How do you get your husband to do something?

Question

I need to get my husband in the mood to start fixing up our house again. We bought a fixer upper in december of 05 and we worked on it a little for the first month or two and now I can't seem to get him motivated again. Used to I would get started and then he would take over and start working on it but that doesn't work anymore. We have two bathrooms and they are horrible and I want him to fix them. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get him motivated again? He knows how to do the stuff becasue thats what he does for a living. I have begged him to start on the bathrooms and he says I will, but WHEN? I know I need to make him think that it is his idea but how do I do that? Please help!!! My bathrooms are driving me insane.

He is very good at fixing up the house but to be honest I have done most of the work. We used to work together remodeling houses. So we are both experienced. Him and his dad have done this all their lives.

I have done most of the work my self already. He doesn't do this 5 days a week he does other things as well him and his dad work for a lawyer and they do everything he needs done. So its not all the time remodeling. And I do work on the house most days but the bathrooms are really bad. The floor in one of the bathrooms are going to have to be torn out and put back. The other has to have new sheet rock every where including the ceiling so the bathrooms need more muscle than I have to give. I can do everything else that doesn't enclude really heavy stuff. If he'll just get the sheet rock up I'll mud it and sand it and paint it I'm not asking a whole lot, just the things I can't do.

Answer 1

Ok so here's what you're gonna do.... For dinner tonight your making his favorite meal (if possible) . Any meal will do. Light some candles perhaps some music to set his mind at ease.
Gather some particles from the bathrooms like bits of broken tiles, pieces of glass mirror, dust, anything will do.. use this as a garnish (topping for his food). And when he says....
"What the Hell?" You say something like..." Oh do you not like seeing that on top of your food? Well I don't like seeing that all over my house either.!" MUAHZZZZZ

Answer 2

Hmmm is he working at a full-time job right now or he's just staying home? I know that when I ask my bf to fix something at our house or at my mom's house, he'll push it for a couple of weeks until either he remembers, when my mom reminds him, or if I literally force him to do it. It's not like he doesn't keep his promises or anything but I know it depends how important he thinks it is to get the task done. If he thinks it can wait, then he will let it wait.

To be honest if it's soly YOUR idea and your husband doesn't want to bother with it, then good luck getting the bathrooms fixed. You can ask him how he feels if you ask someone to come in and fix it instead. If he's ok with spending the extra money, then you're never gonna get him to do it.

Sometimes it's not the motivation part... you can lure him all you want, but it doesn't mean he'll do it.

Answer 3

You asked how do you get your husband to do something.... let me ask you this. You are currently a nursing student (good luck your profession needs you), fast forward to the day when you are employed at a hospital doing your nursing duties daily. How would you feel if when you come home and your husband has brought home a bunch of people who need the help of a nurse, and he did the several times a week. Do you see my point You are asking him to do what he does five days a week everyday of the week.

You may want to try going and learning how to do the job yourself and just ask him for help when you need some heavy lifting.

Answer 4

is he good at fixing it up? he might not enjoy it. some guys don't like it.

he might just need a break. I usually take 3 to 4 month breaks in between big house projects.

you should tell him how great of a job he does and tell him that all your friends and neighbors that have come by are very impressed by the work that you guys have done so far.

Answer 5

try manipulation, fix him up a nice dinner give him a massage and get him in the mood, do something he would really enjoy then mention the topic just in passing the first time and let it rest for a few days after some time have a serious talk about it and make him see the sorry state they are in dont nag him because he might get angry jst have a quiet serious discussion talk about it a lot and sonn he would fix it

Answer 6

Try giving him little hints like W i swear the_____ is driving me crazy i wish i new how to fix things

Or start wine and dining him and for like a day our 2 and let him see you working or trying to fix the problems and he may cut in 4 you if he sees you cant do it

Answer 7

If you want the bathrooms done first, maybe you can be naked and see if he wants to help you. Then, I think you will know what will happen. Walk around in a bikini with a tool belt on.

Answer 8

THIS MAY OR MAY NOT WORK FOR YOU, AND YOU NEED TO BE VERY CAREFULL NOT TO GET PUSHY, AS SOUNDS LIKE HE IS A BIT BURNED OUT ON THE PROJECT.(i can relate to this). YOU MIGHT MENTION IN A NICE EASY WAY, ON THE PART YOUR NEEDING MOST, ABOUT GETTING STARTED ON THAT AGAIN, TALK ABOUT WHAT NEEDS DONE, START PLANING HOW IT MIGHT LOOK,ETC.......JUST GO FROM THERE, PLANING AND TALKING.......OFFER TO HELP, BE CARE FUL HE MIGHT PUT ON BRAKES IF YOU GET PUSHY

Answer 9

Make it fun for him.
Ask him to help you fix little things first. Make sure both of you are having fun.
Then ask him to help you with something else.

If he is having fun he won't have a problem fixing things with you.
just make sure he has fun.

hope this helps.
good luck.

Answer 10

Watch DIY with him, that should get him in the mood (for fixing up the house).