will you learn to fight your own battles...or will you grow to depend on your big brother to protect you when the local bully steals your lunch or throws snowballs at you?
if you CAN protect yourself, isn't it nice to know big brother is still around to watch out for you, just in case you slip up and need a hand?
scut farkas and hezbollah, together for the first time. everyone is watching... what WILL you do?
2006-07-19 02:20:39 · 8 answers · asked by patzky99 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
From experience, I know that my brother does stand up for me and fight for me if there is a problem. But then again, I also know that if he was never there...I would be capable of doing it on my own. He is even better at giving me advice, though. He doesn't like fighting unless it is absolutely necessary (which is about never). Big brothers are there to catch you if you can't do something on your own, but they shouldn't be someone that you depend on.
2006-07-19 04:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by dancerforlife! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with so many issues, and you really need counseling. It will help you recover from the rape, deal with the resulting PTSD, cope with GAD without needing a prescription medication and give you techniques for conquering the panic attacks. If you do need help in the short term, don't hesitate asking your doctor for an anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication. Now for your dad: He probably views himself as the leader of the family and his family is in a crisis mode right now. You didn't say if it was his mother or your mom's mother who died. If if was your dad's mother, he is: 1. Coping with the loss of his own mother 2. Coping with the deteriorating health of his own father 3. Trying to plan on how to help his own father in the future as he gets older and needs more care. 4. Is trying to assess what will be best to do for your care. 5. Coping with rage over the rape and now release of the rapist. 6. Common everyday parenting issues with you and your brother Your dad has a lot on his plate! Try to understand where he is coming from. It is totally understandable that he wants to hide you in clothes that are non-revealing after what has happened to you already. It's also understandable that he worries about you being hurt again by another man or boy, so he is hyper vigilant. Naturally, you want to wear fashionable clothes. So the two of you need to learn to communicate better and compromise. This is going to be difficult for your family. You really need counseling. Maybe even a few sessions when the whole family could participate would be good. Then you could learn how to communicate more effectively without yelling, setting up barriers, and threats. Good luck, dear.
2016-03-26 23:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an older brother, I am 2 and a half years younger, but he never helped me in any battle, and now I fight besides him.
So look after yourself, exprience helps a lot.
2006-07-19 02:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by anti_money 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it basically depends on the concerned person, if the person thinks that he can stand up for himself then he or she will fight their own battles but nevertheless that person would always come to the big bro for advices, or if the person is a sissy he or she would always come to big bro crying out loud
2006-07-19 02:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by paladin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you will! As long as you know how to break a fall! ♥lol♥
2006-07-19 02:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by §♥Mckinze♥§ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CANHOLD YOUR OWN
2006-07-19 02:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Penney S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-07-19 02:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by njnets159 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
2006-07-19 04:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by !i!i!i!FaRnAzA!i!i!i!i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋