Where do our fetishes and perversions originate?

Question

A fetish is an object that arouses, like a sheep or feet. A perversion is an action that arouses, like playing table football or doing something to the sheep. What i want to know is, how do they form? I know someone with a perversion of watching his girlfriend have sex with animals (don't ask!) and this set me wondering... Are they formed by our experiencesn n life? Are they present from a early age and we just don't know they're there? Do they actually serve a biological purpose? Anything anybody can give me, i'll be grateful.

Answer 1

They are usually formed by intimate and social experiences in our lives.... and sometimes start with the rush of doing what others would consider "taboo"....then builds from there.... some people like to drive fast for the rush.... others like to suffocate during sex....

Answer 2

When I was a boy I remember being excited by Santa Claus but thankfully that passed. As to having sex with animals, I knew a man who made love to a daschund which is about as low as you can get. If you lived in Aberdeen in Scotland then possibly the love of your life could be a sheep (The women all having gone on the oil rigs to meet Tool Pushers who have a very well paid jobs.
Playing football with an erection is not an experience I've had and any guy who does has certainly had an interesting childhood!
Currently I have a thing about elephants, oranges and grapes and I'm worried that it may be my turn in the barrel. As for serving a biological purpose, if you cross a kangaroo with a sheep you get a wee wooly jumper.

Answer 3

First off, a perversion is an abnormal sexual desire, and a fetish is a perversion that must be satisfied in order to achieve a climax. This could be anything from watching porn to anal play to the animal thing you described....whatever it might be. I think they are present at an early age, and depending on the sexual behavior of a person, the perversion/fetish might become more deviant.

Answer 4

We are not born with this but it begins at a very young age. The world is driven by sex. everywhere you go there has something to do with sex. The shows we watch the books we read even in the paper sex is everywhere. As we grow we form an opinion about each sexual thought. the thought alone creates fantasy. Fantasy creates drive which creates desire and we search for ways to satisfy this urge Most of the perversion comes after we have tried all the things we know. have tried and basically got tired of so our minds searched for ways to bring back the spark. each time adding to which makes the perversion even stronger and more strange.

Answer 5

You should get a book on Freud, or search him online. Freud suggests that humans can develop "fixations" dependent on trauma, or poor negotiation of childhoos obstacles, including potty training, weaning etc.

Freud believed that Oral fixations could develop from issues with breast feeding, e.g. being weaned too early or too late, and anal fixations from problems during potty training. He also believed in a phalic fixation.

Essentially, Freud believed there were several stages through which a child must progress in development. Any problems could result in fixations, which could become perversions or fetishes. But that's just Freud.

In my personal opinion, a fetish is likely to develop from something we naturally encounter and associate with a positive consequence or feeling - e.g. the man who tries his wife's underwear on out of curiosity and enjoys it, or the woman who realises she rather likes feet...

A perversion, on the other hand, is more likely to emerge as a consequence of a negative or unnatural experience, as a response to a trauma. E.g. paedophilia and rape, bestiality, and necrophilia, are very unlikely to be natural sexual preferences. Something, somewhere along the line, has driven indiviudals to this. Much as many psychopaths were abused as children and maintain some issues, I would suggest that perversions are a psychological abnormality as a consequence of abuse or some negative experience in the past, that are now confused with positive feelings or RELIEF from anxiety etc.

Answer 6

Fetish is something that's different that turns you on. Perversion is something that is out of your control and preference is what gets you off.

Answer 7

Pornography, childhood sexual abuse, or witnessing sexual acts at a young age.

If you think about it, children are innocent. They don't know anything about sex, even when they touch themselves as babies.

I know that pornography is one of the biggest promoters of fetishes and perversions. Someone has to implant the suggestion to try it, right?

Answer 8

I think humans just think too much, are easily bored, and too many are sex-obsessed. They probably aren't there from an early age, but occur when people get bored with what they usually do, and like to do (or watch) something a bit different.

Answer 9

from environment during childhood--certain parenting methods or lack of method altogether. it is basically one aspect of something in the environment that has been internalized and literally distorted. my first thought on your example would be some sort of sexual perversion or abuse witnessed or experienced during childhood. it also seems hypersexual. like the sexuality is so severe that it has the ability to stem into things unnatural

Answer 10

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