OK, I lied to my husband, I have been talking to my ex and several other guys behind his back... going so far as to erase the phone numbers from my phone so he wouldnt know. I have never spoke to any of these guys infront of my husband.
I lied to him about where i was going and told him i was taking care of our family business so i could go see my ex ( the one ive been lieing to him about). I closed the bar with my ex and didnt get home until about 6 am the next morning... I did all of this 1 day after my husband told me he was having trust issues with me..
Further more, my husband caught me making plans with another guy freind, I was making plans to drive 5 hrs to see this guy behind his back after i told him i wouldnt...
I did all of this all while at the same time i was the most hateful ***** i could be to my husband, I gave him every reason i could to let him know i hated him in every way i could... Now he thinks i cheated on him...
Why
2006-07-19 05:23:42 · 27 answers · asked by sickofit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why wouldn't he think that you cheated on him, I mean if my husband was talking to his ex on the phone and planning a long trip like that just to go see her, I would be thinking the same exact thing. I think that if you are really wanting your husband back, you need to start by stop calling all of the other guys that you have been contacting. Explain to you husband that you are sorry for what you have been doing behind his back, and tell him that nothing has happened between you and the other guys as far as cheating. It will take for him to be able to trust you again, but you seem to have learned from this mistake and hopefully you won't have to go through this again. Hope I helped.
2006-07-19 05:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a cheater and your husband knows.
Why do you feel the need to cheat? Why don't you just tell your husband he doesn't do it for you anymore and then leave him.
Then you wouldn't have to sneak around and lie.
Perhaps you could tell him you want an 'open relationship' where you both can sleep with other people. Then you can meet up with your ex (or whoever) and he could go find some other women to be with.
He will probably leave you anyway - he could probably find someone else who would be faithful to him - so what's the point to all this?
2006-07-19 05:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by crazyotto65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probally thinks you cheated on him because you aren't exactly acting respectfully in the relationship. You were out until 6am with an ex, drinking and then making plans with other guys. Why are you married? If you would rather sneak around making plans with other men other than your husband, that is not a healthy marriage. No wonder your husband thinks you cheated. I would too.
2006-07-19 05:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY?!?
Because you did cheat on him, duh!
As far as your story goes, you don't deserve an ounce of his trust for a VERY long time until you prove to him you are faithful, honest and unpretentious. The bad thing about this whole thing is that I don't think you even feel guilty! I think you have very low self-esteem that you need the whole male population to desire you, when you've got one very loving husband who adores you at home. The grass is never greener on the other side, remember that!
2006-07-19 06:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some help but you really need to grow up and realize what a child you are, if you want to be single and go out with other guys than do so, I don't know why you are married, do you?
Don't say it's because you love your husband because if you did you wouldn't be doing what you are doing.
Grow up and act like a woman instead of a teenager.
I hope he wakes up and leaves you to your dating.
You will be sorry someday you need to take ownership of what your doing and stop it.
2006-07-19 06:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY???? bec u have done all those stupid things and dont expect a man to still trust. Anyway, the least u can do is be happy for succeeding with your evil ideas..... your husband doesnt deserve a girl like... and i dont get it why u have to post such story and question on here when in it already has the answer for your s__p_d question!
2006-07-19 05:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMM- turn it around if he did that to you what would you be thinking. Perception is the worst - dint do it if it can be perceived as being wrong. Also if it was innocent why did you not tell him prior. Lets face it you did cheat on him - trust is a major issue in a relationship and you blew it.
2006-07-19 05:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you lie to someone theres a reason to, if you arent cheating then you wouldnt care to hide it from him, I am married and would never go out of my way especially 5 hrs, to be with another unless I was cheating on him, thats why I dont , if you hide somethin from your mate then you have a reason to do so and that would be the reason he would think so and if you hate him so much then shouldnt prolong things and they get ugly and bad,
2006-07-19 05:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 11:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know why he doesn't trust you for you have done some much hurt to him again and again. Your husband love you thats why he can sense and feel what is going on with you. Is time you whole heartedly love him back.
2006-07-19 05:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋