what's a good way to tell my mom..?

Question

That i'm pregnant? I'm 15 and my mom will flip her lid...

it was my first time and i really didnt do anything, my mom will NOT recamend abortion and that is NOT what my desicion is.

Answer 1

Don't think there is a 'good' way to tell her. Think you'll just have to bite the bullet and do it soon. I'm guessing that she might have some idea already, but I could be completely wrong.

You have to expect that your Mom will be upset ... I don't know a mother out there who wouldn't worry that her 15 year old was pregnant! Its not easy to raise children let alone when you are so very young. It will change your life forever!!

Talk to her ... let her yell and let her cry ... let her process the whole thing and I'm sure in the end she will be there to support you in what ever decision you make.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I was in your situation when I was 15, I didn't tell until & was delivering the baby, it spiraled out of control, I gave her up for adoption because I couldn't talk to my mom. If I could go back, I would've wrote her a note & go to a friends for a night, give her time to be mad, sad, & then I would've come home & been able to talk about it.You'd be surprised how a mom who you know would flip, can turn around & tell you I love you, & we will get through this together, I know this because my mom did that when I had my second child at 17, she was mad at first, but she was my best support, & we actually grew to like each other, we are now very close, as I'm now 40. good luck!!

Answer 3

Whatever you do... don't make a bad situation worse by lying to her claiming rape or any of that. Fess up. I am sure she fooled around a little when she was about your age, maybe a little older. Hell, maybe she had an abortion that she never told you about and will be totally understanding of your situation. Most major cities have a planned parenthood organization that will help you out with preperation for the birth, and what to do after the birth. Make sure that the other family is kept informed of the situation too as they also have a right to know.

Answer 4

You think Mom don't know how her little one is behaving - she went through this before. I am sure she know it, but is not daring to ask her 15 year old! If you have big plans for life, may be she can help you see a doctor else get on with it and hope your child won't come back to you saying the some thing in another 15 years. You can't fathom her pain.

You kids and where is the great creator? Call him along when you talk to your Mom

Answer 5

I told my mom on Labor day. I thought it was funny. Seriously though, the best way to do it is to wait until she's in a really good mood and then bring up something about children. I started talking about how great it would be to be a grandmother, and then she agreed w/ me, so I said, "Good, cause you're about ready to be one..." She will flip out, she will be mad, and she will cry for quite some time, but now my mother couldn't live w/out my daughter and she's over it. You may think it's the end of the world, but give it a little bit and she'll change her mind and everything will be wonderful. Good luck.

Answer 6

Oh My Oh My! Well it depends on what you mean by flip? Will she physically strike you? or just yell? If she will phsyically strike you then I would have someone present with me. If she would yell then I would ask her to go to lunch or dinner with me and then tell her at the restaurant.

Eitherway you need to tell her. You can just come straight out with it and simply say"mom, I know you are going to be disapointed in me and I first want to say I am sorry but....I am pregnant and I Hope you can understand. Please help me through this because this is a very hard time for me and I need you more than ever now Mom"!

Hopefully she will be understanding. Good Luck BAbe

Answer 7

At home when it's just the two of you. Let her know you need her help and that your willing to work hard to do what's right. And stay in school just because your pregnant doesn't mean you need to throw your life away. Just remember it will only be tough in the beginning, but after the initial shock has worn off she will remember that you are still her baby girl and you need her help. Just appreciate the help you do get. And make sure you do your part. Good Luck :)

Answer 8

Ask your Mom to take you out to dinner or some other public places. So that when she gets mad she won't make a scene. And by the time you get home she has had time to diguest the news. Good luck I hope all goes well with your Mom and new baby.

Answer 9

WOW...I would take her to a resteraunt or somewhere public so she cant make a big scene, but if she is known for making big scenes in public I would just tell her at home....make sure u have a witness (like a friend or other fam member) present during this conversation just in case she flips her lid...

Answer 10

Are you sure you are? How far along? I think you're just gonna have to sit her down for this one, and tell her you have something very important to tell her. Something you are going to need her to support you through, with whatever you decide to do. What are you considering doing with the baby? You may want to think through what you plan to do, to show her you have a bit of a game plan and show your maturity about the situation. She will be shocked at first, but evenutally she'll calm down and she may even be able to offer you some good advice. Its life changing. My brother got a girl pregnant when he was 17 with twins. I was really angry and disappointed with him at first, which I have a feeling your mom will be too. Just be sure you're gonna be happy with your decision, its one you're gonna have to live with for a very long time. I also suggest getting some counselling, there are probably free services in your area. It would really be good for you both to sit down with someone outside of the situation, and sort through some of your feelings about it. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!