I've been dating my husband now since I was 16 years old. We both are the same age, and because of family pressure we got engaged early and marrried at 22. We both loved each other, but because of our culture we were, more like he was forced to marry me even though he wasnt ready. Its been a year now since we've been married and life just sux. We fight all the time, we don't have sex, we constantly argue. I think we both still love each other, we are even living with his family and now have decided to move out and try to live just with each other. We both want this to work, but he constantly throws it in my face that he got married when he was to young, yet he is willing to give this a shot and try to make this work. Our personalities are so different, I am very scared to let go, and I feel that we both are doing more harm them good. I am very confused I just need some help and someone to talk to. Any advice?
2006-07-19 03:52:25 · 7 answers · asked by Confused4life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You might think of seeing a family counsler. You might also think of a trail seperation. We sometimes try to make something happend that is already there, we just don't see it. If you are ment to be, it will be. I've been married twice and the first one lasted about one year. My second one has lasted almost 25 years. Your husband could be right he might have gotten married too young and for the wrong reason. A good relationship has to worked on.
2006-07-19 04:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
This is a text book case for needing marriage counseling. When you both want the relationship to work but you don't have any idea how to make that happen go to a professional that can give you direction. Don't give up so soon it's too early in the game. This is fixable.
2006-07-19 11:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to seek marriage counseling. You guys need to spend more time talking about how you feel to one another. Understand what each is going through. If there is love on both sides then I am sure you guys can work it out, if you work hard at it. Good luck.
2006-07-19 10:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Bev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please seek counseling. It will be an eye opener for both of you.
I also think moving out and living as a married couple will releive some stress and help you find out who you are as a couple, not as a part of his whole family. You need your own space and the first few years of marriage are the HARDEST!!
2006-07-19 10:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counsleing and let him know that you feel the same way about getting pressured into getting married. jsut try to bring bakc the spark you had when you were dating.
2006-07-19 10:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run to marriage counseling quick. There you will find out what went wrong....
2006-07-19 12:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by eyematch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called the "7 year itch"
2006-07-19 11:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋