Why need to sign the papers and not just have fun together?
2006-07-19 02:57:23 · 16 answers · asked by steaua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because marriage is a sacred union in God's eyes. And I was covered under his insurance if we got married! LOL
2006-07-19 03:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 23⤊ 5⤋
It seems to be a trend today to do everything backwards. Have sex on the first date, get pregnant on the second, and move in on the third. The whole point in marriage is commitment. You "share" your life together. You put each other first. AND...it's legally binding. This protects women from having kids and being left when the "fun" is over. If you marry the right person, you will have "fun" for the rest of your life. There is always something new to discover in that person and to share together. Too bad young people don't think of it that way; they are just doing an injustice to themselves and any children that they have from a "fun" relationship.
2006-07-19 03:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons.
The obvious ones are society expectations, how most people were raised to want marriage, church expectations, family expectations, friends expectations.
Than there are $$$ reasons as well: taxes, insurance, etc are all cheaper for a married couple than non-married couples living together. Some apartment complexes may discriminate against a non-married couple and give the married couple the place instead.
But mostly I think its just the couple themselves. One person may want it more than the other, both may want it, but if you truly love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, you'd be willing to sign a paper. Because in the end, if you have 101% full intention of staying with them forever, what does signing that paper hurt? You live together long enough and you're common-law anyway.
2006-07-19 03:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, marriage is a formal declaration of your commitment to another. Not just legally, but before God and your community. It is a mature decision, based on many factors, and should not be gone into lightly. It is interesting how people view marriage at different ages and, of course, depending on different experiences in their lives. I grew up with values that family was very important, that marriage was sacred and forever, and there were examples of that all around me. If you go into marriage thinking you don't have an "easy out", you will put in the effort required to make it work well. Living together means you can leave anytime, because you don't have the full emotional and practical commitments.
2006-07-19 03:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy a house if you can just rent for the rest of your life? Why buy a magazine if you can just read it at the check-out?
It's an investment. It's saying before your friends, family and God that you intend to stay with this person for the rest of your life.
Taxes, insurance, a hundred other things that are automatically "covered" with just ONE document.
I've been married 10+ years and trust me...we are still having LOADS of fun together.
2006-07-19 03:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From both a legal and moral standpoint just living together is a bad idea. Any children are bastards, there are none of the rights of inheritance or other rights a legal spouse has. I have seen couples live together several years and raise a child, but it was most unfair to the child seeing the morales of her mother and father as examples and the acceptance of the other children at school.
2006-07-19 03:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by ringocox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The committment is stronger, fully enforced, under God and law in a proper marriage ceremony.
There is huge difference in the feelings and respectability of being in a long-term romance relationship, and being married.
Showing the 100% trust in all life-decisions and exclaiming to the world that you are in love and willing to be there for the long haul, in good times and bad, sickness and health, is more than just a piece of paper.
And relationships need be much more than just "fun."
2006-07-19 03:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by WDarling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a written agreement between a man and a women to attempt to have fun together for the rest of their born days...what it also provides is a family heritage...a means to trace their names back in history and know who is family and who is not...on a more serious note, its a promise to my partner that through sickness or health, better or worse I'll be their for them...not to just have fun ...and move on when the going gets tough.
2006-07-19 03:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is what is drilled into our heads from the time we are old enough to understand the concept. Get married they say, why aren't you married? We need to find a good man/woman for you to marry. This is your bride/groom to be, we signed the contract today.
We are inundated with "get married" messages from the bedtime stories on.
2006-07-19 03:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by RenagadePriest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of legal and financial advantages to being married that are not available to singles.
There is more to marriage than just a piece of paper. It is basically an announcement to society of your committment to each other.
2006-07-19 03:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by extra_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basicly cause of social pressure.....like for wearing jeans or something that all the people wear...it's the lazyness of thinking with their own minds.......other reasons can be for the man to hope to tie the woman after a long period of fighting to find one and for a woman to ask fos aliments and money from the man after divorce.......don't marry,follow my advice!!!
2006-07-19 03:02:28 · answer #11 · answered by pula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋