He drinks just about every day of the week. I know that he has a drinking problem. and he know it too. When he stays up and drinks then he does not make it to work on time. He has his own buisnes and that dont look good on him
2006-07-19 05:16:37 · 14 answers · asked by bdmrplemons 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been dealing with this same problem for six long years....
He has to make the decision, believe me you can't make it for him. Threats don't really work. Sad to say he may have to have something traumatic happen before it gets his attention.
I just bought a book called 'You can free yourself from alcohol and drugs' by Doug Althauser, and I plan on using it to seek help. Mine won't do AA or any of that stuff, so I've had to look for something on my own.
Wish there was a magic wand to just make it go away....you're not alone. Good luck.
2006-07-19 05:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by JC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is absolutely nothing you can do EXCEPT offer support and encouragement WHEN HE DECIDES he needs to quit. If you try to talk to him about it, push him, threaten him (that you will leave, etc), nag him, etc...it will only prolong his problem. He has to stop drinking for himself, or he would be more likely to pick it back up. Sometimes a person with a problem has to pretty much lose everything to finally realize they need to change. You have to decide if you are willing to stand by and wait on him to be ready. The only thing I suggest, is that if he is a violent drunk (only when drinking), or if he drives while he is drinking....you could anonymously call the police when he leaves the house. I'm sure you don't want to get him into trouble....but would you rather him end up killing someone else or even himself? Sometimes, one night in the county jail is all it takes to snap somebody out of it.
2006-07-19 12:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dosent stop ,
some thing bad will happen.
like i know this guy who used to drink all the time
and one day all his organs just exploded
and he died
it was skarey and crazy.
but no im very serious
it happens.
or you could tell him im leaving you
cause you wont stop and im not gonna be
with you and wait till you die!
or you could go to a theriapist .
cause he could be drinking cause bad things happen to him it the pass . so the theripist will help him find a better healthy habit to do when hes hurt or stressed except for drinking.
good luck !
and if you
need more answers
let me know
i love helping people with
problems.
2006-07-19 12:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by jcakajessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make him stop drinking, only he can do that. Make sure he knows how you feel about it though. If he won't get help why don't you look into Al-Anon (support group for family members of alcoholics). They may be able to help you learn to live and cope with his behavior, if you choose to stick with him...
Make sure you've got a way to support yourself (and any kids) however, if his business should fail due to his drinking (or anything else)...don't let yourself be caught in a lurch due to someone else's behavior...
2006-07-19 12:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drag him 2 the Docs 4 a wake-up call.
People R seriously risking their health & their lives, by drinking 2 much.
2006-07-19 12:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him pick between you and the beer and if he chooses the beer you know that he doesnt care and if he says he loves you both say well can you cut it down to a few nights a week verses all week. It would make me happy. But one more thing if you new before you got married that he drank like that then you shouldnt say anything b/c you knew then and shouldnt be worried about it now.
2006-07-19 12:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, you can't get him to stop. He has to want to stop and to seek help himself. Just support his decision to stop, go with him to counseling if the therapist asks you to. Try your best to let him know you don't like him drinking, but you love him for him and you want to be with him for a long time, and drinking will cut short the time you have with him. Pray, every hour if you have to, that his heart will change and he will want to stop.
2006-07-19 12:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say or do to stop him from drinking! I'd recommend that you go to Al-anon meetings to help you learn what you can do to help yourself in this situation.
2006-07-19 12:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is weak and unhappy. You need to find the "root" of the problems then, you guys can work together to treat it.
2006-07-19 12:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will give him a bj every day he stays sober.It would work for me.
2006-07-19 12:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by polockpete40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋