My girlfriend wanted to watch me having sex with another woman. Now she's mad at me. Why?

Question

My girlfriend (not bi) and I (both married but not to each other) have been in love, good buddies, best friends and have had passionate, hot sex with each other for six years.
During sex, she liked to suggest fantasizes. She would ask me to “play-like” she was a hooker or a stranger or some other female we both know. We talked about what she would be doing while I was having sex with the other female and then how I’d swap back and forth. Sounded great!
We we did it. My girlfriend watched but did not get into the bed with us. (She handed me the KY jelly and opened the condom for me). After the other female left, my girlfriend and I had two rounds of good, hot sex and then we both went to our homes.
That night, my girlfriend’s attitude turned. She was mad at me. She was heartbroken. She definitely was through with me for cheating on her. She said she hated the day we ever met.
What is going on here? Is she mentally or emotionally unbalanced? Are women typically that unpredictable?

Answer 1

It can be that she was too interested in the sexual fantasies that she didn't realize how it would affect her emotionally. Win her back I say, with roses, champagne, chocolates, and all that.

And yes, btw, women really are that unpredictable.

Answer 2

Honey hasn't anyone ever told U that fantasies are just that "FANTASIES". They are great too have but C'mon have ya ever talked to somone who actually full filled a fantasy "such as Ur's" and afterwards everything was hunky-dorry.OF COURSE U HAVENT. No woman EVER actually WANTS to see her man with another woman, she may say she does, cause that's what U wanna hear and yes the thought may be exciting for her to watch. BUT TO ACTUALLY DO IT...HAVE U LOST UR F****** mind???
Isn't it enough that she has a relationship with U even though U 2 are married 2 other people, that's a HOLE NOTHER ball game.
But to bring a 3rd woman into the pic.?????
DIDN"T IT TELL U SOMETHING WHEN SHE DIDNT PARTICIPATE WITH THE 2 OF U????
Im suprised she sat there and let it happen. Have U asked Urself "what if the tables were turned???" What if she brought a guy along and U had to watch her get it on with him. C'mon that would hurt right???? C I guess she deals with Ur wife in a way like she doesn't have too see U2 have sex so she can over look everything else. But actually B THERE while U give it too another woman....Damn I dont see how she stayed.
Face it dude she's NOT coming back, there is no turning back after something like that. Maybe she was testing U too see if Ud really go through it,I don't know, but reguardless U did it and she will NEVER be able to get that visual outta her head. Yep it's over.

Answer 3

Well, I don't think it mentally or emotionally unbalanced. I think she should of doing something about this when she watch and then both of you did round two... and I think she mad becaue doing way better with first one than your girlfriend. That what I think. When you have sex with first one and you done wow, and then You do with your GF and then she knows that you not doing anything like other girl. and You said it was hot sex she might not think it was.

So find out... ask her say honey, Did I do something different to you? Did you want me to do like other girl with you? and Now you telling me I am cheating on you but you and I agree and you sit there and saw it all... And even hate me first day you met me. Wow, For what ever I did I really sorry and I didn't know what bothering you. I hope we try make this relationship better if now. I totally respect that. Again I really sorry that you feel that way. But I haven't stop loving you.

Answer 4

Well the problem here is that you are both married to other people so she has no right to be jeolous in the first place. Now she asked to play with fire and when she got burned she didn't know what to do. come on now women are naturally emotional creatures watching someone you care about being intimate with another person is better left in fantasy than reality, because the reality of it all is that not only are you guys cheating on your spouses but now you've cheated on each other. Good Luck

Answer 5

Mistake #1 - not getting her involved in the fun, and just letting her watch. That is VERY painful!

Reason #1 - she probably thought she could handle it, but then after realized she couldn't - but it was too late.

Remedy #1 - Let her be mad, and explain to her that it was a mistake...that you love her, and know what she feels. Be compassionate! Tell her you want to be with her, but if she is going to be mean and resent you...it's not healthy and you need some space to think about things.

That will give her a warning to chill out. If she keeps it up - break up. You don't need a girl who can't let that go. It's not like you cheated, ya know?


PS - I just realized you said you were both married, but not to each other. LOL!!!!! Too funny. I take back everything, and feel bad for your spouses.

Answer 6

She wanted you to tell her that you didn't want any other women, that she is all you ever wanted or needed. She wanted you to love her enough to say no. There is a reason she is having an affair. At home, she probably wasn't feeling wanted or sexy. You made her feel wanted and sexy. Then you had sex with another woman (I know you talked about it) But you have a wife and a girlfriend you should know by now we don't always mean what we say. Women are no more unpredictable than men...Just my thoughts.

Answer 7

Maybe she was giving you mixed signals hoping that you wouldn't do it at all. Fantasies should be kept as just that. A fantasy. She's probably a little hurt, but it's done now, there is nothing either of you can do about it. It's not cheating, by the way, she asked you to do it, and she was there. I'm sorry it turned out this way for you, but your girlfriend is just going to have to get over it.

Answer 8

She's MAD @ You because she did not realize how she would feel after you did this OR RATHER YOU WOULD DO IT AT ALL and she want be the same now, SO BE AWARE if she do not break up with you SHE WILL DO IT WITH ANOTHER GUY TO GET BACK @ YOU, WHAT YOU DID, Even though she gave you the GO AHEAD, YOU MAY HAVE REALLY ENJOYED IT WITH THE OTHER FEMALE, AND OLD GIRL PICK THAT UP. NOW YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT. "DON'T HATE THE PLAYA HATE THE GAME" You guys are PLAYING GAMES THAT UNLESS FEELINGS ARE NOT INVOLVE THEN NO BODIES AFFECTED. I just realized to that you two are married, YOU GUYS NEED HELP. LOL LOL

Answer 9

Dude. ANY, and I mean ANY form of infidelity toward your spouse will be devastating, REGARDLESS of the situation. If she gave you a "GET SOME OTHER PU$$Y FOR FREE CARD," SHRED THAT MOTHERF$#%ER UP! Don't get caught in cheat tests and $#!+ like that. It was a fantasy, and it was all talk.
Unfortunately, things will be rocky from this point on, unless yo can pull a miracle and get things back to how they were. Sorry, but that's how the emotion works.

Answer 10

Le tme see if I got this right..... the cheaters decided that it wouold be best to cheat on the other while they watched and then got mad that you were cheating but is cheating herself with you?? Yeah I'd say you have a problem.... she is off her rocker and you should be going crazy just trying to remember all of those names of the different women. Well I guess it's like they say.. "dont hate the player, hate the game!"

Answer 11

It sounds to me like you are all in a fantasy world. If you don;t love your spouses, get divorced and then fulfill your fantasies with honesty and trust, then you won't have these stupid jealousy issues.

She is obviously not secure enough to have gone through somehitng like that and I could have told you beforehand that it would happen because you are both cheating on your SOs.... HUGE red flag of insecurites.

Get help, both of you, then repair or leave your marriages and start with a clean slate.