how do i forgive and forget?

Question

i found out my boyfriend was talking to another girl....a lot.....but he says they were just friends (even though he KNEW she liked him) and that he's known her since before he met me. i found pics of them together (while we were together) nothing nasty, just pics of them being very friendly towards each other. he says he only saw her a few times. i know he's not the type to sleep around but i can't help making up stories in my head about what went down between them. He swears up and down that he never did anything with her that they were just friends and i've never seen a man cry like that- but i still can't help thinking about it and feeling sick whenever i get a mental pic of him and her!!!! what do i do!!! We've been together 1 year and I love him to death and i know we were meant to be- i just want to get over this and move on and be happy but i don't know how!!!! HELP!!!!!!

Answer 1

I had the same problem with my HUSBAND. Not fun, at all. I am still working on trying to forgive...forget? Never. I suggest that you leave him...you have only invested 1 yr....I have invested 12.
You have to do whatever makes you happy, ultimately. If you think you can work it out, then go ahead. Otherwise, hit the road, baby. There are plenty of fish in the sea! Good luck.

Answer 2

You can forgive but you'll never forget. If you can not stop thinking about it then you must sever the relationship because the two of you will never be able to move on if you keep letting this issue come between the two of you. Also hon, there is no such type as a type that wouldnt sleep around. I'm not saying he did because I dont know that...I'm saying don't be naive.

Answer 3

20 tips.
1) increase understanding between u and ur bf.
2) look for bright side always instead of jelousy
3) talk to that girl
4) talk to ur boy friend
5) dont mess ur head !! (most important)
6) believe on urself
7) set goals for ur life
8) if u r religious then go to church or temple .. whatever
9) Try to find happiness from small small things
10) most important is dont expect break up with ur bf.. because what u think, it happens.. Thoughts are things
11)build trust rappot between u and ur bf.
12)spend some time with each other
14)try to please him
15)do not make judgements
16)Love him from the bottom of ur heart. He should feel that.
17)meet his friends
18)do meditations
19)do yoga,exercises (for peace of mind and for body) keep body in good shape
20)don't ask ur boyfrnd this typical question many times.."Do you love me?" he would get frustrated by this.

Answer 4

many women have a bad habit of immediately assuming that when a guy is friendly towards another girl, something is going on. it is not impossible for 2 people of the opposite sex to be friends, friends w/o anything sexual. if you haven't found concrete proof of anything sexual going on you should stop being so insecure. you're only going to ruin your relationship or at the least put a lot of strain on it. if he's never given you any reason to distrust him then take his word for it and let it go. what does your instinct tell you? if you follow your instinct and make sure it's your instinct, not your jealousy or insecurity, you can't go wrong.

Answer 5

Well I'll tell you my sob story, my ex of two adn a half years that lived wth me failed to mention his three year old daughter in Mexico. Therefore that is why he is my ex and me finding that out caused me not only to get mentally crushed but physically ill, I got severe migraines for a while. I had to go to a nuerologist and get a mri scan, but thank god I'm alright. Don't waste your time on that fool, he's already getting you mentally instable imagine what he'll do later on, get you pregnant/mentally unfit/or worse, physically ill like me. Forgt that you deserve better, I assure you. God Bless and have a wonderful day...

Answer 6

You're going to have to decide if you believe him or not. If you trust him and you have no evidence of infidelity, you're going to have to let go and embrace his side of the story. Insecurity issues suck, but if you are going to move forward with him, you have to believe in the two of you and you have to trust him.

Having said that, every time you have an image of the two of them together, immediate think of a wonderful, loving image of the two of you. You might have to sit and make a "catalog" of these in your head to choose from at first, but it will help clear that line of thinking. Cuz what your head is saying is "He loves her" or "I'm not good enough for him" (or something along those lines) when what you want it to say is "we are a good couple" or "he loves me very much."

If you haven't already, you need to be completely honest with him about what's going through your head, how you're feeling, and what you are scared of. You two need to talk about issues of opposite sex friends and boundaries and whatnot and get comfortable in being a couple as well as two individuals.

Answer 7

Been there, done that, married the bastard, warned him about a friend of his that is "friendly", he cheated. You should move on. I should have listened to my instincts. Follow your instincts and find someone better, someone who wants to be your friend, and lover, and who wont give his time to other trampy women. They are both just stroking eachothers ego's for now, increasing their sexual tension. MOVE ON!!!!

Answer 8

my sister went out with a guy for a little over a year.....she new this girl Hillary was talking to him....she thought friendly talking....like u.....but then she found out he was cheating on her 4 almost that whole year that they were going out......just talk to ur man...........

Answer 9

I think you are over reacting...just forget the girl and try to concentrate on how loving he is towards you....