My husband and I are switching roles. He is going to be staying home and I am going to be going back to work... I was wondering how some of you would react to this. I am trying not to be worried about the kids and the fact that I would like to not come home to a messy house. I am just not sure how to handle the whole situation. I have been out of work for about 6-7 years. Thank you for your suggestions. No reason to be nasty either.
2006-07-19 02:56:52 · 14 answers · asked by Queenmeupscottie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is good for you that you have the opportunity to return back to work and able to support your family. It is normal for couples to switch roles when the woman has a better opportunity to advance. It may be hard at first to leave your kids, but your husband will adjust and will become organized to handle anything that comes his way. It will take some getting use to, but hang in there and see how things work out. Keep the communication between your husband and yourself open to answer any questions that may arise from this change. Good Luck!
2006-07-19 03:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe this might prove to be a wonderful arrangement. Of course you won't really know until you give it a good try. There is nothing wrong with "switching roles" if this is what works for your family and makes everyone happy. Yes, he will do things differently than you did when you stayed at home but you must remember not to criticize or undermine what he does. Remember what it would feel like if he did that to you after being home with a messy house and children all day. Respect one another, give each other breaks, and focus on the most important goal of this situation...your children and your happy family. Good luck and God bless!
2006-07-19 10:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by amomentssunlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to take a lot of patience. I am sure that at first he will have a difficult time juggling the at home responsibilities and his priorities are not going to be the same as yours. Have you considered making him a list of all your daily activities? Maybe he could follow that list and see how it works for him. For the first month or so, try not to freak out if you come home and the house is not in order. Give him a chance to get into the swing of things, but let it be known that you were able to take care of the kids AND the house so you know he can do it. Good luck and more power to you! :)
2006-07-19 10:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's commendable that your husband is staying home. Don't worry about the kids. He might mess up from time to time, but who doesn't. As far as the cleaning of house is concerned; don't expect too much at first. I'm guessing you held that role for a couple of years and you developed some sort of system. Try to concentrate more on re-entering the work force; you've been out for a while.
2006-07-19 10:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great, as long as you both are 100% in agreement to it. If you are working full time, he must know that assuming the role of house dad is more than just looking after the kids. You don't want to be working all day, then have to come home and cook (can he cook? :-), or to a messy house, which will just be stressful to you. As long as he's prepared to do his new job 100%, then I think it will work out great. Is he good with the kids? Will he watch them completely? As long as you are confident he will do a good job, then I think you have nothing to worry about. Good luck.
2006-07-19 10:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even when we both worked full time, I did the majority of the housework, it was just my way of relaxing by doing something that took no mental strain. If your husband is already fully versed on what to do with the kids, then he should have no problem. The housework thing is a no brainer...
2006-07-19 10:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should be worried at all, sometimes it is good for a man to take on the chores that women do, it will help him realize just what a piece of gold he has! And the kids, I think they will be just fine in the hands of their dad .... Daddy daycare was a success!!!!
2006-07-19 10:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by kiets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with you working and your husband staying home. many more families are choosing this option. just let you husband know that the home is now his job. he should be sure to keep it clean during the day.
2006-07-19 10:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by gummi bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go rent the movie "Mr. Mom" with Michael Keaton. A classic and it will give yo some good clues.
2006-07-19 09:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. You weren't perfect at it the first couple of days. Good Luck.
2006-07-19 10:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by littlebopeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋