I am reading allot of questions on a marriages that has lost its lustre after so many years. My husband and I have been married for over 1 year and love the life of being married and having that stability, passion and awesome sex. Not saying minds wont change over time, none of us can foresee the future. But how does a newly married couple keep the Lust, passion and fire burning through the years? Experienced and long term married folks, please fill a woman in!!!
2006-07-19 06:48:16 · 6 answers · asked by ♠♣♥Rogue♣♥♠ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
CybeDave, I hear what your saying. But Im asking for ADVICE, what would YOU do differently so you werent unhappy?
2006-07-19 07:05:09 · update #1
Hello Rockin kitten (I love your name!), I have been married for eleven years now and the sex between my wife and I is better than ever! We also started off very well for the first 3 years then hit a bump in the road sexually. After the birth of our Daughter, it took her a while to get her sex drive back. What helped us was to talk to each other. Complete honest and open about our feelings sexually. As we did this, she started to become aroused very easily again. It was never easy for her to talk about sex but she is much better about it now and I am happy to say that I can barely keep up with her! Do some role playing, spice things up by dancing for him occasionally, a strip tease or even a lap dance! If you can do these things, you will never have to worry about your relationship at least on sexual terms.
Good luck and congrats on your marriage!
2006-07-19 07:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION. That is the one BIG thing I can think of that would make a difference. Never go to bed mad. Talk in calm tones, no name calling, yelling, or physical abuse. If you need time away, tell your spouse that and go some place to cool down. Then come back and TALK. After 7 years of marriage and two kids, my wife and I have had some rough times (who doesn't). However, something happened and we have been calmer and more patient with each other. NEVER ASSUME anything. It makes an *** out of U and ME. If you are not sure, ask and be HONEST. Part of the passion I'm sure you and your husband feel, is the fact that you TRUST each other. Develop this trust and keep the communication lines open. This also applies to issues in bed. If either one of you don't want something the other does.....TALK about it and come to an understanding that some things required PATIENCE and TIME.
Good Luck and I hope you have many happy years together.
2006-07-19 07:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by JFCHIRO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change! the same person you marry today will not be the same person in 10 years! You both will become bored and want something new after a long period on time. I have been married 17 years. It has started out a very passionate marriage but slowly died into a loveless partnership. I would leave her but she would not be able to make a living for herself and I don't won't my kid(early teens)being raised by a stepmother. So I am trapped. Remember parenting is not for cowards!
2006-07-19 07:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Retarded Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have noticed a lot of people who are married and have kids focus on the children only. men are busy working women are busy raising kids and both really don't spend any time with one another. They somehow feel guilty if they do. However, I read many years ago, that the best thing you can do for your kids is teach them how to treat another person...especially their spouse. bY watching your healthy relationship they learn how to be married happily.
Personally, we make sure and spend time alone without the kids. It has helped immensely. It costs money to hire a babysitter but it will make your marriage strong, and its a lot cheaper than divorce.
good luck
2006-07-19 07:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Chef Susy--Cookin it up! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your day to day routines cloud your view of what you have now. Stay focused on exactly what you're doing now and you'll be alright. Both of you need to remember your vows and be true to them.
Lots of married people get complacent in their day to day lives and forget what they saw in their spouses that made them fall in love with them. Hold on to that.
2006-07-19 06:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it fresh and toy's do help
2006-07-19 06:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋