I have a girlfriend named Destiny. And i really wanna be with her. She is the same age and everything(14). I am responsible and will use protection. Should i jump into it right away or should i wait til she askes me.
2006-07-19 05:28:13 · 14 answers · asked by Mariku 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
It has to be a mutual decision. One thing to think about; sex is usually much more of a serious decision for a girl than for the boy. While men are designed around having sex just about any time the opportunity arises, young women are designed to develop, protect, and raise young. For them, sex is really a bonding process, and as a result, you can expect your girlfriend to feel if you have sex that you are making a very strong commitment to her. It won't just be 'fun'.
The reasoning centers of the human brain develop during your teen years. At your age, reasoning is done in the part of the brain that is related to emotion - that's why adults have a hard time understanding the huge emotional swings teens go through. By age 19, your reasoning processes have moved more into the logic centers of the brain, and you can cope better with decisions related to relationships.
After the age of 19 or so, both men and women develop attitudes and coping strategies that let them make more informed choices about this and other issues. A 19 year old girl may indeed be happy and willing to have sex as a fun activity, without feeling there must be commitment; but your 14 year old girlfriend is not going to be able to do that.
14 is young for having sex, not because your body can't do it, but because you probably are not ready to make those commitments, and you will end up hurting her feelings.
2006-07-19 05:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to be sure that your girlfriend is comfortable having sex with you and wants to go as far as you do. You need to also realize that having sex the first time is a big step for girls and can be a painful process physically and you need to help her be ready for that. What you need to do is talk about this with your girl friend and make sure your ready. You might want to stay with masturbation or even mutual masturbation for awhile. Keep talking and be responsible.
2006-07-19 05:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Geo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be with her without having sex cause it's a big responsibility and you are only 14! You have plenty of time to have sex in your life!
2006-07-19 05:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ελλαδα 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you both need to talk about. You are both to young to have sex, but if you are going to anyway...yes there must be protection...This is a responsibility for both of you...Don't be shy about talking things over...How about talking to her about getting on birth control pills...Just call the local women's clinic and they will direct you...Don't rely on any friends, because they are not professionals...Just remember that it only takes one time for unprotected sex to get her pregnant.
2006-07-19 05:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only 14 wait until your 18 because if you have sex before your 18 you could get arrested if your having sex with a minor
besides you have your whole life ahead of you dont mess it up by having relastionships
2006-07-19 10:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is something that needs to be done when both people are ready...you can casualy mention to her that your interested and try to get a feel for what she thinks about it. it will be so much better for both of you, if your both on the same page.
2006-07-19 05:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by MyDreams2Be 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a LONG time, you 14 year old old timer!
2006-07-19 05:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not pressure her to do anythig. and you are 14, you need to be outside playing with toys.. dang.. you are too young, and will regret doing it so soon.
2006-07-19 05:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buddy u sud better jump in that arina or uill loose that chance or some other like me ill get er.... haahahah just get er
2006-07-19 05:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by 2000WatTs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 4 it man
2006-07-19 05:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋