Me and my BF used to have Sex almost every night! but that was when we were first together it's been almost 2 years since we've been dating! i just dont have a sex drive like i used too... and well he always just wants to jump into it! he never wants to fool around for a bit... I think it might be i get so frustrated from him through out the day that i dont want to do anything for him! can someone just please help figure out what i can do to make this better cause honestly it's pulling our reltaionship apart.. which i think is ridiculuos!
2006-07-19 06:26:16 · 5 answers · asked by No 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to your boyfriend, tell him that you want to feel that you are special! Not a whore! My man was the same way, he would walk in my door and start shedding my clothes. No kiss, no hi, just get naked and f**k. I put a stop to that, I told him that I wanted to feel like he wanted to be with me, and appreciate my body! I told him I didn't want to feel cheap, and rushed! He didn't realize what he was doing, and now when we have the time its special. We both feel confident and cant get enough of each other!
2006-07-19 06:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by monkey69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your relationship is built on sex and now you want more. You want a real relationship outside of sex. You've grown in the last 2 years. Maybe he hasn't grown as much as you have. If his focus is on sex and yours is on a more complete and fulfilling relationship you may have to face not being with him. It's time for the 2 of you to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk. See if you are both on the same page. You need to ask yourself if you want to be with a guy who: 1) Always and only wants sex and 2) Isn't interested in whether or not you are fulfilled, sexually or otherwise. You see, this is the kind of thing that happens when you put the cart before the horse. When you start having sex so early in a relationship. God gave us sexual intimacy as a part of marriage, to make marriage more fulfilling and enjoyable and for having babies. You and your boyfriend can't go back to the beginning, but if you truly love each other you can get a fresh start. If he can't see his way clear to do that I suggest you move on. Yes, it'll hurt for a while, but you can and will find a guy who wants the same thing you do. God bless!
2006-07-19 13:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try talking to him about it. like a sugestion that you guys should try something different for a while or come to a compromise that if he does this you will do that for him. As long as you do each others stuff to the satisfaction of the other.
You could also hint to him what you want him to do to you when you guys are about to make love. Most times subtle hints like that help to tell the guy that this is how his lady likes to me treated. if that fails then scout around for books and give him to read.
Hope this works for you tho.
2006-07-19 13:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by letshavefun_while_its_last 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't mean to be cruel, but what it sounds like to me is that he is pretty much using you the same way he would use a plastic blowup doll. In other words, it's over.
2006-07-19 13:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just dont knw wht to say,may b talk to him and c wht he says,and tell him abt ur wants.
2006-07-19 13:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋