There is a difference in being open/honest and straight forward. Some people are strong enough to handle the straight forwardness of others. Some are sensitive and can not. You need to be the judge of others reactions to your boldness. In reference to your girlfriend..don't be straight forward...be honest and be yourself. When she is ready to find it in her heart to trust you, than she will. Just be ready to receive it and her.
2006-07-19 07:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and straightforward with her from now on. She has to know that you are serious and will not do anything to jeopardize the trust that she hopefully has. She may have not lost all of it to begin with, she's probably just way less trusting and I know that really hurts. Just let her know that you are trying to change and own up to what you have done. You will have to prove it to her but once she sees you are making an effort, she will soften up! Trust me, I did! Good Luck!
2006-07-19 10:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to get trust back. I just got married. When I was dating my husband, he lied to me a LOT about very little things. Now I find that I don't trust him on anything. It is very hurtful and it's hard to forgive.
Keep being honest and considerate all the time.
2006-07-19 07:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once trust is gone in a relationship it's very difficult to get it back again if ever. You already know that the only thing you can do is try to earn that trust back by never doing anything that breaks it again. If you do, you deserve what happens next.
2006-07-19 07:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know about the lies? Either way if you are really sincere about having an open honest relationship. Talk to her tell you are sorry, and you are going to change. If you really care honesty & communication are the keys to a good relationship. You are going to have to earn her trust. And that takes time.
Good luck.
2006-07-19 07:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get your relationship back if she is willing to give it another try you have to prove to her that you are sincere an that you are telling the truth just be honest my friend you will reap good benefits love her an show her you love her that's where trust begins again you can do it in time not in a day or a week give it time good luck
2006-07-19 07:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tina H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take awhile for her to trust you again. Be patient and keep being straight forward, but not so straight forward that you could hurt her again.
2006-07-19 07:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋