Ive been with my boyfreind for 4 years our sex went from 2-4 times aday to now it almost being nonexistant, He always talks about what he wants to do to me and how bad and never does, Im a woman and I have needs and Hes not fufilling them what should I do????
2006-07-19 04:16:06 · 19 answers · asked by italianprincess_fl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
men are not mind readers, if you cant tell him what you want after 4 years, you both need to talk. does he know that you want to try the things he has talked about? have you tried taking the initiative and doing things to him that he has spoken of. i have been married for 18 years and to have a great sex life you have to communicate your needs and try new things to keep your sex life hot.
2006-07-19 04:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is just like a couple after married. Its on fire at the begining and soon like what people said "condom pack in 12 is for once a month". When what happen when heat dies down. We have other things to do in live and can't always concentrate on sex. Man are quite different from woman, as we very much feeling and think with our heart, while man don't. At least he talks to you, tell you what he needs to do, if you can help him or give him idea to finish what he needs to do. Then he will have time for you or at times when you really needs, try self service.
2006-07-19 11:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him honey... see what is going on. I think you need to approach him and see what exactly he is thinking. Usually........ usually.. .when a man looses interest in sex.... it is because he is cheating, to much work, tired...etc... yada yada yada.
So, the best thing would be to say... honey, we use to rock the walls... now we don't even shake the pictures... what going on? With you being so distant and not wanting to be intimate with me... I am starting to feel insecure and im getting ideas....
don't come out and say are you cheating.. you can if you like... but that may lead to arguments and such.. you have been with him to long to just let this go without trying
2006-07-19 11:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tie him down and start the process. This usually gets the guy in the frame of mind.
Or you could grab him when day when me makes a comment and be aggresive and start it up on the spot.
I finds that when a girl takes command it is very sexy, most guys I have talked to feel the same way, so jump on it.
Good luck
2006-07-19 11:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by Gydar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem with my wife the same way , I think she just gave it up ! I got tired of asking so I don't bother her any more with sex and she is pissed because I don't beg for it anymore . I'm an old guy so that may have a lot to do with it . I know this doesn't help you much but just to let you know your not alone . I just take care of myself and leave her alone .
2006-07-19 14:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you said somethin to him? he mite just be over tired ? my husband and I have been together for almost 20yr. and he has started doin this for the last few yrs. but he is tired after work and all, he has told me to take care of it myself and it doesnt seem as fun and fulfilling but if he helps you it makes it alot better, me I can turn it on and off now, still get mad at him but remember we will do the same!and then can use the same words to them good luck , try together it seems to excite more.
2006-07-19 11:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur guy what u want. Im sure he'll oblige. He may be thinking, "im making these gestures towards her but she isnt showing any signs of wanting it". Maybe :s neway just talk 2 him. He wont mind.
2006-07-19 11:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Krishan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about it. Be up front, and let him know that his baby girl needs some lovin' too!
2006-07-19 11:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by laciarlene89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl go find u and new man good luck or just sit him down and tell him
2006-07-19 11:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to stir things up put on a sexy outfit when he's not expecting it. just do something crazy to him something new.... and dont hold back!! have fun!!
2006-07-19 11:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋