so what should i do or say to her?
2006-07-19 05:41:56 · 10 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
From experience I can say that you should advise her to talk with her parents or an adult that she trusts and feels comfortable talking to. I was 15 and pregnant and did not talk to my mother or my father. They ended up finding out when I was 5 months along. And I would not push the subject of abortion or adoption. That is something that her and the father or her and a counselor should talk about. And trust me....many other people will bring it up. As for it being a life changing mistake. I am 25 years old. My daughter is going to be 10 in september. She is the best thing that ever happened to my life. I quit school but got a GED. I even went to college and am currently working on my master's in History. Just because she will have a child doesn't mean that she can not still have a life. I work full time, take care of her full time (i am single), and still have time for friends. It is a hard road but a strong woman can handle it.
2006-07-19 05:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is called 15 and pregnant...It was just on last week lol....You just need to let her parents handle the situation.. You being her friend just needs to do that...be her friend....There really isnt anything that you can do or say to her. She is already pregnant and needs you to just be around her!! There is no reason why you guys shouldnt be friends still.
And dont mention Abortion...the last thing you want to suggest is killing a innocent baby!! If she CANT take care of the baby..adoption would be the best thing
2006-07-19 05:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just being her friend is the best thing you can do for her right now. Trust me teen pregnancy is hard and very scary...just be there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on and some backup when other cast her out for being so young, I am 19 now i got pregnant with my first baby at 17 and it was hard for me poeple were always looking down on me for being a teen parent, i now have two kids and my 1st born is 2years old now...and to be honest it still is not easy for me. If she hasn't told her parents she needs to, she can not hide it forever...and babies are a big life change but they are NEVER A MISTAKE..the only mistake your friend made was to have sex at such a young age. the only time abortion should be an option is if the pregnacy is causing health problems to your friend...my parents told me that abortion was out of the question as well as adoption and thier reason for that is because i need to pay the price for having unprotected sex. and i actually thank my parents for that cause now that i have my 2boys i wouldn't trade them for the world. yes it will be hard and yes it will be scary but im sure she will have your support as her friend and her parents are there for her to no matter how they feel about her being pregnant...if she is afraid to tell her parents try going with her to tell them and try talking to her mom with her first so that her mom can talk it over with her dad beforehand.. dads are always the ones that seem the scariest to tell. i had better luck telling my mom first and i let her talk to my dad about it. good luck to you and to your friend it may be scary and hard but a baby is the best price you could pay for having unproted sex.....i would rather be pregnant then have an STD that i could never get rid of.
2006-07-19 06:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by allpastforgotten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 16 I had my first baby. There is nothing you can really say to her. The best thing you can do is be there for her when she needs you the most. The best thing for her would be to STAY IN SCHOOL. Unforionately I dropped out but i eventually got my GED, but I regret not staying in school.
2006-07-19 06:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by pure_xtc_2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's already pregnant, really, what is there to say? She's already made a llife changing mistake. Hopefully she'll make more that will benifit her and her child whatever that may be.
2006-07-19 05:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by hotrod luvin princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whhattttt?
2006-07-19 05:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she should talk to her parents. b/c talking to a friend may confort her, but her parents may see things that you have not seen before. There is wisdom in a mothers brain and heart and your friend should listen to her.
2006-07-19 05:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by bonyblack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK ABOUT ABORTION OR ADOPTION. IN THE LONG RUN IT WILL BE WORTH IT. YOUR FUN TEENAGE YEARS ARE OVER WHEN YOU GET PREGNANT THAT EARLY. ENCOURAGE HER TO TELL HER MOM.
2006-07-19 05:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by whatever ya want 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's preg already just tell her parents and make sure there are NO thoughts on abortion and just support her and everything will be fine!
2006-07-19 05:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by babynam2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called thirteen
2006-07-19 05:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋