What is the best way to get my man to treat me like a queen again?

Question

I love my man and I think he loves me. He used to cook spectacular meals for me all the time and used to call me, "Sweetie or Sweets". He hasn't called me that in years. We have been together for about 9 years now. Now he just calls me slim and sometimes when he is mad he calls me dummy or stupid. He has many aches and pains and tires easily. I have no complaints about our sex life. He is 40 and I am 30. I just want him to do all the little things and say sweet things to me again. He doesn't even say he loves me EVER! What can I do?

Answer 1

First start treating yourself like a queen again.....he will have no choice but to treat you like one......trust me......

Answer 2

you can begin by doing and being all the 'sweet' things your self to set an example of what you want in the relationship. then gently and slowly TELL him that you want what you both used to have when you first fell in love to come back into your relationship again. it's just a matter of cultivating old 'sweet' habits and behaviors so they become more 'normal' than the negligent habits that have developed over time. relationship books help and they explain why and how you have both let love fade and perhaps DIE but those books also tell you HOW to regain the love you've let die. there are so many relationship books, CDs, tapes, meetings, etc. everywhere that you can not fail to find this vital information and begin getting back to love instead of 'who cares anymore?'
good luck

Answer 3

One of the best ways for your man to once again treat you like a queen is to once again treat him like the King. You must remember as we grow into our relationship with each other we sometimes slow down with all the affection and except the fact that the person we love also loves us. Not saying this is right but saying that it does happen.

Answer 4

First of all, it may be hard for you husband to do much of anything for you if he is working hard, coming home worn out, and generally not feeling very well. Take that into consideration before getting too irate with his neglect. It's hard to give what one doesn't have for oneself. However, the first step towards rekindling his attention would be for you to spoil him rotten with special attention. Butter him up lavishly. Do special things for him. Then, when he's feelings quite special, remind him of all the special things you once enjoyed and would really like to enjoy again.

On the other hand, if he is physically or verbally abusing you, then you need to seek help from the authorities and from professional counselors. They can assist you much better than anyone online could.

Answer 5

Have you changed too? Do you do things differently? Have you gotten comfortable? Maybe gained weight or stopped caring about wearing make up or dressing nice like you did when the relationship was young? It goes both ways, and worst killer in relationships is when you are too comfortable and forget that you should always be courting each other. Maybe he has the same complaints.

Answer 6

Well, he done so much thing for you wow he cook spectacular meals all the time and used to call you sweetie and sweets, and but I looking and reading over and over and over......

WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR YOUR HUSBAND????? HAVE YOU READ WHAT YOU TYPED???? YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING AND WOW YOU ARE 110% TAKER AND HE IS 1,100% GIVER. AND YOU NEED TO START BECOME GIVER BECAUSE SOON OR LATER YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO BE A QUEEN AGAIN. I WOULD NEVER WOULD MADE YOU QUEEN AGAIN BECASUE YOU NEVER MADE ME KING... SO THERE..

I ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS. BELIEVE ME IF YOU BECOME GIVER AND I KNOW HE WILL BE DOING THINGS AGAIN TO YOU... MY 10 POINTS WILL SAY YES. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE GIVER THEN YOU ARE OUT OF YOUR LUCK. SELFISH AND SELF CENTER AND MEAN.

SHOW HIM THIS AND I PROMISE YOU HE WILL AGREE WITH ME. MY WIFE AND I BOTH GIVER AND WE CALL EACHOTHER HONEY, SEXY, DO ALOT OF THING FOR EACH OTHER.

Answer 7

I don't really know how to fix that, but you might question whether there is REALLY a problem. I mean him not saying he loves you sounds pretty bad... but he might just be getting lazy. Not that that's not a problem... no my original point was, when you've been with someone that long, you get more comfortable. Maybe he feels like he doesn't need to woo you anymore. It might just mean that your relationship is maturing... But that all depends on how you feel about it. If it bothers you, you have to find your own way to let him know that you WANT to be wooed.

Answer 8

Remember back to when you were dating back when you would do things with him, for him , to him! the reason that he is not loving you the way he use to is probably because he isn't getting loved the way he use to. You probably did a lot of things with him that you don't like to do but that was loving him. Give him a
R_A_D_I_C_A_L WIFE.........................................
Respect - show him you honor and respect him
Adaptation -you need to adapt to his needs, tires easily
Dependent- you should love him because you Love him not because he loves you.
Intimacy - provide to him the support for HIS sexual Drive
Companion - what kind does he want, coach, cheerleader, team mate, competitor, crowd.
Admiration -prove to him you admire him for what he is and does
Looks - he fell in love with you for a reason and you should always try and present your self perfect for him so he could be proud.

Answer 9

Try treating him better. YOu can't change his actions but you can change yours! Then maybe he'll feel like returning the favor. Everybody loves to be stroked.

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http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/

Good luck

Answer 10

Talk to him, tell him how you feel. Tell him that you miss hearing him say he loves you. Just remind him it's the little things that sometimes mean the most.