i feel so bad with my best friend ´cause she doesn´t know that her boyfriend is hitting on me, and i don´t know if i should tell her cause if i do she´ll feel horrible. the thing is that i rather keep it to myself than hurting my friend´s feelings.i already told this guy not to call me anymore cause it was wrong and that she was my best friend .Do you think i should tell her or let her be happy as she is with him, right now? help!!!!
2006-07-19 05:37:20 · 10 answers · asked by ¨¨starlight¨¨¨ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honesty is the best solution to any problem that may occur in life, she rather know her boyfriend is hitting on you than not know and be with this person, who knows maybe your not the only person he hits on. She may think its a way to break you and him up but then again a true friend is always honest with one another and a true friend knows your not trying to steal there significant other, but if push comes to shove sometime record the conversation if you can and play it back for her if need be or have her present when he calls and have it on speaker phone but have her quiet or even three way call it and have her stay quiet. Your not only hurting your friend by staying quiet your also hurting yourself, do what you feel is right , do what your heart , soul and mind tell you to do, it may hurt her but she will thank you in the long run for being upfront and honest. He may do it because he thinks you won't say anything as well but it sounds like this guy can't be trusted he may be a nice guy but if you can't trust your significant other then why be with them? The ball is in your court its upto you what you do stay quiet and have it hurt you or say something have it hurt you and her but atleast it has been said. No one can tell you what to do its all upto you.
2006-07-19 05:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her - what a jerk! If he is hitting on you - how many others you think he is doing it too? She will be hurt anyway better she hears it from someone she trusts. If she is a good friend she will understand and know you have her best interests at heart. I was hurt when I found out much later that my ex was a major jerk and hit on a lot of my relatives. They also said that they did not want to tell me at the time because they thought I was happy - I would have liked to have known before we had a child together what a real JERK he was instead of finding out later.
2006-07-19 05:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i had this problem only he would hit on me even if she was around. He ended up dumping her and he would ask me out if he knew that she wouldnt kill him for it. This was toward the end of school and my friend caused this huge problem and drug people into it that had no clue wht was even going on. But to this day she wont talk to me. But when he calls dont answer the phone and when he hits on u just ignore him. eventually he will get the message and hopefully ur friend isnt a jerk and breaks ur friendship cause her b/f dosnt like her but u. Cause i lost a good friend from it.
2006-07-19 05:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 02:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by vanderbilt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her what is happening, it goes to ways. If your boyfriend was calling her, would you want to know? I would tell her, I know that it will hurt her feelings. But I think that she would rather know that her boyfriend is a cheater then her getting more hurt after finding out after along time.
2006-07-19 05:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure,This has happened too me 2x.Both times I told the girls they got mad at me like it was my fault then ended up believing the guy.
Both are no longer with the guy 1 got another girl pregnant the other cheated with her sister.So they lost the man and a good friend.
2006-07-19 05:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell ur friend cause if she finds out by someone else thaen her friend shes going to feel bad.Us should fight for a stupid boy that wants to play with both of us feelings TALK TO HER TRUST ME IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO!
2006-07-19 05:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Pebbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you got to do is tell her that he is hitting on you,and if she dont
belive you that you now you did your part as being her best friend
and tell her that you love her and just want to be honest with her
and that you would like for her to do the same when it comes to you
2006-07-19 05:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by bonnie3bd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats almost exactly like my question!i have the same problem.she is my really good friend,and you dont want to make her feel bad.just play it cool.let him flrit.but,dont letit get too far.post something atnd let me know what happens!good luck
2006-07-19 05:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ashleigh(: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope dont tell her a thing she will see it as you want her man and not the other way around. but how did he get your number? if you gave it to him then you are playing with fire...
2006-07-19 05:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋