Me and my boyfriend has been together for a long time ( two years) he's always around the family and is very close to them, him and my daddy get along good but its just my daddy has a very quick temper, im scared what should i do? and what well his family think about me?
2006-07-19 05:39:05 · 33 answers · asked by classychick 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't think that your dad will kill you or your bf. See your parents know that someday you will grow up and this woudl have happened eventually. It just happened sooner than you and they probably thought. But you and your boyfriend need to both sit togehter with your parents and his either together or seperate and let them know that it may not have been something you all were planning on but has happened. They will be upset I can guarantee you that becuase of the age. Just know that being a parent is not easy and you are going to have to make many changes in your life and grow up faster. It is not just the two of you now you are bringing a life into this world. And do not expect your parents to raise a child they did not make. Things will be difficult but all will work out and when the BABY comes I can guarantee you they will love him/her!!! My parents neglected me my whole pregnancy but now they will give the work for their grandaughter.
2006-07-19 06:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by ym_blount1 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You should tell your boyfriend first that you are pregnant. Then the two of you should get both of your parents togther at the same time and tell them that you are pregnant. Yes, everyone will be disappointed but no amount of lecturing is going to change the fact that you are pregnant. Do not allow anyone to talk you into getting an abortion if that is not something that you wish to do. People are going tell you that you are messing up your life if you have this baby. Your boyfriend may even tell you that he is going to leave you if you don't get an abortion. Just remember that you are the only one that has to live with the decision that you make for the rest of your life. As long as you have love and support from your family and boyfriend you should be fine. No your father is not going to kill your boyfriend. My dad was very upset with me when I got pregnant at 21 and again at 22 with my current boyfriend of 3 1/2 years. But that was only because he loves me and he wants me to be successful in life. I am sure your father feels the same way same. So good luck! Remember to tell both of your parents together because the two families are going to be united by this child.
2006-07-19 06:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh guys, the girl is scared. Answer her like an adult. Now I take it that this is a serious relationship and if he TRULY loves you, he will own up to your dad about what happened and take responsiblity for that little one. If you dad is a good man, he will be upset for awhile, then realize that you and your bf made a mistake and things like that happen. DO NOT ALLOW YOUR FATHER TO TALK YOU INTO AN ABORTION. There are plenty of good families out there that would be more then happy to give that baby a good home if you don't feel you can. After the baby, please take measures to prevent another ok? Its difficult right now I know, but this is something you, your bf and your family has to deal with. Good luck hun.
2006-07-19 05:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Black Widow Mollie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, take it from someone who has been there and done that. If your close to your dad it's better to go ahead and tell him now instead of letting him see you showing [like I did to my mom at 17]. You can work through it a lot better. Now for the boyfriend, this is his time to show and prove. You guys need to go TOGETHER to your father. If your afraid he may hit the roof; go somewhere public where he will at least listen to you more instead of making a scene. Do it intervention style with other family members around [some of yours and your boyfriends] that way it should be smooth sailing, them later on you and your dad can discuss things privately on a softer level. Love Jehovah our God, honour your father, and go in peace! You'll see that everything will work out fine.
2006-07-19 05:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by lildiva7773 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think alot of the family memebers will be disipointed in the BOTH of you. You didnt get your self pregnant, and it wasnt just his fault that got you preganant. Your dad will be upset for a little while witch is totaly understandable. When that baby is born your father will be the most happest person on earth. he will love every second of it. Best of luck and do not stress your self out while you are pregnant. Tell your friends and family when the timing is right. cause you dont want to be upset durring pregnancy. Oh and dont tell friends before family unless you 100% trust them!!!
2006-07-19 05:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing is does your bf know about it? second once he knows the two of you should sit down with your dad and talk to him about it. you should have some idea of what you are going to say. like be able to tell him what you are planning on doing. like either keeping it having an abortion or giving it up for adoption. make sure you let your dad have his turn to express his opinion as well. if your worried about your dad doing something stupid tell him in a public place so he will have to control his temper and it will give him time to cool off and think about it before he gets home
2006-07-19 05:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by laxchik1117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl. You are so young. Well, I think that your dad is going to kill you and be mad.
I read on another question some time ago that this lady's daughters friend was pregnant, and the pregnant girl told her friends mom that she was pregnant. The mom told the girls parents that she was pregnant and if they laid a single hand on her that she'd call the authorities.. I think thats a pretty good method.. Maybe something to look into...
Sarah
P.S I hope this is luck
2006-07-19 05:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad will not kill your boyfriend. The only thing that you can do is tell him. He will be upset....but really is there anything he can do about it now??!! The hardest part is telling him and them. Once you have done that, you will need to make a decision on what your plans are!! Good luck.
2006-07-19 05:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 16.
Yeah, your daddy is going to kill him.
You should be scared, having a child is a lifetime responsibility.
Good luck, I really wish you the best.
2006-07-19 05:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by PUINSAI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The morning affliction sucks. nicely it did for me. im no longer preaching, even nonetheless it's going to be very problematic if u are pregnant at basically 15. u arent even the right age to get a activity u understand? stop freaking out and basically purchase a being pregnant try. if u are, u could seek advice from ur mom first. tell her at nite so u and her can sleep on it after yall communicate.
2016-10-08 02:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by vanderbilt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋