i heard that many love marriages aren't successful and also i have seen they celebrities they do love marriages but they get divorce is one year or later.
2006-07-19 05:04:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry there is a typo by ....seen the* instead of seen they*
2006-07-19 05:06:15 · update #1
I believe very much that celebrity marragies are just for publisity, well the majority of them. Look at how many of them last a few months or even a few hours. It's NOT for love. That's why they don't last very long at all.
2006-07-19 06:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by babybro35 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages end in divorce for many reasons. However, I believe (a) communication and (b) flexibility are key areas. If the couple can not communicate and start discussions about "difficult" issues or disagreements, then these problems grow larger. Similarly, both people need to be flexible when problems DO arise. For instance, if one person wants to go for counseling, then the other person should just GO and be flexible about it.
I don't know much about celebrity marriages, but you are talking usually about actors and actresses, and these persons usually need lots of self-affirming self-centered attention, they are not usually the most mature people.
Love marriages also end up in divorce because one or both spouses lose interest in each other. They lose interest in the other person's dreams, passions, hopes, and interests, the books they read, the places they've been, the job they want. Not only should you stay interested in your partner, you should be an interesting person: have your own interests, educate yourself further, have something to share and talk about at the end of the day that inspires you.
2006-07-19 05:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by twentyfourseven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of folks think that marriage will fix things or make things better in a relationship that has some or many flaws. A marriage is about putting the other person first in everything that you do. You need to start the marriage in a place of love and trust and a willingness to compromise. If you are always thinking about what you want and what he/she should be doing for you, then marriage will almost always fail or be miserable. But if you make a choice on a daily basis to put the other person first and your partner does the same, then your marriage will be happy and full of love.
2016-03-16 01:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Aline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't base your relationship on a celebrity marriage. Those people live a different lifestyle their careers keep them apart and they are unable to live on a daily basis like most of the rest of us do. That is why they usally do not work out. They drift apart.
As for the rest of us, some people may get married just to get married because they want to get married before they find the right person or they get married too soon. Like they may not know the person for very long and think they truly love the person, but down the road they discover it is not a lasting love. You can love many people but that does not mean you will be compatible with that person for life. I think you have to get married for the right reasons. You have to communicate, have love, have passion, and friendship, understanding and compromise, honesty and trust. If you don't have all these things and are unwilling to work on them, then you may end up in a unworkable marriage. That is why it is important to really think about marriage before you jump in.
2006-07-19 05:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people don't wanna do the work that marriage takes, you will argue, things will not always be perfect, sometimes your partner will not be attractive. You have to talk things out.
Many people choose to not work at a relationship, or worse get stuck with a partner who won't work at it, that combined with the people who don't take the commitment of marriage seriously and you end up with the divorce rate of all marriages being 40-45%
2006-07-19 05:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine did not, was going around for 3 years, married happily for 16. My husband is my best friend.
I have a feeling we expect too much from each other and don not make an effort to understand more of each other, that's why marriages get so messed up. If you fall in love and marry, be prepared for a time when you'll have to spice up the relationship a bit. And be friends. It'll work
2006-07-19 05:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by 40andgoing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they end up in divorce when one partner goes into the marriage thinking if this doesn't work out, i'm gonna get a divorce so they don't try hard enough to make the marriage work, a person who goes into the marriage and thinks i'm getting married and this marriage is gonna work will have a marriage that ends happily ever after.
2006-07-19 07:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Vanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some keys to a good marriage.
1) Know yourself and be truthful with yourself
2) Get to know the other person as best you can before you get married.
3) Make a commitment to the marriage, it takes work and effort.
4) Don't try to change the other person, change yourself.
Love is giving of yourself to others not seeing what you can get.
2006-07-19 05:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People rarely marry for love. They marry for citizenship, peer pressure, and especially MONEY, but not love.
Marriage is NOT a sacred instituion in this country!! When Anna Nicole Smith can marry a 78 year old billionaire, and have that marriage be legal.....I say let the gays get married. It's not going to screw up the "institution" of marriage anymore than it already is.
2006-07-19 05:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by cognitively_dislocated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they work every day not see each other and sometime they don't call to say hi just want to said hi love you thinking of you. they work 14 to 18 hrs a day... sometime they don't commucate very well or trust... I thank god I am not star If I did I make sure I stay single. But glad that my wife and I always love each other trust, caring, sharing, commucate, so many things yes there plm but we fix the plm and want ti take care of it and now look will be 9 years in oct. and I am so glad.
Most of the people not being themself and for others to see what really who you are until after married then found out really who you are. I met my wife I just being who I am mad, happy, funny sad, pissed off, everything and she knows what my life will be like if she married to me and Same with her.
It very sad to see that way. They don't sit down say if we get married what happen we work so much not see each other much will it be a plm? what if we got mad and willwe be able to solve this and soemthing somes up will be able to save marriage? Will you be with me even if i Lost my leg or eye or blind or soemthing will you be able to handle it? Reason I want to talk about this becasue I don't want to get married and we don't talk about it and there plm comes up and more and more plm we not know how to deal with it and end up divorced in one or 3 years.
I just want to make sure is it the right thing? great if not then I think it better if we stay friends. People like ohh making good money and stuff but not think about he will not be home, he will be too tired to have sex, and it is boring, he etc, on and on.. that sad...
2006-07-19 05:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋