arranged marriages?

Question

fore or against?

*share your opnion

Answer 1

against. your life is yours to live. you shouldn't have someone decide ever factor of your life like marriage, kids and so forth.

Answer 2

I've met people who have had arranged marriages, and I think the success of these types of marriages depends on the intentions of the parents. Are they truly looking for the best personality match for their child, or are they looking to "merge" with a rich family? It's funny, but I don't think these kinds of marriages are on average more or less happy than "love matches." And of course, there are different types of arranged marriage. Some couples only meet on their wedding day. Others get to "date" after their engagement is arranged for them, and they can call it off before the wedding if it doesn't look like they get along. So this is a big question.

Answer 3

Considering the original concept of marriage was to relate two different prosperous houses, anything but an arranged marriage is a bastarsdized version of the institution.

Having said that, you're just as likely to have a good marriage from an arranged one as you will picking out someone based upon attraction or love.

Answer 4

for!!! i come from such a religion where that what is acceptable. now, it's not really an arranged marriage. they don't just come over to you and say :"this is your spouse to be...", the way it works by us, and i'll explain why momentarly, is, someone brings up to the parents a name of a boy/girl that they think will be a good candidate, for all the right reasons, personality, looks, religion etc. then the parents look into it REALLY REALLY well, and if they see it fit, the couple goes out or even sit in (by someones house) and decide for themselves if they feel like they have something in common. if things seem to be going good you meet a few more times and then the rest hopefully is a happy ending.
the reason for this is that we usually marry young - 20ish for girls and 22ish for boys, a child of that age does not really know what life is all about they just think they do so that is why the parents help them out and instead of having to go out with 70 people and sometimes get that horrible 'no', the parents minimize the candidates.
it just so happens to be that there is a smaller percentage of divorcing among our way of marriage.
me myself, i found a boy i was crazy over, some of it was 'puppy love' and some of it was for the right reasons, and the same by him, and we got someone to bring it up to our parents. my husband cheated on me, and right now we are both in counsling trying to pich up pieces and start from less than scratch...

Answer 5

It always works. Because when most love marriages go to marriage stage they would have crossed initial stages of falling in love when all is rosy and beautiful and people dont realise dark side of romance which comes right after that rosy stage.

In arranged marriages that rosy feeling starts after marriage and lasts for like 3 years and than you will be married for three years to now break-up which you wont!

Answer 6

Against! Real love is so precious! It's bad enough we have to deal with the typical man made bullshitt laws with regular marriage such as:
Looks, Money, house, car and you have to stay whether you like it or not for the kids sake and you are not allowed to fall inlove with someone else because the sick chemistry that's not real in the first place stop brewing.

Answer 7

I guess if your OK with taking the chance of living your life in a totally loveless marriage with a man/woman that you cant stand to look at or speak to because your parents found a way of making money from having you, then I say go for it.

Answer 8

I think that it is up to the 'arranged' wife and or husband. I personally don't think that it's a good idea but there may be some cultures that hold on to their family or countries traditions. Great question!

Answer 9

against, just 'cause i don't like ppl telling me what to do. i have a different interest in guys than my parents or anybody else does, for that matter. i like 2 be independent. someone telling me who to love (& make love to!) seems like a path to destruction. to easily ends up in divorce or unhappy marriages. plus i'd feel really uncomfortable with the guy, if we hadn't had much of a chance to get to know each other.

Answer 10

Opinion only:

I would guess it depends largely on how someone defines a marriage, what culture they live in, and what kinds of family/community pressure were being brought to bear on them.

I'm sure it still happens, but I can't imagine being in one myself.

Answer 11

Personally I'm against it, You should be able to choose who you marry and why you marry. Although, I'm not of Indian or Middle Eastern decent, so my views are biased.